I'm so angry that anyone would accuse you of such a thing. Hugs to you!

I don't know who said that but boo to them. You and Marilyn have been eternally grateful for all the help you've been given by us at KT and others.

Raven, of course you are most appreciative. I believe weeks ago I read one of your acknowledgements and notes of thanks.

I hope there is some error or misunderstanding. Please don't pay any more attention to this. It's abundantly clear that you are humbly grateful.

I can't always read or respond, but I enjoy your updates and photos. Best wishes for you and your husband in the coming year.

Whoa! Raven, I don't think you have anything to apologize for. Whoever sent that is a troll. He/she is mean spirited and has a personal problem that has nothing to do with you. You were just the target.

Raven, this person is so DISGUSTING! I can't imagine a KT member sent you this despicable message, but I can assure you they would be removed from our community table by majority vote!

Just let us know who did it and they are GONE! We love you and know what a kind and wonderful spirit you have, so accept our apologies on behalf of the KT family. Shucks, you sit at the head of the table most of the time - this person probably sits in the dark corner of the garage!

It's on a highjacking of one of the active threads. Came out of nowhere. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I don't think anyone else doubts your gratitude.

For those who sometimes accuse me of being the neighborhood bad guy - it wasn't me.

This is just sad. Pay no mind Raven. ((hugs))

Raven, you have be so grateful, thankful, and open about your entire experience. I think you have been personally floored by the outpouring of concern and help people on KT have presented to you and others.

If ANYONE has besmirched you, they should hang their head in shame. If they gave to get glory, shame on them.

Most people have no idea how comprehensive of a loss you have had, and you will never recoup all the time, hard work, and possessions that you have lost.

Raven, shake off their words. You are loved by us!

I'm sorry to learn that we have such a cold, heartless person at the KT. Anyone who questions you or Marilyn should leave the table immediately!! Many of us chose to contribute anonymously because we didn't want you to feel as though we were looking for gratitude. We gave out of love for you both. I have enjoyed your posts and relied on your computer expertise for years, so I consider you to be my friend. Marilyn has constantly amazed me by the depth of her love for animals, and I consider her to be my friend, also. Please know that you and Marilyn are special ladies, who we love dearly. We hated what you had to go through, and are glad that the contributions helped you get through the worst times. God bless you both!

Elmer, I don't believe anyone thought it was you!! Not to worry.

Oh, Raven, your post brought tears to my eyes. I can't imagine why anyone would think you haven't thanked everyone, unless they don't read the threads. It certainly sounds as if someone is being extremely cruel, maybe even a bit jealous? How could anyone expect you to individually thank each and everyone who contributed? I don't know how many people contributed, that would be a daunting task even under ideal circumstances! You, Marilyn, and Moni, too, are all cherished members here. And we all know that if any of us were in y'all's shoes, y'all would have done the same thing for us. Hopefully you can ignore this hateful person, and let it go.

Clearwater's biblical quote gives us very clear instructions:

"Matthew 6:3 - But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing

Matthew 6:4 - So that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you."

God Bless you!

Rusty

"Many of us chose to contribute anonymously because we didn't want you to feel as though we were looking for gratitude."

Yes.

I have always felt I owed YOU, Raven, as you have always been so generous with your knowledge, either here or on the Computer forum. I don't know how many times I have asked a question of you, and received timely help from you. Thank you, thank you!

Elmer not your style....never thought it was you.

Raven, I now see who is the source of your problem. Do not put any credence to that source. She is simply not worth it -- she has lashed out at others in the past.

I too contributed anonymously. Both because I didn't want to look like I was looking for attention, or gratitude and that I wish I were able to have done more.

Talk about blowing things out of proportion.

Like I said, I totally missed a thank you thread. A simple link would have been adequate instead of starting this drama. I never accused you of anything. I simply said I never received a thank you nor saw a special thread.

Raven, you are tired and cramped - yet again. You are too computer and internet savvy to take one thought from one stranger too seriously - or to take it personally.

