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Comments (9)Last night Steve made moose meatloaf for dinner and tried to serve it to me practically raw, because the recipe said it would be done by thenand if thatÂs what the recipe says, it is not for us to dispute. My first impulse was to be annoyed, but then I rejoiced, because as of Friday, such a thing will no longer be possible. Oh sure, weÂll still eat moose meatloaf (and like it), but on Friday weÂre getting a new oven range that features an integral meat thermometer, so internal temps are indisputably displayed and I donÂt have to deal with his over-reliance on written instructions when cooking. (Theoretically.) When we moved in nearly four years ago, Steve and I agreed that the range would be replaced as soon as practical. There's nothing wrong with it, per se: Plenty of people like glass-topped electric stoves, and I've managed to work around the oven's consistent imprecision. There's probably some kind of recalibration dial I could adjust... but solving this would only force me to keep it longer... So when Steve was surprised with a generous performance bonus, we decided to put most in our retirement savings but to splurge on a new range. Giddy at the prospect, I called my neighbor to discuss where to donate our old appliance. She knows the contempt I have for it so we danced a happy jig together and she asked what our timetable looked like. "Well, a normal couple would have one in a week or so, but I'm married to Steve so he'll have to research everything on line, examine the inventory of every appliance-selling establishment in a 50 mile radius while nearly disassembling each in the showroom, read product reviews, think about it, and then re-visit every store to find the best price. *sigh* Might take months..." "Whereas if you had your way, you'd just make it yourself!" she retorted, knowingly. (Touché.) To my astonishment, we found it in only five shopping trips supplemented by on line research. Our new oven(s)/stove gets installed on Friday! It has bells and whistles, but mostly I look forward to cooking with gas (on top) again. I think IÂm going to break it in by cooking duck. ThatÂll mess it up in a hurry and make it match everything else around here....See MoreI think I've reached my limit-a rant (LONG)
Comments (26)I love you guys!! Thank you so much for the sage advice and the virtual shoulders to lean on. Today I called my son and told him I was coming over to help him deep clean his house. I guess I left my cell phone at home, cuz DH had to text DS to get in touch with me. How liberating that was!! I worked really hard at DS's house, but he worked along side me and was wonderful company, so even tho I'm sore and tired, it was a good day. DS was VERY appreciative of me being there to help him and I liked doing it for him. I'm going to try to talk to DH tonight. He has a tendency to avoid conflict, and while I don't want conflict, I DO need him to hear me. DH has been self employed for years, just recently his business (more like a hobby income the last year or so) has just about come to a standstill. The things he makes are not a necessity item, so he's not bringing in the $$ like before. We can basically only count on my income...which is plenty for us to live comfortably on, but not where we can still live like we do and support another person. DH's income was for the fun stuff and extras for the most part. Rose...your DH sounds so much like mine. When my SS lived with us, it was horrible, too. He was much like yours and when he finally left our house for good, it was like a weight off my shoulders. But he almost tore us apart. My DH has always had a tendency to put his family ahead of me. For the most part, I dealt with it, but they've intruded into our life for the past couple years to the point where I can't take it any more. We've got an empty nest, and I want to enjoy it. We were both parents when we met, so we never had time alone together until the kids were grown. We were starting to have fun together when MIL became a pretty much every day fixture in our lives. She started backing off after I complained to DH, and it was ok, but now BIL is here. I'm just not sure of his situation. MIL said that his wife told her she does not want to reconcile. She wants to be friends with him, she loves him but is not in love...blahblah. He's holding on to the idea that they're going to reconcile. He goes over to her place at least once a week and stays there, but apparently stays on the sofa, and the other day he said he had to sleep on the floor because grandkids or something were there. Yesterday he told me he has an interview at a gym, I asked him about it and it's a fly-by-night outfit (he's a certified personal trainer) and he's been talking alot about how unhappy he is at his job (he works in retail and has a decent job w/bennies). This is his history, he's never worked at a job longer than 2 years, and he's just about past that time now, so he's ready to move on. DH said BIL is broke all the time, likely because he's giving his wife the $$, and that is again typical of him. So I'm not sure how the money thing will work. But frankly, it's not my problem!! The holiday thing...when my Dad was alive, he and my DH did not get along. My DH made every excuse in the book not to spend holidays at my parents, so to avoid the fight with him, and the tension if they were all together, I'd take the kids to my folks and he'd stay with his kid. It made me angry, but I chose the lesser of 2 evils. Later, we noticed a trend, DH would get pouty and start picking fights shortly before holidays. I finally figured it out, that he didn't want to spend time with my family and holidays always included them. His family was not nearby and when they were, they wouldn't come...they didn't want to celebrate. So once I figured out his M.O., I realized it wasn't ME, it was him...and I wouldn't let him get his way. He would pitch a fit and try to get out of events, but I'd make him participate. And what do you know, he always enjoyed himself! But I also learned that he;d bug out early, so I got used to it. He's very shy and not comfortable around people he's not really used to. I'm the opposite, I am gregarious and love to socialize. Well, this year, our DD who was married last year said she would like to host Thanksgiving at her house and have her in-laws and her family together. I am thrilled and am excited to do this with her, but as soon as DH found out (he read the email from DD) he said he was spending T'giving with his Mom. He is extremely uncomfortable about DD's in-laws, he only met them the first time at the rehearsal dinner, and barely spoke with them during the wedding weekend. So he's going to try everything he can to try to get out of going. I'm not going to say a word to him about it...I thought about trying to cajole him, but I'm going to let it be up to my kids to make him understand how disappointed they'll be if he doesn't spend time with them because he's shy and being a baby. But now, with BIL here, or at least in the proximity, he'll find every excuse, and likely his mother will want her boys over to her house. Anyway, it's just drama that I do not want to contend with, and honestly, I thought it was all over with...that DH had moved on, because every year I host a big Christmas party with lots of people and he enjoys it. It's almost like he's taken 3 giant steps back now that his brother is here every day. So the more I think about it, the more I think I need to get DH alone...sit him down and lay it out. I've already made up my mind that I WILL leave him if his mother ever has to come live with us!...See MoreI Locked My Husband Out of The House and Other Stuff
Comments (16)Okay Marilyn, this is the 'possum story. On New Year's morning, about 1 am, we woke up cold. My husband got up to see why, and the back door had blown open (in Texas even locked doors can blow open with our gentle breezes). He shut it and was heading back to bed when he glimpsed movement toward the study. Thinking it was the cat, he kept going to the bed, where our cat was sleeping on the quilt (a watchcat, she isn't). He checked, and there was a full grown possum wandering around the study (looking for something to read?). He started shooing the possum back to the door (shut) and trying to get the door open and the possum convinced to leave. He finally set up a slalom course with chairs to guide the possum out. When he came back to bed, I asked him what happened and he told me. Half asleep, I replied, "Well, thank heavens it wasn't a skunk." He couldn't get back to sleep for quite a while. Your husband would love Texas!...See MoreMoving boxes , I've sold my home where is the best place to buy!!
Comments (21)Thanks to all for the info. Did try Craigslist had a little luck ,but could not find enough for my move. Special thanks to (linsey79) since I do live in the Atlanta area I tried the Georgia Green box. Great service they had plenty of used moving boxes ,all for a buck or so and they delivered the next day for free. I am a fan and will recommend them to all in the Atlanta area. Again thanks to all who took the time to answer Here is a link that might be useful: green moving boxes...See More- 3 years ago
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