Oh man, that's hard. Yes, you need one good arm. However it sounds like "good" is now a relative term!!

I feel your pain. I tore my rotator cuff last year and it took for-freaking-ever to heal. I think I'm 9 months in and pain is no longer the problem, it's now more about lack of function and strength. I can't imagine having BOTH shoulders out of commission at the same time, so trust me, you have my sympathies!!

Oh boy, that’s a lot. I hope all works out fine.

Ded, why does this stuff all have to happen at once? I hope for the best, let us know. In the meantime, perhaps this evening you could do something extra nice for yourself, a nice dinner and maybe some chocolate.

So sorry you are going through this.

I'm joining in with my sympathy for you... you have earned it for sure. I am so sorry

you have all this to deal with...saying a coping prayer for you, and sending a hug

just because....hang in there...

Wow - that's a double whammy. I am so sorry for you. Is your right arm your dominant arm? I had a complete tear of my rotator cuff on the right side and had surgery/therapy about 4 years ago. I am right handed, and wasn't able to do much with my right arm before the surgery and it was a very long recovery. I saw your post about the reclining chair you found which should help you a lot. Keep us posted and best wishes to you.

Thanks everyone. It really does help to have sympathetic ears.Now i have one more complication! Imordered a recliner to rest in after surgery and of course they want to deliver it at the same time as my doctors appointment tomorrow. Hopefully I will be home in time to get it.. I called them and they said I am in the middle of the list for deliveries , so there is a reasonably good chance that i will be back in time.

Honestly, the top of my head is ready to blow off! Oh well, it will all work out somehow.

So sorry for ALL this piling up on you! Plus the pain and frustration, too. Is there a friend or neighbor who would wait at your house for the delivery of the chair? I know we sometimes hate to ask, but people LOVE to help, if only we let them.

So sorry this has happened to you.

Sorry you are having to deal with all of these things at once! Prayers that things will be better soon!

Hope all goes as well as it can and that you are home for your chair delivery.

Ded, I'm adding another coping prayer. And wanted to add, please ask someone to cover the chair delivery at least. When I was planning hip surgery, I somehow turned into a control freak to the degree I didn't know possible. I had everything planned from books to read, meals frozen, comfortable clothing purchased, house was cleaned to gleaming etc, etc.

In hindsight, I realized it would have been a lot more generous to let friends and family do some things. By declining all offers, I was shutting them out when they really did want to be helpful.

And I'm so sorry about your shoulders! What timing. I hope the right shoulder turns out to be a minor blip and doesn't alter your plans.

Oh dear - what a mess, vent away! No wonder you're ready to explode. I wish I lived nearby and I'd bring you home made soup, wait for the chair and give you a sympathetic hug. I'm hoping it all comes together for you.

Yes, I think I will ask my son or a friend to ” chair sit”. You are right ( of course). i know my friend would be happy to help.

I shall be thinking good thoughts for you and saying a prayer (or two) for all to turn out ok.

So sorry about all the troubles.! My DH has torn rotator cuffs etc and it is life altering pain wise. So glad you are getting things done for your other arm. I hope it is something simple for your right arm which doesn't interfere with your surgery.

I was about to say the same and am so glad to hear that you have friend / son to ask for the chair sitting. Big hugs, of course the non painful kind, to you. Sending you good thoughts.

I'm sorry. Big hugs.

How miserable. It does seem everything comes at once. I do think that you have retained a bit of your sense of humor (or maybe it is just my warped view) with your comment on the scheduled meeting with a funeral director. You slipped that in so seemlessly that I did grin. Please forgive me.

Hope the right shoulder is nothing serious. Wishing you the best with your surgery. Please note that I am always willing to drive back home if you need someone and no one else from up there can help. One bright note, you will have a lovely recliner to relax in to watch our Eagles in the Super Bowl. Fly, Eagles, fly (sorry folks, couldn't resist, it's a Philly thing-ha).

Thanks again, everyone. Just going through a rough time. This too shall pass. I hope.

Cyn, go Eagles!

Ouch that's terrible timing, isn't it. Hopefully that's just a weird twist or something that sorts itself out quickly. Good luck!

I hope it all sorts itself out well for you, Ugh,

Check back...let us know your ok....will be thinking of you...

Oh man, so sorry to hear all this. Of course it happens all at once! But you can still only do one thing at a time. Do ask for help and let others help you. You have more resources available to you than you know.

Sometimes these things happen and it turns out to be for the better, even though at the time it really stinks. Sending you patience, strength, courage, wisdom and healing.

Sorry to add to your problems but unless the surgeon wants to cancel be certain to ask about aftercare especially with the new pain. Hopefully I am having my shoulder replaced sometime this summer. When I asked, I was told after the traditional three days in the hospital because I live alone I would probably be sent to a rehab center. You have probably already discussed this with your surgeon. I do not remember if you live alone or with access to someone who can come stay with you for the first week like several of my friends had to do.

