What past events or experiences are among the best in your life?

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I was going to ask about what was "the best" but decided that learning about a few different ones at the top of a list could be more interesting than someone trying to decide what memory is Numero Uno.

So instead, describe some past events or experiences that are among the most important, meaningful, fun, impactful, or whatever, that you've had.

I have a few, among which a ranking would be difficult. A number of others could be listed too but no need to make it unduly long. No details are needed, I suspect most will be self-explanatory.

-Maybe the best, but I said no ranking was needed, was the experience of being an engaged father, contributing to raising my children through the years and seeing the end result- happy, responsible, fun-loving and engaged adults who were all able to achieve the goals they set for themself (with our support and guidance only to use that technique for making their own choices). All are now enjoying the fruits of years of hard work while also making time to contribute positively to their communities in ways they choose. And raising their own children in some ways that my wife and I find quite familiar- that's a big, unexpected emotional payoff.

-Being in the operating room for the delivery of my first child. I did the same with all the others (all were C-Sections) but the first was The First.

-the day I got out of the Army. The end of a too long and too annoying period that was a waste of time.

-the day I was promoted to partner in my firm.

Many other things could be mentioned that were important to me but these are enough. I've been fortunate but not lucky, other than in a Thomas Jefferson sense. Yeah, I know, that quote's attribution isn't agreed upon but I think most know it.

How about you?

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littlebug Zone 5 Missouri

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The first that comes to mind: earning my bachelor’s degree at age 34. Hubby and I were both working full-time, we had two sons, and I took classes at night. It was a team effort. I well remember lying in bed at night with hubby asking me quiz questions when I had exams the next day. In my cap and gown picture, I was holding our 6 month old son and our 4 year old son was clinging to my leg. And I was crying happy tears.

That degree made all the difference in my career.

Another: one of our grandsons tested positive for Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA) at birth. Anyone see that piece on 60 Minutes last night? Through much trial and stress, our son and wife were able to get him that gene fusion (Zolgensma) discussed on the show. The lady and her handicapped daughter interviewed on tv are well-known to our son and his wife. Our grandson is 5 years old now and remains symptom free. PTL

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roxsolid
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Great parents.

Great husband and kids.

Growing up Canadian. Living in Canada.
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Kendrah
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We had an evening engagement party when we lived in a lovely Chicago apartment. All day long my mom and I baked incredible cakes. My dad and husband moved furniture and set up tables in the back yard. Before guests arrived, around 4 pm, my parents sacked out on the sofas. My husband and I took a nap on our bed with our dog. I remember closing my eyes and thinking, this is one of the best, most love filled, relaxing, and comforting moments of my life.
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