Has Marilyn c checked in lately?

5 years ago

I haven’t seen a post from Marilyn c recently. Just wondered if she and Jody are doing ok. The last I recall hearing from her she was having a rough time during the snowstorms. Hope all is better and maybe I have just missed something from her.

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marilyn_c

5 years ago

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Jody passed away on March 9 at 1:24 a.m. I had contacted Hospice about 9 days previous. They brought a hospital bed, 3 more 10 liter oxygen concentrators, other equipment and comfort meds.

A couple of days later, they wanted him admitted to the hospice wing of the hospital to assess his oxygen needs. He was there for 4 days and they sent him home, on a Thursday.

However, getting him from the ambulance, up the steps and settled into bed, was too much for him. The least little movement caused his oxygen to drop dangerously low. It dropped to the 60's and the EMT was trying to get it to at least 90. It went to the 80's for a few seconds and then back to the 60's. We already had 3 10 liter concentrators, so they hooked him to all 6, and still couldn't get him stable, so they put him back in the ambulance and took him back to the hospice wing of the hospital.

On the following Sunday, he said to me, "I am going to die tonight. It is too much trouble to try to keep living."

I really didn't think he was going to die that night, but I said to him that I needed to go home and feed Snoop and Emery, who were in the barn, and I would turn around and come right back. He said okay.

By the time I got to the Lufkin city limits, his nurse called and said he wants you back now. So I turned around and came right back.

His breathing was very loud and labored. It was hard to watch. He kept taking off his oxygen mask and nasal canula. I or the nurses kept putting them back.

About 12:30 he opened his eyes and looked at me. I think he wanted to see if I was sleeping. Again he took off the mask. The nurse came and tried to give him an IV morphine shot, but he was so dehydrated, they couldn't find a vein. I told them, it is okay. Let him go. It is his wish. Two nurses and I stayed with him, talking to him and holding his hand.

I realized when he said he was going to die, he was tired and ready to go. He couldn't eat or drink because the effort was too much for him.

Hospice was extremely kind to both of us. I am very grateful for their help and care.

I miss him very much....married 55 years and together 58, but I wouldn't wish for him to come back in the condition he was in. I know he is with me in spirit. Thank you for your kind thoughts and words.

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bragu_DSM 5
5 years ago
strength and prayers
foggyj2
5 years ago
My condolences to you. It's a hard time to go through now. Take care of yourself.
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Cherryfizz
5 years ago
Marilyn, I am truly sorry for the loss of your beloved Jodie.
whistle_b
5 years ago
I am so sorry to hear this. When you think of him, I know you will smile.
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5 years ago
I am so very sorry, Marilyn. Please take care of yourself and come back when you can.
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Marilyn, I’m so sorry for your loss. ((((( Hugs )))))
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I only lurk at The Table these days, but I want to express my condolences to you, Marilyn. God bless.
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((((Marilyn)))
Ont_Gal
5 years ago
As always, still thinking about this past couple of months for you & Jody....

(((((Hugs, Marilyn)))))
bob_cville
5 years ago
I couldn't read the last of your post or most of the responses here because my eyes were blurry from tears. I'm so sorry to read this and am sending you >hugs<
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((((((Marilyn)))))). I'm so sorry for your loss. So very glad you were treated right at hospice.
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I don't have words for something like this. I am so very sorry Marilyn.
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i'm so very sorry, marilyn. having experienced this loss myself, i know how raw the grief is. sending gentle hugs to comfort you.
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5 years ago
My heartfelt prayers for you and your family. God bless all of you.
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Marilyn, I am so very sorry for your loss. I pray that you find the peace you need.

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5 years ago
So sorry for your loss. I wish I could say something to help ease your pain.
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I am so sorry to hear this. Sending comforting prayers your way.

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(((((Marilyn))))) So sorry for your loss, may God give you and yours the strength and comfort you need.

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5 years ago
My deepest condolences go out to you, Marilyn.

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5 years ago
Marilyn, so very sad for you. I cannot imagine the pain you are feeling. My prayers go out for you that you feel the love and comfort that is being sent your way by so many here.
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Dear Marilyn, please accept my deep sympathy for you during this time. You are much loved by many of us here; I hope that we can offer comfort.
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Sending love and good thoughts your way.
woodrose77
5 years ago
Marilyn, I'm so very sorry for your loss. Those of us who have lost our spouses know and feel your pain. Sending you love and hugs. Praying, and hoping you will find comfort in the good memories of all your years together.
sjerin
5 years ago
Oh Marilyn, I had a feeling things weren't well when we didn't see you post for so long. I'm so very sorry that you had to let Jody go, and pray for you both. I feel worried for you, on your own now. I'm glad you feel his spirit with you and hope you take some consolation in his peace.
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joyfulguy
5 years ago
last modified: 5 years ago
As many have said, Marilyn, our hearts are hurting for you at this painful time.