Oh you guys are the best. Funny how I always run here when I have something on my mind I need to talk to somebody, and you always respond. Actually it might be for the best if the surgery that was planned for Thursday is postponed because it will give me more time to do some preparation including hiring someone to come and help me for awhile which I realize now I really need. So thanks everybody for listening and I will keep you posted.

Ded, that is so much! Of course you're a bit unsettled by it all. Thinking of you and wishing you the best.

oh man Ded, I am so sorry. (and that delivery is for that awesome chair- right?).

It WILL all work out but I can totally understand as it sure sounds like a lot to deal with.

We'll all be pulling for you.

go iggles.

Deep breaths, take one thing at a time and you will get through it. Best wishes for a good outcome no matter how it gets scheduled.

Oh man, when it rains it pours, doesn't it? I hope things are sorted in short order. Do you have wine? LOL

Salonva, the chair is another whole story!

oh no... anyway it looks like you can receive messages and I sent you one.

Hey, Ded. That is one mess of stuff on your plate.

So, s you said a little bit ago, that is good that the surgery got move up. You need to have time to manage unforssen events. You have a loy of patience and reserve, so give yourself credit.

I’m g;ad that you’reasking for help and people have responded.

My thoughts are with youand I wish you calm and comfort. What a week!

Keep us posted and do what you need to do for you, on your schedule.

See? By venting, you got to think this through, and now realize you need HELP after your surgery. Ta-da! The KT does it again.

I'm sorry that you even NEED the surgery, and the recliner, and help! But, such is life in an aging body. At least there is something to DO about the problem.

Hi ded ... tired several times, over all of these pile-ons, no doubt! (Would one call that "re-tired"?)

Having had to cope with pain on only minor occasions during these many years, I sure don't like it, so commiserate with you during these travails you're dealing with.

I've found that many friends are willing to help during stressful times, and sometimes one receives support from unexpected folks.

Good wishes for getting through all of this as easily as possible, and now sending some hugs and offering prayers on your behalf.

ole joyful

Isn't that always the case? When it rains it pours. Hope all goes well from now on and Fly EAGLES, FLY!!

Can’t tell you how much all these comments and well wishes mean to me. XOXOXO to you all.

ded, I am so sorry to hear of this newest bump in the road. Having had a severe rotator cuff repair in the past, I would like to remind you to tell your doctors and nurses that you live alone. They might consider a few days in a recovery center to enable you to gain some strength and mobility before sending you home.

( ded ) my left arm was broken & shattered last July. I finally am done with occupational therapy but still am wearing various braces. I wish you a speedy and sucessful recovery for your shoulderr. The new toilet? Why not redecorate at this time--grrrr.

Better days are coming. Be careful-it’s sounds like you are doing too much trying to get all ducks in a row. At least all the bad things happened at once. It sounds like the chair is figured out. They usually call when they are on the way , so if someone lives close, they can just pop over there. Hopefully the DR can still go ahead with the surgery and just get it over with. I can’t imagine a shoulder and arm out of commission, two is really a problem. I don’t like to sit still but sometimes you have to. Order a bunch of groceries including easy frozen meals and give yourself a break. We are rooting for you!

I don't know why difficult things come in bunches, but they do. It's hard not to feel overwhelmed. I wonder if unexpectedly good things ever pile up together like that. It would be nice . . .

Sending good wishes to you, Ded!

Thinking of you, hoping the obstacles ease up a bit today! :-)

So happy things are straightening out.

happy for you that today is a much better day!!! great that the right shoulder is ok!!

FlyEaglesFly E - A - G - L - E - S EAGLES !!!!!!

Neither one of my surgeons will do surgery for three months after their patient having a cortisone shot. That includes the one that gave me the shot. The one I went to after not being told that information until I called to schedule the surgery does not like doing surgery for seven months after a shot unless absolutely necessary.

Well you do sound so relieved to have things a bit more under control with rescheduling.

I sometimes think it's like a dress rehearsal for the big event and this really allows you to see what makes sense to arrange ahead of time. This way, you will feel so much better prepared.

(and I saw in the other smiles thread about your son breaking his ankle.... oh boy. talk about "stuff" happens). <3 It will only get better from here.

Salonva, son is doing okay except for boredom, and he is a very active person.

Malfleur, shot was in the opposite shoulder,so I think that okay. At this point he can do whatever he wants.

I’m happy to read your surgery has been postponed. Usually I am one to want to get these things over with, but you have had a lot going on. Hope you can relax now and prep for your surgery.

What type shoulder surgery are you having? Maybe I missed that somewhere. I was planning to tell you that my DH had shoulder replacement almost 4 years ago. He has done really great and has full use of his shoulder. He did all his exercises and kept up some of them after his release from PT for mobility.

Outside, rotator cuff repair. Glad DH is doing well.