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Comments (16)Growing up in Michigan there were lots of migrant workers hoeing in the fields every summer. My step dad was too cheap to hire them and paid us half as much to hoe. Let me tell you, he would do it a month after the migrants did and then complain because we had to sharpen the hoes too often (his fault for letting the weeds get too big!) and took so long. 88 acres if I remember correctly. But I digress... Not a summer went by that while driving through the farmlands I didn't see several migrant workers "going to the bathroom" out in the fields! And they want to blame the factory and processing plant workers whenever a "bug" makes everyone sick. I know where it comes from!...See MoreI don't want anything to do with my dying deatbeat dad?
Comments (6)My Dad was an abusive alcoholic. Not to put too fine a point on it, it was a tremendous relief when my parents divorced when I was 13 and he left. I had no contact from him after that, not that I was bothered. Then, when I was 16, I had finished school and was spending a year travelling. Since I would be passing through the city in which my Dad and his new wife lived, my mother insisted I should at least visit him for an hour or two between landing on the plane from home and boarding the ship for overseas. I didn't particularly want to but my mother was a hard person to argue with. So, he and his new wife picked me up from the airport and took me to their apartment for afternoon tea. It was awkward. I was too young to really ask the right questions. Like, why did you hit me? That said, he was so locked into lying about everything I doubt I would have got a truthful answer. New wife had some adult children from a previous relationship who were older than me, who apparently would like to have met me but were unavailable. So I had to speak with them on the telephone, again an experience I wasn't all that keen to have. They chastised me for being an ungrateful daughter: according to my Dad he had been sending me birthday and Christmas cards and gifts, money, the whole works, and not once had ungrateful me replied or sent thanks. This was more fantasy on Dad's part: I never received anything and have no reason to think that my scrupulously honest mother would have prevented me receiving anything that had been sent. I disabused them of the fantasy. Eventually our awkward afternoon tea drew to a close and they took me to my ship and I left and never saw him again. When he died some years later I reacted to the news with total indifference- he was out of my system. I think this was due to my mother insisting on our final meeting, I got to see him with more mature eyes and process my feelings about him. So, I think you might consider at least one meeting with your father.Ask him any questions that have always niggled (and there are always niggly questions after the end of any relationship). If you suspect he is being fast and loose with the truth, let him know you're not interested in hearing BS. But I do think you'd benefit from hearing him out, even if you decide afterwards never to see him again. At least then you won't have any "what ifs" that can never be resolved after his death, wondering how things might have gone if......they are the hardest things to deal with after a person dies because then there is no hope of there ever being a resolution....See MoreWhen You Don't Want to Be Invisible or Friends After 50
Comments (138)I had been trying to re-connect with a friend by emailing her and arranging lunch dates. I was always the one to initiate. I kept it up for several months. When we saw each other it was always really nice. When we ran into each other at church there were always big hugs and "we have to do lunch again soon !". The only way that was going to happen was if I initiated. I stopped. For good or bad I don't think that it can be one-sided. I have given this a lot of thought. I have always been a loner and I believe I always will be. I have had one good friend at a time for years and then it would end and I would have another. I seem to be able to manage that and nothing else. I believe that if I really wanted more I would do more to aide the process. DH and I are really close and do a lot of things together and separately. He has no close friend either. But that is nothing new. Looking at it dispassionately it is the way we are. I no longer think there is something wrong with us. Everyone finds their own way of carrying on. My way wouldn't work for someone else and their way wouldn't work for me. When I am on a bike tour for months at a time I do enjoy being with others ...up to a point. All of us on the trips agree that our tent is like a return to the womb :) When I get home I really relish the lack of stimulation from others and go right back into my solitary ways. I have meditated at length on this and on my original thread that spawned this thread. I am what I am and that is all that I am. Peaceful is how I feel ...not lonely or alone. c...See MoreWhen You Just Don't Want To Mess Up An Arrangement...
Comments (34)I love to re-read..so yes, usually I buy something I already know I love..or I had and then didn't have for years and then found it again..or if I have very high expectations, for example it's by an author I admire, but haven't read this book of his I do keep all fairy tales, children's books, poetry..and yes, short stories, classics..but I can re-read good detectives and thrillers too, so if that's the case..:) (I also love watching thrillers..not horror movies, these I can't watch, but thrillers..and some I can watch several times..it's a bit embarrassing, frankly. if it's too...if it's too good though, too true..then it's much scarier since no thriller is as scary as real life is..and then I probably won't watch it again, or if yes-after many years..because it hits me much harder, and it's not a thrill anymore..it's a totally different mix of feelings that you carry for years, and you don't really want ..to dilute it I guess. But then I guess a movie like that wouldn't be strictly called a thriller, right?.. Everything that's really good is hard to categorize..or so I think With very good books though, it's a bit different. Because you change yourself, as you age..and when you re-read you observe other things and think new thoughts and have new enlightenments The books I love can be very gloomy or very full of light...but I find that truly great books even if they are gloomy always carry some inner light too. A glimpse of hope. Never just one note.. If it's not the case(and I've read some exceptionally gloomy books..by Russian authors..not really horrors or thrillers just ..I don't know..really, just scary as hell)..I won't probably hold on to a book. I borrow them(usually somebody recommends it)/take in the library..return it. I don't know whether these authors were translated, and if yes, was the translation any good..and they obviously are very talented..but it haunts you for life, and you've no desire to re-read it, not at all....See Moreseagrass_gw Cape Cod
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