As you reported Jody to have said, there comes a time in one's journey through not only one's own pain, with almost nil hope of anything but minimal improvement, added to the suffering of one's loved ones, that about the only reasonable course is to have one's physical being take leave of this life, and that that is the course that one needs to choose.

I'm fairly sure that both your mind and heart support that decision, painful though it was.

Let his spirit support you and loved ones and friends as you journey through this dreadful valley.

I send good thoughts to help in your support and offer some prayers on your behalf.

(((((Marilyn)))))

(((((others who love Jody))))))

ETA: My heart hurts for your family's pain, as well, Jim.

I send good thoughts and hope that things work in the best possible way for your son, and offer prayers for your family.

(((((Jim, son and family)))))

ole joyful
sealavender
5 years ago
So sorry, Marilyn.
anneliese32
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My deepest sympathy and prayers for you and your family.
Dolly
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So very sorry to read of Jody's passing.
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My condolences, Marilyn. I feel sure that you will often feel Jody's loving spirit with you - I know that I did, after the deaths of my father and even my ex-husband. I hope that that comforts you.
chisue
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Dear KT Friend -- What a lucky man Jody was to have had *you* beside him all these years. What a wrenching absence he's left. Deepest sympathy to you and the dear daughter you shared.

Come talk to us when you feel like it. You know, sorrow shared being a little lighter, and all that.
matti5
5 years ago
Marilyn, I am so very sorry to hear of Jody's passing, my condolences to you and your daughter. Hugs!
Lindsey_CA
5 years ago
Marilyn, I am so sorry. 💔
Marilyn Sue
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Hugs and prayers Marilyn, I am so sorry.

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shecar2
5 years ago
Prayers to you, Marilyn. You were always so strong taking care of Jody. Now, please take care of yourself too! When you are able, I hope you will log on to the KT and let us know how you are doing.
ritamay91710
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Marilyn, I'm so sorry. I believe you'll see each other again one day.
Sammy
5 years ago
Dear Marilyn,

I am so sorry for your loss.

Love,

Sammy xoxo
donna_loomis
5 years ago
Oh, Marilyn, mere words cannot express the sadness I feel at your loss. Your relationship with Jody was a truly special one. My sincere condolences to you.
lisa_fla
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I can’t help thinking about how he always had your back no matter what-taking in downtrodden animals of all sorts- he didn’t seem to bat an eye, risking his life in the flood, buying/building/ moving your last house,, the move to TX-so many trips back and forth, and moving those huge cement troughs!!! Whatever needed to be done, he did it, as long as he could. He was a true partner. He will Rest In Peace knowing he got you settled in your dream place. I’m glad he lived long enough to see that.
kathyg_in_mi
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Hospice is a blessing. You made the right call to let him go. Life is not easy, but we are all thinking of you and praying for you.

Jim_1 Praying your son comes thru this.
pudgeder
5 years ago
I'm sorry to hear this news, but know he is at peace.

May you find comfort, Marilyn.
katlan
5 years ago
Marilyn, I am very sorry you lost Jody. 55 years married, what a testament to love and devotion. You have my prayers for comfort. God bless his soul.
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5 years ago
Jim, I am very to sorry to hear about your son and his prognosis.

Since I started this thread, I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who has has written such kind, caring words of comfort here for our friend Marilyn and also for Jim. We never know sometimes how much one might be suffering or are in a pain we cannot imagine, and it really helps to know there are so many who care and are here to listen.
amicus
5 years ago
I'm so very sorry to hear that Marilyn's dear husband Jodi, has passed away. I hope she will rejoin us here, when she is feeling up to it. Jim, sending wishes that your son will receive a treatment for his condition that will allow him a complete recovery!
maire_cate
5 years ago
Jim. I am truly sorry to learn about your son. My eldest son is the same age and I can only imagine the sorrow and pain that you and your wife are feeling. It is such a difficult time and I can only offer words of support and caring.

Has Marilyn c checked in lately?

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