Not here. Luckily our 2 older kids married in sweet weddings that worked out well. The eldest's missed Katrina by a week, and many of her guests came from the affected area. If we had set the date only one week later, many of the guests might not have been able to join us. The laments of our extended family fathers as extensive spending is planned for weddings is the wish that the couple would elope and take the money to be spent on such a brief event to spend on a new house. You just might be in that situation.

Oh, sleeperblues, so sorry! But...wise, given the circumstances.

Celebrations ARE important, but they don't have to be elaborate. Hoping you can at least be *together* in person in a year or so if/when we have a vaccine.

I'm really sorry, too. We do know people who've had to cancel showers, weddings and other events that required much planning. As difficult and disappointing as it is, you did the right thing. There is no forging ahead right now here in Southern CA since those types of gatherings really aren't allowed. Not even sure when they will be.

I think help with their new home sounds like a good plan.

I'm sorry, sounds like a lot of work and planning went into the celebration. The only thing I had planned was a road trip to Maine with a friend in July. I had always wanted to see Acadia National park. I am supposed to be hosting two exchange students this coming school year. The one that has been communicating with me has changed his plans for the following year because of the virus. I'm in the middle of trying to pick another student to take his place but not sure if it is going to happen. I just don't see everything being back to normal in the Fall, especially when we are all opening things back up.

I am sorry you had to cancel... but that is the norm right now.

I think, we need to realize, EVERYTHING for this year won't happen. We need new and adjusted plans.

Life hopefully goes on for all of us.

Moni

What a bummer -- for your family, guests, caterers, etc. Best wishes for a happy marriage regardless of cancelled/delayed celebration :-)

DH and I hadn't finalized plans but had general hopes to revisit Asheville and the Smokies this spring. DD was getting her friends together to commit to a trip to Japan. Well, we will all get there eventually.

I'm sorry for your disappointment, and hers. This is something none of us could have imagined when we began making plans.

Lesser note - I had planned a fun day for me, but back in April. A day-trip garden fair that was one of the first things cancelled.

We're invited to a wedding next month (a cousin) that would have included a hotel stay. We're not going but haven't been given word of cancellation. I think the wedding will take place, but sans guests I'm sure.

DH's class reunion is September. It has enormous attendance and has been held every 5 years for 50 years! People flying in from all over, I think last reunion the farthest living attendee came from Greece. I don't see it taking place and DH has already said without a vaccine, he's not going. He's been so good about proceeding with caution, not wanted to risk my mother.

Childhood friends now neighbors have been planning their daughters wedding for a year. Save the date cards for Sept were sent at Christmas. Venue, catering, flowers all arranged. I have no idea what might happen with that. DH tells me there is garden space at this particular venue which is a couple of hours from here. If not cancelled, he said just last night, possibly we could go assuming we could socially distance outdoors for the wedding and just make sure everyone knew we were supporting the marriage. Then leave immediately and not experience the reception.

So many question marks with everyone's plans until this is under control ;0(

I received a save the date in December for a June2020 wedding. New save the date for June 2021. Ya do what ya gotta do!

Yup - we have an annual outside/inside party, with about 60 guests, every July. Have done it for years and this year we won't be doing it. So sad. But .... would rather be cautious.

Thanks for listening, everyone. When this whole thing started back in February, I couldn't imagine it would affect us well into the summer, and now probably until we have a vaccine. I tell ya, though, I had no idea what it was like to plan a wedding and it's a lot of work. I don't really remember my own wedding being so much work, but we had it at a venue and not at our home so much of that was taken care of. Plus it was 32 years ago, so there's that. I can barely remember what I had for breakfast, lol. I'm sorry for everyone that has to cancel or put plans on hold. My nephew was supposed to get married on May 30, now changed to August 15, if ever. At least my kid is happily married, that's what counts. Also had to cancel a great conference to Biloxi, was really looking forward to it cos I had never been there. And a trip to Newport to visit the mansions with my sisters. But at least we are all healthy.

