This may help.

I'm actually using SW Antique White for my trim color, which will be just a slight contrast against the Believable Buff walls (the trim in the photo is old trim that I'm just using as a color sample). My ceiling is SW Creamy White though. We're in the middle of construction, and this picture isn't so great, but it shows part of the ceiling. I think Dove White has just a touch more yellow in it, so it may look better with Blonde.

We used Behr’s Pot of Cream white for all of our doors and trim. It’s a really great creamy white that reflects well. It has a soft look to it, not brash or harsh. Don’t limit yourself to just SW paint colors. The paint retailers have the formula’s for each others colors and can mix whatever you want regardless of brand. Even Home Depot has mixed colors that were spot on from SW for me.

Not sure I understand. I think you said the windows were a color you didn't like. Why not paint that and start with a clean slate?