Nursing home or aides for Mom?
As I have mentioned here before, my mother is 103 years old and remarkable for her age. She is still living in her house with a great deal of help from me and my son. However, she is now almost entirely blind and cannot find her way around. Much more help is needed. I have applied for a place for her in the skilled nursing center of a a gorgeous retirement community near me. It costs a bloody fortune but you could not find a nicer spot. Fortunately Mom is well set financially, so that’s not an issue.
Now I am second guessing myself and thinking I should hire 24-7 aides for her instead. That would be more work for me since I would have to monitor the aides. I would hire through an agency so they would be thoroughly vetted. Her house is very big but it would take some updates in order to have someone else staying here. I have no idea what overnight aides would do. Sleep or stay awake to watch her?
Mom sleeps most of the day but needs help with meals, medications and getting to the bathroom. She can make it if she can find it!
I am so stressed about this, and also exhausted. She is ancient but I’m not young either. If my son did not pitch in, there is no way that I could do this. With the nursing home, she may not remember where she is but with the aides, she might not remember them from day to day.
What do you think is the better choice? Thanks for listening. I am totally fried.