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De-Cluttering Home and Bank Box: Jewelry, Silverware, Scrap
Comments (57)My paternal grandmothers china was foisted on me. Its sitting in a closet in a spare bedroom,where it will remain, I hate to say it, until my father passes and I can toss it without guilt. I dont hate it,its boring. But I will never use it. I have relinquished any claim to the china,crystal or silver that my parents have and never use anymore. Our family has grown too large to have a sit down dinner with everyone anyway. My sisters want the china and silver and all that, for sentimental purposes. I only want the tacky ceramic bowl with giant blue daisies on it. But to each their own. I will say that in the past 5 years or so I have had maybe a dozen acquaintances who have gotten married. I think only one registry had china. Only one had silver. The rest just had everyday flatware and plates and drinkware and stuff. And in those cases,I dont think it was a money thing,because also on those registries were other very expensive items. More expensive than the China or silver on the other ones. I never wanted china or silver of my own. It never even occurred to me. I only want Christmas dishes and flatware. I have the dishes, (not china) and I am searching for the flatware. Maybe less people are buying such things because they are being handed them down from parents or grandparents. I have some tablecloths and cloth napkins from my maternal grandmother. I will also never use those. My mom brought them to me because they are pink. She knows I will not use them,but thought i would appreciate them, if only for the color. And I do! And not only because my grandma HATED pink and it makes me giggle to think that she bought them because pink was the "feminine" thing to have. She had good taste though, something I will never claim to have. :)...See Moredeclutter hoarder apartment
Comments (11)Are you the occupant hoarder or are you decluttering someone else’s apartment? if you are attempting to clutter your own home, it is not as simple generally for most people to just haul out everything. But if it is someone who has died and you are clearing it out, by all means just get rid of everything after making sure you aren’t tossing anything valuable. My parents weren’t squalid hoarders but saved everything. I had the luxury of time and so I was able to go through everything in their retirement condo slowly and then hired someone to hold an estate sale for what I didn’t want and they got rid of everything that didn’t sold. I assume you are not literally a hoarder in the sense of holding on to rotten food and junk mail as depicted in the television series but you are the kind of person who finds it easier to keep stuff and having lived a long period of time you have never had to purge when you move So now you are faced with the accumulation of stuff you have bright home after the past two decades I recently went through the process when I remodeled after living in the same place for many years and it was crammed because it was easier for me to accumulate things rather than let go. I had to do it in stages by getting rid of the most obvious crap when I packed up and then going through it again when I unpacked. I did it slowly in stages with the help of people and it really helped me to have other people make decisions as I gave away stuff. it is a work in progress. Although I still have too much crap that I don’t need it is stored away and isn’t negatively impacting my life. I still find myself releasing stuff that I realize I don’t want or need. I had my maid to help with the physical stuff and a very organized person who helped me work through how to best organize. There are books that that can help you start the process. I am nit particularly a fan of Kondo because she’s a bit extreme in terms of tackling everything at once. There is a book called Swedish Death Decluttering which is helpful in terms of realizing that no one wants your crap and burdening someone else with dealing with the crap when you die is selfish. Its helpful to just start small. Pick a shelf or a box or a drawer and just go through it. Throw out anything that has no use in your life or anyone else’s and donate the rest. It’s exhaisting both physically and e,optionally so just start in small chunks. Once you have cleared out a bit, it does get easier when you realize you don’t miss the crap and that it’s actually an improvement in one‘s life not to deal with it. I got rid of all my books because I realized that anything I wanted was accessible in an instant by downloading. I own no tapes or cds and I used to have literally thousands of tales, cds and albums....See Morede-cluttering and organizing advice
Comments (3)If you live with parents or they're supporting you, your options are limited. The goal is to make your room more pleasant and avoid confrontation with your parents. Until you're on you own, parents always win, so save yourself the aggravation and pain. You've said some things that lead me to think that you may be in a difficult position regarding objects. Your parents don't want you to get rid of things. Your mother doesn't have a problem with using your room for items that she doesn't use but wants to keep. She gets angry when you try to discuss it. Start with your own objects, not your mother's. Box up the items of yours that you don't want and put them in the back of your closet or on the top shelf if they aren't heavy. Be sure to label the boxes. If anyone notices that your room is less cluttered and is worried that you've disposed of things, labels will allow you to calm the ruffled feathers. "Yes, the doll is in this box, the bracelets are here," etc. I prefer a bookcase for books, but if you don't have a lot of books you could put them in a couple of cubes under your table. See how that goes before touching your mother's things. Best case scenario is that your mother sees the progress you made and it open to letting you consolidate her items. Worst case scenario is that she's a full blown hoarder and sees space in your room for more of her stuff. If she has hoarding tendencies, you need to understand that it isn't something you can fix. Neither a logical nor an emotional argument works. It's an illness. Even people who aren't hoarders can have trouble letting go of stuff. With luck you can use Fori's idea of vacuum bags under the bed for your mother's stuff. Best of luck....See MoreDecluttering, downsizing, still stressing
Comments (24)I just had this discussion yesterday with my grandaughter. i told her not to get rid of the Kenmore which I had purchased in 1971, if (or more likely, when) I'm gone My other machines, the Husqvarna Viking Epic and Designer Diamond, along with my 2 Featherweights (one black one white) are great machines, but if I have a tough to sew project needing heavy needle penetration, the Kenmore is my go to. In addition, I have two ancient sergers, my Bernina 2000DE which I love, and the Elna 927, which I dislike intensely. She has used my Epic to both sew and embroider, but if that's not where her future interests lie, then definitely keep the Kenmore and unload the rest....See Morenorar_il
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