Sorry you had to go through this. I am sure it is disppointing. Our friend's daughter reschedudled her wedding to June 2021. For the last 10+ years, We we have hosted a large party the weekend after Labor Day. We haven't cancelled it yet but my guess is we probably will shortly. I will be disappointed not seeing my extended family but we are all getting older with the majority over 60 so this may be the year to cancel.

Sorry you had to cancel. I agree - maybe she'll just want the money instead. :)

We have a trip to Grand Cayman scheduled in the fall. There's no way we're going, but it's not officially cancelled yet. I scheduled in January before any of this and I bought trip insurance just because it was so far in advance. Now I'm so glad we did! I'm hoping the airline will give us a voucher because the upgrades my husband has to have so he can fly (he's a nervous flyer) aren't covered by the insurance. We're hoping to go next year so a voucher would be fine rather than just getting the ticket money back but not the extras (about $500 worth).

I have been saying since March I am SOOO GLAD we did our Alaska trip last summer AND my son's wedding..we are missing a couple of his cousin's weddings. They moved them back from this summer to Dec and that just won't work with employment etc. Bummer. I do live hearing of couples that move forward with the ceremony and leave the party behind. It is good priorities are being reevaluated!!! it makes me ILL the people who are losing a life savings over cancelled venues etc.

My oldest son was getting married in April in Florida. Everything was cancelled of course. They first thought about rescheduling for June, now it’s next April.

You said it: "in good conscience." In July the virus won't be gone and there will be no vaccine, so you just can't do it. I know it would have been a wonderful, meaningful event and you are terribly disappointed. I'm feel for you, having planned for it, it's hard to let it go. I don't know your state, but it might have been against the safe guidelines.

I had to cancel a 50-person luncheon in March honoring a group of volunteers. I agonized over it, and I'm not sure everyone agreed, but I did make personal phone calls or emails to everyone. I used the word "postpone," knowing it will be a long time before it actually happens, if ever. Mostly senior citizens.

So sorry.

Dh and I were thinking of a trip to New York this summer. Not happening in the next couple of years. One son was going to Montreal... cool for him, but not happening now. Dd was in the running for a paid trip to Europe... not happening. Family reunion is still on for July, but people are already canceling.

My son's wedding was scheduled for the end of June with 130 guests. The marriage will still happen with 12 people (parents and siblings with partners) in the brides parents backyard and we will prepare a dinner.

The venue will not return the deposit so they have rescheduled the reception for next June.

My older son was invited to 9 weddings this year and several have been cancelled. Ceremonies for a couple of them, such as our younger son, seem to be still happening if parents and siblings are all in the same city but that is often not the case.

We are about to miss out celebrating the 4th family birthday for the year. The first 3 were adults so it wasn't a big deal, but I feel bad for my DGD who will be turning 8. Childhood lasts only so long. I am sure her parents will make her day extra special. But still she so misses all her friends and family.

A good friend holds an annual mid May get-together at his home for a large group of us who grew up together ,went to school together or share common histories. It won't be happening this year. Our numbers are dwindling due to age. We have lost several in the past few years so this gathering is pretty important to us. We are scattered across the state so it is not like we see other whenever.

Maybe they can just have a simple ceremony with just family, then have a large party for their 1st anniversary.

Present plans aren't canceled. BIL is having a family reunion in June. He is not canceling. We are looking forward to seeing everyone who comes. Family/friend vacation is still on at Lake Erie in Ohio so far. We have 12 adults and kids in a 9 bedroom house. Most stuff is open in Ohio. As long as the state park is open for swimming we are going. Feburary we plan on going to St Maarten or Aruba as long as their open.

Maybe they can just have a simple ceremony with just family, then have a large party for their 1st anniversary.

DD got married privately on New Years Eve. My son married them and his future wife witnessed. A year later they threw a huge anniversary party for friends and family. It turned out sooo much better than a wedding/reception/off to honeymoon thing. They were able to focus on the celebration, without wedding stress. Although they did not plan the evening as a wedding party all their friends treated it as such, bearing gifts, love and good wishes. They had a whole pirate theme going and all the guests from 20 somethings to 90 joined in the fun. It is still talked about to this day. Other people have albums, they have shared memories that are still frequently brought up 10 years later.