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Comments (22)Okay, well, with some details changed just in case ... The one I am still steamed about is that brunch for 70 people I just gave. To make a LONG story a little shorter, the whole point had been to solve a difficult problem for the family having a big event: the parents have recently divorced, and the problem was that the extended families would be holding separate "auxilliary" events during the weekend, and where would the guests of honor go? I offered to give the Sunday brunch for all the out of towners, on the "neutral territory" of our home, and that way they could all come. That was over a year ago. Less than three weeks before the event, I asked the divorced dad about how many kids/adults to expect (I already knew the total of 70). He began, "Well, my kids won't be there. They will be with [ex-wife's] family." ???? "But," I said, "I thought the whole point of our giving the party was so that everyone could be together." "I know, but [ex-wife] and her family said no." (Good thing thing this was on the phone and he couldn't see my astonished face.) Well, I thought, at least it won't be so many people. But he confirmed -- 70. (I.e., he had known all along, before it was too late to make other plans, that it would just be his family and friends. He also clearly was not surprised at my surprise. He knew we were still operating under the original assumption.) At the end of the call, I asked, "Remind me again -- why are we doing this at our house?" "Well, your house is a lot nicer." !!!!!!! The brunch was not hard, not too expensive (although even inexpensive for 70 people adds up to a substantial amount) and it was lots of fun. My kidz and husband and I enjoyed doing it as a family project. The guests were lovely and gracious -- I got nice notes from several. But I feel very much that he took advantage of us. We offered to do this to help them out of a sticky situation, not to take over the work and expense of his entertaining for him. It's as if we'd offered to give a couple a wedding, and then 3 weeks before one of them said, "We eloped, so you'll give me a birthday party instead." I think he had the responsibility to tell us as soon as he knew that the "everybody" brunch idea wouldn't work. I don't by any means think that hospitality and generosity should be equally reciprocal. But you can't just ALWAYS be on the receiving end. No matter how different circumstances are, you can always do SOMETHING nice for someone else. We have done a LOT of nice things for this guy and his family, and he has NEVER reciprocated in any way. This took the cake -- I'm done. Believe it or not, I really do like him. But he has got to learn not to be such a 100% taker! (And he isn't going to learn it from ME.) He didn't even invite us to all the other events of the weekend. By the way, the ex-wife, who we also like a lot, was TERRIFIC about everything -- she invited us to everything she did, she and the children (although not their out of town guests) and she did make the effort to come to our brunch and were delightful, and she even took me shopping at Sam's Club for the food. I think she felt really bad; she hadn't known this was going on. The worst actual guest I've ever had was my friend's wife. They and their (adorable) kidz were here for a few days, and I didn't think I'd survive. She is SO MEAN!!!!! Especially to my pal. We were all on edge all the time. The last evening, we had spent the day at the State Fair. It wasn't easy to please her there, either, but it was fine. As we drove home, I was really, really tired -- so exhausted I just couldn't wait to collapse. What about dinner? I said I'd figured that we were all tired, so we'd just order a pizza or go out somewhere in the neighborhood for something easy and light. "No," she said, "I think we should stay home and make some chicken breasts for the adults and some buttered pasta with fresh broccoli for the kids." I screamed internally -- hadn't I just said I was too tired to shop and cook, let alone two menus? -- but all I said was sorry, that we couldn't have both butter and chicken at the same meal anyway (not kosher), and wouldn't pizza or something be okay? No. Sigh. All right. Whatever. We got home and I found some frozen mixed vegetables, including some broccoli, in the freezer, and some fresh carrots. Would either of those be okay? "No, I had really pictured fresh broccoli." I couldn't believe her gall, and my friend was so mortified, but we all knew better than to argue with her. Anyway, at that point, tired as I was, I actually PREFERRED getting in the car to go get the %^$#!! fresh broccoli, just to get AWAY from her. I was so stressed that the grocer took one look at me and asked me if I was okay. He felt so sorry for me he gave me a can of salmon! Thanks for listening!...See MoreSurprise Christmas Party - Ideas?
Comments (9)Any ideas for ANYTHING! Thank you! My FIL is going to take her out the day of the party do that my ex SIL can help me clean and set up. I have extra frozen hamburg to make the Paseo soup that she makes every year. I'm going to 'borrow' her recipe. Parma - Sometimes I have to show that I'm NOT the black sheep of the family:) My MIL never really gives ornaments but your thought prompted me to think about maybe a 'Sign In/ Sentiment' book for the party? What do you think? Maybe put it beside the basket that holds all of the ornaments each year for each guest to put on the tree. OOOH, OOH, OOOH! What about parcel tags that people could sign instead and hang on the tree as the ornament?! I just saw something similar in Country Living yesterday. The lady 'ages' big tags and writes the name of anyone new welcomed into the family on it and then hangs it on the tree. Jan - I should probably take that wine for a test drive prior to the party! I like the old photo idea. DH's Aunt (MIL's SIL) has recently been going through old family photos so maybe we could grab some from her, copy them and set them out in frames for my MIL. Heaven knows I have a way too many empty frames lying around!...See MoreSurprise your Partner Christmas Exchange Swappers Please Read!
Comments (39)1.marty_mo SENT/RECEIVED 2.polardream SENT 3.Red HAVE 4.new2quilting SENT/RECEIVED 5.toolgranny SENT/RECEIVED 6.vicky4x4 SENT/RECEIVED 7.oliverp SENT/RECEIVED 8.lyndawn SENT/RECEIVED 9.ddavisgray SENT/RECEIVED 10.patti60 SENT/RECEIVED 11.caroline1947 SENT 12.mrseldoo SENT/RECEIVED 13.colleenny SENT/RECEIVED 14.amazingcm SENT/RECEIVED 15.msladybyte SENT/RECEIVED 16.dragongoddess SENT/RECEIVED 17.clarion5 SENT/RECEIVED 18.mallaround SENT/RECEIVED This is going to be fun! Red...See MoreSurprise Christmas Wedding?! Am I Crazy?!
Comments (9)I had both ;) my first wedding was a huge shindig with many many bridesmaids, 200 guests, gorgeous location, catered dinner, special cake, two bands.... etc.... My second wedding was a very intimate affair, 20 guests, all family except for my best friend and his best friend. If I were to get married again, I'd elope. Come back and throw the party after, without all the stress. It's YOUR day. If you think you might regret not having a big wedding, have the big wedding. Remember that you will not be able to fully enjoy it because your bridesmaid will be crying because she's not your maid of honor, your groomsmen will drunkenly flirt with your sister, your mother will be mad because the flowers didn't show up, your husband will be stressed and frazzled because you are, you will have to "glad-hand" so much it won't be about you and your new DH it will be about Aunt Sally who has a shellfish allergy and has to be rushed to ER... you get the point. A wedding is a poor excuse for a party. DON'T forgo a wedding if that's what you really want. You can't go back and do it again. Even if you do "do it again" like me :) This is it. But, if I were you, having gone through what I did and done it two different ways, I'd get married, small ceremony, and have a nice party later for all of your friends. You'll be more relaxed and you'll have more fun. JMO. Congratulations!!!!...See More- 6 years ago
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