I think I hate my chandelier
I think I made a wrong choice with my dining room chandelier.
I also don’t love the frame on my dining room mirror (although I do like the size of the mirror).
Any suggestions for a chandelier or pendant that is less- I don’t know-girly? Maybe something more modern? Some brass would be nice. And/Or some black. Worst comes to worst I guess I’ll paint it black or bronze.. or brasa
Also can anybody suggest a different frame or an idea to work with the frame for my mirror? (Please don’t try to talk me out of having the mirror though, I have to keep it!)
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5 years agoI was going to say the same. move the mirror to the wall behind the table and hang it horizontally. (not too high. Floor to the middle of the mirror should be in the 5' range) Like this one
Or like they've done here (this mirror could be lowered a few inches). I like how the darker wall color provides contrast w/the mirror and the wainscot
I like the chandy, you just need other elements in the room.
a wainscot w/a darker color above could be nice
darker wall color
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PROBeverlyFLADeziner
5 years agolast modified: 5 years agoYou can do the Gustavian Dining Style, but the mirror seems too large and there should be 3ft minimum from the edge of the table to the wall. I don't think you have that. The style of the chandelier works with what you are attempting to do. Now get the sizes of things correct.
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5 years agoeverdebz
5 years agoCould be 'busy' but thinking of a feminine color to echo the chandelier -- but in an abstract... not girly look.
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5 years agoThat chandelier has a special finish that goes with the design. It is French in styling and very beautiful. I would not recommend spray painting it. It will ruin the look. Sell it and purchase something you like better. That style is very popular right now and you can get most of your investment back. Work on the mirror and tablescape first. If you put the mirror lengthwise, I fear it will look like the "last supper" in your dining room. It will emphasize the narrow length of the room. (Nothing against the last supper of course, just saying.) If you want it to stand out more, paint the end wall a more saturated color and hang art for a backdrop for the chandelier.
People are afraid of deep colors but when paired with light colors, like your chandelier and table and with chairs covered, it can be beautiful. I would also consider painting the ceiling a very pretty light blue. People forget the ceiling is another "wall". With that chandelier and blue ceiling would be stunning.
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Flo Mangan
5 years agoHere is another idea! What if you put a mural on that back wall to make it look like a outside view! Then the mirror on the side wall would reflect it and really open up the room. Kind of like this look (which is a real window) but to give you the concept. Lots of great murals out there, that are quite affordable.
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5 years agoC...I glad you decided to paint it. I’ll get you a pic tomorrow ( right now we’re
involved in a big project in the DR)
In the mean time get a real fun arrangement, some color would be uplifting.
Here is our arrangement....note the brass strips in our China cabinet.the mirror on the back wall reflects the stained glass window on the
china cabinet wall. Everywhere you see gold on the fish - I painted it
with an enamel gold paint...(years ago) Our son bought it back for me
from a trip he took. It was a previously mint green.
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Flo Mangan
5 years agoPerhaps rather than spray painting it, you could start with getting some "Rub and Buff" (Hobby Lobby or Amazon has it) in black and doing the arms of the chandelier first to see if that works. You can also get Rub and Buff in metallic tones where you could do some more bronze on the main parts. Spray painting this will look cheap IMO.
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5 years agoC...I just took this pic...as I said we have some construction going on, so
this it - dust and all... We painted it in 2008.
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5 years agolast modified: 5 years agoWhat particular feature -- opposite to sweet curvy chandelier -- will do it?
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5 years agolast modified: 5 years agoIf you want neutral more so, not American pewter look, and what is that exactly... a homemade look I mean... hang a group on the wall.
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5 years agolast modified: 5 years agoNo room for shelf seems, but nice to add natural color... plates on nearby wall of room?
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5 years agolast modified: 5 years agoI'd LOVE to see that mirror antiqued. Would be very cool and add a little interest. It's a great mirror, but it's a little sterile, perhaps. And agree that the chandelier could use a little more character, too. Wooden chandelier might be neat. Sorry, below pic is a diff mirror style, but you get the pic re: the antiqued part...
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5 years agohere some option of ceramic and porcelain chandelier, that can be customized in finishing, sizes and colour, from bright white to copper,
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