Am I getting dumber or just older
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Comments (5)The older ones of this vintage have two matched belts-later ones had just one belt. I have a '75 or '76 6hp that I restored this last summer. The carb was the worst part to clean up-it was totally gummed up. The engine only needed new points and a plug to get going again (well, and a new head gasket,too). The main shaft running from the lower pulley to the tines had very excessive play in the bearings,and I had to get shims to get rid of the play. The front seal needed replacing,too. Be sure that the gear oil you use in the transmission is compatable with brass gears and bushings....See MoreAm I right to be annoyed or am I just being a crappy daughter??
Comments (12)I finally got to read your whole post. I bet you are feeling like tearing your hair out because she sure doesn't seem to value your time or that you have other things to do. I am so sorry. My dad will be 91 in July and had hip/femur surgery in November and, sadly, it just hasn't healed. The next step is a partial hip replacement with a titanium rod inserted in the femur. What I have noticed is that on the days he has pain he can't seem to hand me his lunch or dinner plate or mail in order for me to clean up. I think it is a mental decision that they can't do the simplest of things. I think contacting any senior centers or any senior programs available through government services might be a great start. There are organizations that will take your mom grocery shopping or to appointments if they are fairly local. Some charge, some take donations and some are totally free. Many grocery stores have online ordering and will deliver to her home for a fee. That could be a lifesaver for sure. Do insist on being in charge of her calendar or you won't be able to attend or drive. She cannot make decisions for you when you are the ride. Let us know what you have decided to do and know that we all support you and most have gone through (or are going through) similar situations. The is a great place to vent! Robyn...See MoreThe older I get the less.........
Comments (17)I'm in that group too. I am the last surviving of nine brothers and sisters, and my parents have been gone for many years. I have 3 nieces I keep in touch with, all in other states. My DS lives in SC and is involved with his family there, so he comes home less and less. My DD lives about five miles away and we talk a lot on the phone and she comes to see me almost ever Sunday. My good friends are like me, old and decrepit. We keep in touch with phone and/or email. New friends are my neighbors here at the Retirement Community. They are mostly also "old and decrepit" and we "don't get around much anymore". Years ago I was delivering Meals on Wheels and one dear 90-something year old lady wanted us to stay and visit. She said she gets so lonesome. I mentioned that she could call up her friends and at least talk to them. She said, "Call them up? Give me a shovel and I can dig them up!" She at least still has her sense of humor. Sue...See MoreI am just so over this girl.
Comments (8)Thank you all for your comments! I had just needed to vent and I felt better after I wrote it all down. It's just such a stressful situation and to have this girl's mom calling me as well, leaving messages, is just...I don't know. I think you are very right...having her stay in a hotel is a very good idea. My first instinct is to just have her go home if she decides she can't control the things she says, but underneath the hurt I feel, I know that's probably the right thing. I know I definitely wouldn't go to a hotel, if only for the simple fact that it's Christmas and I have small children - 6 and 4 years - and they are greatly anticipating Santa tonight. :) But I did leave this summer when I knew she was coming and I guess that's kind of the same thing, although I went to visit my family and not a hotel room. But honestly, I did feel some resentment over it but tried to put it in it's place. My husband and I had some big fights over this because that's exactly how I felt - why should I have to leave my own home because this 'girl' can't control herself? My husband would only say - Well no one is making you leave! But I think that just misses the whole point when my only options were to stay and suffer through the poison this girl emits or leave. Anyway, in the end, I just decided that this was bigger than me and that for him to reestablish a relationship with his daughter was important for him. So I left and it was ok I guess. This girl has never wanted anything to do with my children. Before we had children she would say all the time that if we ever had kids, she would never acknowledge them as her siblings and that they would be nothing to her. But now, years later, she is beginning to say that she wants to get to know them. She's only seen my older son once or twice when he was younger and she's only seen my youngest when he was a baby, as she's not been back to our home since. HOWEVER, she wants a relationship with them without me being around. She asked my husband if it would be possible to spend time alone with my kids without me being around. Fortunately my husband told her that that would not happen under any circumstances - I guess he knew I would really go ballistic if he told her anything other than that. It made me feel good to hear that he told her that our kids are a package deal. I want the best for my kids and I know that one day I will not be around and that these girls will be some of the only family they have. I have never said a bad word about either of the girls in front of my kids, no matter how I've felt and I never will. But right now, this girl is just too filled with bitterness and hatred and there is nothing in this world that would make me leave my kids alone with her for 5 seconds. Honestly, as bad as this sounds, I wish I could just make this girl vanish as if she's never existed. Oh well. Thank you again for all your thoughts! I've just really needed someone to hear me and appreciate so much the time you've taken to respond. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas! Amy...See More- 5 years ago
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