Gift for New Grandparents?
Suzieque
2 years ago
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Comments (3)You say that your father-in-law 'is not really involved in' your children's lives. Do your children take an interest in their grandfather--I mean, is there at least communication? If not, then don't be too surprised that the grandparent mirrors the disinterest. You say that your 'husband just brushes it off as if he is not surprised by it'. What does that mean? Do you know your father-in-law? Or have you just decided that the FIL is being insensitive. There could be many explanations why the grandfather sent a gift to one child and not to the other. A fourteen year old is old enough to communicate with her grand. Is she encouraged to do that? Sometimes we get so wrapped up with our lives that we don't pay much attention to our grandparents. I know that many grandparents feel that their grandchildren aren't interested in them and their spirits would certainly be lifted by receiving a letter, phone call, or receive some gesture of attention. I don't think that greeting cards are where it's at--no matter what merican greetings would have us think. Sometimes grandparents don't say what they think or feel because they know the younger generation isn't interested. Hmm?...See MoreThoughts about jealousy of the other grandparent(s)
Comments (4)Ok...well I thought I would give my thoughts...you are so right...there is no reason for jealousy because how could any parent not want the grandparents to love their child... But here is where the reptile...a snake in this case spits venom....when a DIL sees that her children may lean more favorable to their husbands mother...that is a no-no.....in my case, I am the more fun grandmother...my grandchildren gravitate to me when around both grandparents.... My DIL hates it and likely me as well...and for this reason...she just backed off in our lives...our son basically goes with her flow...so we are grandparents with a lot of love to give but only when we initiate a time with them....my son only comes over with his family on a holiday or a meal is involved...but I have had some foot issues in the last couple of years...not as active...and just had surg. To correct these issues...no visit...DIL or son has not gone out for a card for the kids to send...nothing ever nevrr... This got worse when DIL's mother left her husband and moved to the area...she used me for years as a babysitter...hated to see any attention her children gave me or me to them...she did not seem that interested in her own grandmother...so maybe that was the telltale sign of who she is.. While it takes a village, I am no village idiot...I know when I am being rejected....now my other DIL is expecting and I can tell it will be the same way...she knows how close my grandchildren were to me...she has a mother..she will protect her mothers best interest...I have decided to just let it be.... I am not going to put myself out there for anymore hurt...life is too short...and I am dealing with other issues in my own home to worry about someone elses....she is the most controlling person I have ever seen...she is even trying to control what people buy the baby for the baby shower tomorrow...which thankfully I am not attending.. I refuse to show up in a boit cast and crutches only 3 wks from surgery for this woman...its not the babys day yet...its still hers...I bought some great gifts for the baby, but was told that she told her own mother if she did not get the right item, she would take it back... I even hesitate to give these items to her....for fear it will not be to her liking....never mind they are very nice items....this is just what my sons went out into the world and married...the total opposite of their mother.......See MoreFun2BHere
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