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katyajini
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Comments (17)I took this seriously! And probably because I decided when I moved to my new husband and home 2 years ago, that if what's happy in my yard is crabgrass and Bermuda grass, then that's what I like, too. He had told me he and his former wife (deceased) had spent hundreds and hundreds of dollars on hauling in dirt for the rocky lawn, and many more $$ and time seeding and re-seeding lawn grasses; there is a slight slope to this rock-based 1-plus acre of lawn and sometimes heavy rain in the spring and early summer, which seemed to always wash the seeded grass to the far corners. . . the yard is dappled shade in most parts, but in the sunny spots, everything fries. My first summer was last year, and by July, my lawn had filled in and looked beautiful--the crabgrass and Bermuda grass were going crazy. I told him that since my priorities are the vegetable and flower gardens, if we could mow and have it look good, I didn't care WHAT green stuff was in the lawn. I am a big proponent of whatever works well in the yard is what I'll try to go with--and the crabgrass and Bermuda grass love the yard....See MoreOT Need to let you know some sad news
Comments (17)This is bringing tears to my eyes. I knew when I read Jane's post that something wasn't right. Luvs, thanks so much for letting us know Dear Dad went to be with his Savior. Karen, you should be a very proud daughter for the way you cared for your Dad. You will always miss him but have so many beautiful memories with him. Thanks so much for sharing your DD with all of us while he was with you. Please give his little dog lots of Hugs and Kisses from all of us too. Those we love don't go away, They walk beside us every day, Unseen, unheard, but always near, Still loved, still missed and very dear. Sharing Your Sorrow and Sending My Love, Punk...See MoreHow to protect your new things, and how to let go...
Comments (73)Oak my Christmas tree scratch is about 3' long and right in the center of the room. The floor was about a month old and I was still waiting for my area rug to come in. As I was taking down the tree I VERY gently laid it down on the floor so I could separate the sections. As I picked up and packed each section, I saw the scratch. I could NOT believe such damage could be done by what must have been a branch gently sliding across the floor. It made me absolutely sick. I had planned to keep an area rug down most of the time, but I thought I'd take it up occasionally, because the floor is stunning without it. It's not a deep scratch and since it's under the rug I haven't tried to work on it, but I can say that none of my kids ever did any damage that horrified me the way that scratch did, lol. And there is no doubt that the majority of damage in my house, has been caused by my husband, who simply is not as careful as he should be. I'm glad I was the one that made the tree scratch because it was an early and valuable lesson as to how easily it happens. Because I KNOW how careful I was, I don't blame anyone else for an accident. Madtown, I'm relieved to hear you have reasonable expectations of your babies! I should mention that one reason my kids never damaged anything is that my house was furnished with them in mind. I didn't have any crystal or fragile things out where they could get broken. I didn't have polished wood surfaces anywhere. I frequently watched them play and often took note of the freedom they had because we had wall to wall. They could stack their wooden blocks almost to the ceiling and there was no problem when they fell down. As I think about it now, if I'd had the wood floor back then, I'd have had to restrict an awful lot of healthy, fun activities we enjoyed in the house. Speaking of which, baseball in the living room began when my eldest was two. My husband would blow up a balloon, give him one of those fat bats, and they had a great times playing like that for years. Then he graduated to wiffle ball, using throw pillows for bases. One night when the kids had gotten pretty big, too big to "run" the bases anyway, someone hit the ball really hard straight into my forehead while I was engrossed in a book. It made a very loud noise though it didn't hurt a bit. There was a collective gasp from the four males in the room, followed by all of us laughing our heads off. We all have a vivid memory of it. I hadn't realized how hard the kids had begun hitting the ball, so that night I reluctantly declared an end to indoor baseball out of concern for the windows and the TV screen. There is no question that how you can use your home is directly related to your concern for material things. I wouldn't trade those years of USING our home to the extent we did, for all the money in the world. The years went by so fast, and now sadly, I have the most unwelcome freedom to indulge in delicate furnishings....See MoreHelp...how can I let go of these feelings?
Comments (12)I have joint custody of her. The only reason I never went for full custody is because her dad and I agreed to never try to keep her away from the other parent. I wanted her to have a good relationship with him as well as myself. He constantly accused me of doing things behind his back...like having an affair. He would come home from work (he worked 3rd shift) and check the house for signs of someone else having been there. Which no one had but he did not believe me. He would count the eggs in the egg carton (seriously!) check my cell phone, smell my clothes in the dirty hamper....crazy things like that. Originally when we made the decision to divorce (well I made the decision) I stayed in our house with my daughter for a couple of weeks. My ex would pop in in the middle of night or would just hang around even though he agreed to move out. I think he did that thinking I would come around eventually and he could move back in and we would patch everything up. Well that was not what I wanted. Plus his parents lived one road over...so avoiding him was almost impossible. I made the decision then to move out myself and get an apartment. My daughter had her own room and she did come and stay with me some in the beginning. As time went on...she started becoming more distant though and not wanting to come over. Sometimes I think even scared to come over. I firmly believe that this was all because of her dad. For example- He came by the apartment one night and she was going to visit with me (it was actually his night to have her). So..he dropped her off while he was supposed to be going to the store. Well...he got to the apartment and saw that my sister was there visiting with me and she wanted to see my daughter. Well...my ex hates my family just because they are my family. They have never done anything to him. They don't like him but they have never done anything to him though. He created a big scene. After my daughter being in the house for 10 mins...he began banging on my front door demanding that our daughter leave with him right then. My sister asked him to please not create a scene in front of my daughter and he basically gave her a piece of his mind and threaten to physically hurt her (my sister) by motioning for her to come out side and settle it with him. He continued on ranting and raving until finally we had to call the police to resolve the problem. By this point my daughter is a nervous wreck and so was I. My ex made my daughter believe that all of that was my fault that night and that mommy wants the police to take him away from her. This is just one example of several that have happened. We went back to court about 6 months after the divorce because he wouldn't let me see her (he denies that though). The judge ruled that I was contempt of court because I did not forcefully drag my daughter out of her dad's home when I was supposed to get her. I didn't drag her out of his home because I am afraid of him and I think she is too. He is very hot headed even though he claims that he walks the straight and narrow line and is a Christian. I am terrifed of what he will say or do to her once he gets her back. I do think she loves me and misses me but is a afraid that he will be angry with her for feeling that way. It is a very, very hard situation for me to deal with. I have to take a deep breathe sometimes throughout the day and tell myself everything will be alright. I don't know what the best thing is to do anymore. My attorney said legally he can't keep her from me but the emotional part of it is not something that the court system will deal with. Their job is just to make sure you get the child when you are supposed to. If my daughter gets angry or if he gets angry..they can't help me there. Which I knew that but I am so scared of how he may be treating her. I keep thinking that everytime I call her...he standing there telling her "don't answer that phone!". I can't prove that but I know how he is better than anyone and he is capable of manipulating her. He did it to me for years. I would like to think that he wouldn't do that to our daughter-but my gut feeling says he would. So...over time it went from me getting her and taking her school (doing the mommy thing) to calling every night at 8:30pm (that was the time my ex said I needed to call if I wanted to call) and I get a voicemail almost everytime. The only time she answers the phone is if I leave a message saying that I am coming up to her school to eat lunch with her. She will answer the phone the next night only to tell me not to come up to the school. I don't know how to get through to her anymore....See Morekatyajini
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