My family needs your good thoughts this week please.

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My brother, who just turned 70 a few days ago, will have surgery Wednesday to remove a malignant Parotid mass. So you wont have to Google it, this is a cancer of the salivary gland. He has had a biopsy a couple of weeks ago at the local Cancer Institute, has seen an ENT, and the tumor grew some in a matter of a week. Another PET scan was done today to ensure the surgery could proceed. These usually are not malignant, so he, and of course his wife and all of us are worried.

Of the 3 of us siblings, he is the one who seems to be the least healthy, having high blood pressure, had a slight heart issue come up a couple of years ago, and a few other things. Our mother died of cancer just shy of her 70th birthday so I know this is on his mind. And the surgery and followup radiation and possible chemo could be ugly.

I’d appreciate your good vibes and thoughts and prayers this week for good news and healing. If any of you have had any experience with this, would appreciate hearing from you. Our only experience was about 20 years ago when our church minister had a similar surgery. He survived but had some side effects from the radiation.

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My cousin had this surgery not too long ago and it was the first time I'd ever heard of such a thing. Her surgery went as well as it could have with none of the scarier things they prepared her for. Biggest issue so far has been mouth sores from the radiation and dropping a lot of weight -- to the point that she was nearly admitted to the hospital. They were hoping they could find some things she could/would eat -- and that was when I sent Blue Bell ice cream. LOL It was one of the few things she could eat -- but she was eating and motivated to stay out of the hospital. Be prepared for that -- lots of ideas for soft and cool things that won't hurt as bad to eat. I definitely send good thoughts your way.

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nicole___
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Oh my....this sounds serious...especially with the family history. I'm thinking only good thoughts, sending positive energy...please come back with an update of good news for us....as to the outcome.
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Sending positive thoughts to you and your family. The strength of this GW group can help carry you through. c
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dedtired
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Thinking of your brother, and you. So stressful.
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Thinking of your family OP. Prayers for a successful surgery & treatment!
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Prayers for your brother!
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What a worry for you all. Peaceful and positive thoughts for a successful surgery and recovery.
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Sending good vibes and positive thoughts your way!
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Sending positive energy and prayers for a good outcome for your brother.
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So sorry to hear this. I will been sending positive vibes his way.
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I know it’s a scary time for your brother and those that love him. Sending positive energy and peace to you and your family.
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Prayers. Hope your brother comes through everything well with no complications.
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Oh how scary. I hope he pulls through ok!
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Sending positive vibes to your brother.
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martinca_gw sunset zone 24
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I sent you a message.
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OutsidePlaying
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Thanks for the PM, martinca. Sent a reply.

I so appreciate all your responses and feel the love today. i’ll keep you posted.
Irish2
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Prayers for your dear brother and all his loved ones 🙏🏻
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jill302
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Prayers and healing thoughts for your brother and family.
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cyn427 (z. 7, N. VA)
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My grandfather died at 70. When my dad was about to turn 70, it was very difficult for him, I think. He lived to be 90. I hope that for your brother as well. It may not be easy, but I hope it all turns out well and you have many many years together!
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Sending healing thoughts for him.
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Outside, I am praying for your brother for healing treatment and for steady hearts for his family, including you. ❤️
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Good wishes for a good outcome and smooth surgery.
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Prayers for your brother! 🙏
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Prayers sent for your family.
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Sending your brother hugs and good thoughts for a good outcome for the surgery and an uneventful recovery.
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Prayers to you and your family.

Lastacx - Blue Bell has been known to help with all sorts of ailments, physical and for mental health. Good advice.
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Jinx
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Another vote for Blue Bell. :)

Outside, thinking of your brother and you all today. ❤️
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petalique
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Outside and family,

I’m sorry to hear about your DB’s diagnosis, but feel relieved that he seems to be in very good and responsive hands. I wish him a complete and un eventful recovery. I send you all my best wishes and will keep you in my thoughts.
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eld6161
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Outside, hope all went well today with your DB.
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You’ve been in my thoughts all day, hoping all went well.
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Thinking & praying. I hope all went as well as could be.
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An update: His surgery was difficult, but he is happy it’s over and things can move forward. Besides the tumor, the surgeon also removed 2 lymph nodes for further testing and had to remove some facial skin too. There are still recovery and potential treatments to be faced and he will find out diet and other care info tomorrow before being released. He texted us a little while ago (we could tell he was still a little groggy), but he seemed in good spirits to be done with this phase.

Thank you all very much for your continued prayers and well wishes! Will post again when we know more.
Jinx
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Thank you so much for updating us, Outside! Continued prayers for a good recovery. ❤️❤️
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Thanks for letting us know. Sending caring thoughts.
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🙏
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Thanks for uodating. Prayers continuing!
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Thank you for the update. Glad he is in good spirits-that always helps in healing!
l pinkmountain
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Thanks for the update! Hugs and healing thoughts. Take care of you! And then love up on him. That's all we can do. One step at a time. Hope you are feeling some relief that this first difficult hurdle is over. XO
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yeonassky
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So good to read that he is in good spirits! Very glad that he is on the other side of surgery. I hope that the healing is complete as quickly as possible. It does sound like he's in such good hands with the doctor and team.
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JustDoIt
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Good news.
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Thanks for letting us know how it went. sending healing thoughts his way
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Thanks for the update. I’m glad the surgery is behind him.
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It must be a relief to have the surgery done. Sending caring thoughts. So thoughtful of you to send us an update.
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I am so glad this step is behind him. Now for a good recovery. Keeping you and your family in my prayers, Outside.
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Springroz
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Good to see an update!!! Prayers for continued recovery!
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lascatx
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Glad the surgery is behind him and it went well. Let the healing begin!
Oakley
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Outside, your DH's good spirits will go a long way towards recovery. Best of luck to both of you!
Michele
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I just saw this now. I’m glad the surgery went well and will pray for a quick and complete recovery
Annie Deighnaugh
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So far so good. Thanks for the update and continued thoughts for health and healing.
Funkyart
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Thanks for the update, Outside. I have been thinking of you and your brother. 💗

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