I don't know what was said and I don't plan to look for it. Those of us who gave to bring you and Marilyn a little comfort did that with our hearts and we don't need or expect thanks. I'm just looking forward to the day we know you are both finished with this journey (and your misters too) so you are settled in complete and finished houses...floors intact, bit of breathing space ;0)

You owe us nothing. And one thing about having good friends - you never have to explain yourself to them. We get it. We get you. So please, just worry about the big stuff and this isn't big stuff to any of us.

Raven, if it was posted here, I didn't see it. Like you, I am forever grateful to the kindness of everyone who donated to us. I am not comfortable with people giving me money. Several times (before the flood) people suggested I get a go fund me for my animal rescues. I have always felt like if I choose to take in an animal, it is my responsibility to take care of them. I get a lot of help from the wildlife rehabbers and all the local shelters donate pet food to me. I get so much that I have to give a lot of it away, but I know many people on fixed budgets and social security that I can give to.

Like you, I had a lot of trouble trying to get into the page. Many of the names I saw were anonymous or were names that I didn't recognize. Most of the people here I know only as their screen names and I have no idea what their real names are. I also lost my computer and lap top in the flood. I have a very cheap cell phone and a rinky dinky service. I have to go outside to talk to anyone on the phone, if I want a better chance of the call going through. Internet on the phone was really spotty. We were staying "in town" and the service was a little better, but following the flood, as you know, there is so very much work to do,...we were mostly there at night and then we were worn out.

My husband hasn't worked since before the flood. The money did help very much to keep us afloat during that time. The damage to our house is too much for us to continue to live here....although we do. We live in one room. The house is going to have to be releveled. Jody said he will do it. I don't think he can. We are putting it up for sale in order to find a place to live that doesn't require so much work. There is no end to the work here. The problem with that....because wherever you live there is work and upkeep....is how long it takes to get anything done here. It takes me several hours a day just to take care of the animals. Of course, the animals are my choice. So I am not complaining about them, but today, for instance....Emery has hurt his leg again. He hurt it a few weeks ago, but this is much worse. I have to get him in a stall. I have to take down a panel from the round pen, and carry it thru mud over my ankles to the barn, in order to make a stall for him. I have to go to the feed store and buy shavings for the stall and then I have to figure out a way to get him in it.. We need a place that is better set up.

But again, I thank everyone who donated, or those that just sent a kind thought. It was very much appreciated. I am sure Raven would agree that going through something like this takes a toll on a person. I kept saying, I have had worse things happen to me, and I have....but it is a strain for anyone, and maybe more so at our ages. (Not saying you are old, Raven....and I am older) but it is traumatic to deal with and if a person has never had to deal with so much loss at one time, they may not understand how difficult it really is. Hugs to you, Raven, and all of our KT family.

Sorry this happened. I know how this can upset ,but you have no need to worry. I also add that I agree with every one who has posted. We should rember to be like you as you are a very caring person.

CindyMac, the problem was that you started attacking her in a completely unrelated thread by making passive-aggressive comments that were dripping with sarcasm. You can try to pretend they were meant innocently but no one is going to believe that. You could have messaged her privately instead of calling her out publicly, on a thread about a TV show, and sarcastically thanking her for her (lack of a) thank you email.

Chi, it wasn't even on my radar until she made the "thank you" comment. You're right, I sarcastically replied to it and she obviously knew exactly what I was talking about.

I'm not feeling that well.....usually read all the posts responses, but don't have time. DS is visiting and DD and SIL are joining us tomorrow night for dinner so I do a little something here and there. Just taking a break and read your post. It saddens me that someone was so insensitive and upset you so much. I don't know if it has been said in above responses, but when someone gives someone a gift which is what the go-fund-me was about, they should do it out of the goodness of their heart. While it is nice to be thanked, they shouldn't do it because they expect to be thanked orany kind of indebtedness! And yes, Moni thanked everyone on your behalf and on more than one occasion you thanked everyone. I don't know what this person or persons was looking for.

