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Mad as H-ll Mother

4 years ago

This isn't PC but I need to vent. DD had an oncologist appointment Monday morning. The doctor found a lump in her left breast which he believes is a lump that had been previously biopsied. However, it raised enough concern that he wanted her to have a mammogram and an ultrasound. Her oncologist is affiliated with a large Boston hospital. The staff at the local cancer center always arranges the appointments for their patients. After 2+ days of calling, the appointment coordinator called DD today and relayed the following story: The coordinator had called every hospital in their network and the earliest appointment would be for some time in February. The coordinator then informed the oncologist who said that was unacceptable as DD has a very aggressive form of beast cancer which up to this point has been in remission. The oncologist and a colleague ended up making calls, calling in favors and were able to get DD an appointment today. I shudder to think what could happen if the lump is cancer and DD had to wait until February.

The reason I am so perturbed is in talking to numerous nurse friends who work in various areas of the hospitals and cancer center, everyone has told me the same story. The hospitals are not overwhelmed by patients’ sick from COVID but rather they are overwhelmed by patients with coping issues who are flooding the ER’s. Many of these patients once in the ER are tested for COVID and are positive but asymptomatic thus the COVID numbers for the hospitals appear high. There are so many of these cases that the hospitals are being forced to shift resources from other departments to handle the case load.

This begs a deeper question: What happened to society and self-resilience? I understand there are genuine mental health issues and those are serious but why is there a general lack of coping skills in entire generations? Our parents, grandparents and ancestors went through crisis of similar magnitude or worse than the COVID and they coped without running to the ER. What changed? Better yet, how do we fix the problem?

And finally, and this is my protective mother side speaking: Why in h-ll do these patients who just can’t cope, take priority over folks facing life threatening illnesses/diseases?

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