Difficult Radon situation - advice needed
Elizabeth
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A very delicate situation. I need opinions
Comments (42)No I don't understand your comment ...and I don't understand your point....I think the same situation applies no matter where you are from and I found your comment disrespectful to the many many southern girls ( and men) on this board. I have lived in many different sections of this country and never found any of the local ethnic or regional that were offensive.... I came back to apologize for my statement because I was just being snarky at your comment and actually have learned to appreciate all the different "regional and ethnic" differences in this country and certainly wouldn't call them mangled and unintelligible....See MoreDifficult ex-wife- a different situation
Comments (11)I agree with what Cat said. I've been with my DH for 5.5 years, and we got married this past September. He has a 6 year old son, I have a 6 year old daughter. My DH's ex sounds very similar to your DH's ex. I can tell you it really is an up and down battle, a roller coaster ride, and I think the best you can do is protect yourself emotionally and set clear boundaries. I went through the years where I wasn't "allowed" to go to birthday parties or soccer games or Christmas programs and it was awful. Then DH started standing up for me and insisting that I be present, but BM (bio-mom) would do the same things you are describing. At one YMCA Christmas program when my SS was 3 years old, his mom told me and DH (thank GOD the kids were out of ear shot) that if I so much as LOOKED at her, she was going to "claw my eyes out." I really think she would have. Things have been constantly up and down. She would start being nicer to me and I would think we turned the corner, but then for no apparent reason she would flip out again and the drama would start all over. I finally, finally had to end all communication with her. I sadly have not attended any of SS's soccer games this fall because I refuse to put myself in a situation where I will be verbally abused or berated or insulted. As of right now, we do things with SS when he is with us (karate) and BM doesn't attend---so he hasn't noticed so much that I am "absent" from soccer because BM isn't at karate when he's with us. It is sad that my relationship with him is "limited" due to BM's personality, but--like I said--there are things I just won't tolerate. I can take the nasty looks or silent treatment, but no one will be verbally abusive and rude to me. It sounds like your BF is supportive and that's good. One thing to really be wary of is a man that just wants to "keep the peace." My husband ws like that for a long time (as in allowing BM to forbid me from attending events) and I finally had to say either stick up for US or I'm out... It certainly won't be an easy road, but I think you can do it. In some ways, it helps that the kids are older and more able to see the situation clearly, although I do think they will always "protect" their mom. That's natural. My SS was not even 2 when I started dating his dad, and his mom TRASHED me to him from the get-go. So he and I had a very rough road. It was really sad because you could (and still can) see the guilt/torment on his face, wanting to like/love me, but feeling like he was being disloyal to his mom by doing so. His mom still tells him, to this day, that he doesn't have to listen to me because I'm not his mom, and other such things...SIGH. Luckily, he is very intuitive and has matured a lot over the last few months and is becoming more certain about the fact that he does love me. He recently told his mom (while I was out of town) that he loved me and missed me and didn't care if that made her mad--WOW! She guilitiy reported this to my DH and the counselor. I tihnk the more you can do to not let BM get to you, the better. Some counseling for you and your boyfriend, if he's willing, is not a bad idea....just to figure out how to navigate these waters!...See MoreRadiation and Radon in Granite - Letter I sent to State
Comments (101)Mindstorm, I want to thank you for your extremely informative and important post -- and the time I know it took to hammer it together. I am completely uninvolved, since I don't like granite for aesthetic reasons and have none in my home, but I really appreciate hearing someone inject a little actual empirical knowledge into this discussion. Your explanation of the "bowl test" was particularly helpful, namely that it's actually a cumulative measure over the time collected, and not a reflection of the emissions at any given snapshot in time. I understand that folks are suspicious of the EPA, but honestly, if the California EPA, one of the most kneejerk institutions around, says that granite countertops do not emit enough to be of concern, I'd go with that. Nobody is "desperately trying to shut up" Debs3. Folks are just telling her that if (despite any empiric evidence) she feels her granite countertops are a danger to her, she should absolutely remove them and select a different countertop material instead. Either that, or simply install a radon amelioration mechanism, which would be the solution in any case! It's not terribly expensive. How difficult is that to achieve peace of mind?...See MorePrepping a difficult room for new paint - need advice
Comments (16)Wow, that 1-2-3 primer is great stuff and usually my first rec. You can generally apply over latex or oil without any sanding. Did anyone apply a wax or polish over the paint that might be what is causing the beading. I would try washing down an area and then applying some of the primer. You can also try a light sanding, but it sounds like there is something other than the semigloss at work here. You can also use KILZ or another laquer based primer (the water based would be like the 1-2-3 primer). I use that in special circumstances, but the fumes can be bad in a closed area and the clean up is a pain. I wouldn't want to turn volunteers loose with it. Even the 1-2-3 sticks so well that if you don't clean up quickly, it may not come off where you don't intend for it to stick (in your situation, perhaps drips on floor or furniture -- even your hands)....See MoreGN Builders L.L.C
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