To be honest, I don't know Raven from Adam. I only post on KT occasionally and probably read less than a quarter of the threads here. I'm sorry that I missed her thank you(s) here. Something just hit me the wrong way recently. I should have let it go. I apologize.

Since yall lump me in with Elmer as a "bad person" I'm chiming in to say it wasn't me, either. I don't send money to people on the Internet. :)

No names were named here purposefully. As I stated my full intention was to make sure that if one person felt this way perhaps others did as well,and I wanted to address it. In this vein I wanted to go ahead and make a formal statement about how thankful I am,hoping to reach any that missed previous posts. I am not able to search for previous posts here right now. I was trying to find the pictures of the house and kitchen but it was not bringing up the correct forum to search. I am very sorry that anyone might feel this way and I completely apologize. This post was not meant to be anything other than a Thank You.

Raven, I used to have you kitchen bookmarked, but when Houzz moved them, they disappeared. I will try to find then again if you want me to.

I am motivated to give to others out of love, never for the thanks. Raven, soar above the pettiness.

I would greatly appreciate it. I tried searching on the kitchen forum also. I managed to get a few from the fantasy brown thread. I need them for the real estate information. I of course lost most of mine with everything else. Or if someone knows how to search here. It used to ask if you want to search in the KT or Kitchen etc now it's not showing that it list advice, pictures, not the forum.

Edit I have managed to find one

https://www.gardenweb.com/discussions/4236125/some-updates-on-the-kitchen?n=41

I'm pretty sure I've seen you say more than once how grateful you have been for what was done to help you! I'm not terribly active here but come here at least once a day and read some treads and I have seen you say "thank you" more than once! I'm sure everyone knows you are grateful. I cannot even imagine having to go through what all you went through in that flood....absolutely horrifying! You and your husband and doggie are lucky to be alive!

LOL @ Elmer!

Since yall lump me in with Elmer

Y'all means all of us and you know we are not all lumping you in with anyone. Besides, Elmer has many good qualities, (and so do you) and when we tease him about his other qualities he takes it with pretty good humor most of the time. And he is the fern that shows off all of us beautiful roses in the Gardenweb Bouquet :)

Raven, I found this one.

https://www.gardenweb.com/discussions/4236125/some-updates-on-the-kitchen?n=41

lucille, I'm just a fern? That's an outrage. At least you didn't accuse me of being the thorn on the rose.

I'll have to remember you are now "fern"...HAHA!

Okay Elmer, what would you RATHER be?

Elmer, you un-prickly sweet little goat you. You're too funny. I never get to the Rose forums anymore, been paying too much attention to orange weeds. I only have a few rises now -- maladies and junky soil. I'm also in Z5a and winters like this one take out some of my good ones. I had a lovely Graham Thomas that a long hard winter rubbed out. Sigh. I'll have to skip in over to ? Rose gallery?.

Elmer, you can have assertive opinions, but never would I categorize you as unkind or even someone who got moody or one to take quick offense. But then, I just drop in here now and then.

Cindy, that's good of you to apologize if you thought you caused hard feelings.

And to everyone, you know that this is a special place. Many times any of us can feel cranky, tired, or be less patient than is best for us or anyone else. I'm glad that we can roll with the mistaken punches and move one. We err, correct, move on. Scuse typos.

My dear Raven, I am sorry that you felt the need to write this. I am more of an infrequent reader (although for quite a few years) here than a 'card carrying member' or much of a contributor but I do know your story and would never think that you would be anything but above board. I'd love to hug you if I could.

eld, you've challenged me to come up with something clever in a short period of time. That's not necessarily my forte. Try this - think of me as your GPS or autopilot, silently keeping vigil but offering route or position alternatives when it appears to me you could use more information.

I appreciate the support, I love you all too, believe me. Well no, not really, I love many of you. At least some of you. Maybe I should say some more than others and leave it at that.

LOL Elmer!!!!!

I didn't read the thread (yet), but raven, I've read your helpful computer advice many times. I consider that paying it forward, and no other thanks needed.

My first reaction was "how dare any upset "our" Raven. Yes that's how I feel about all of you. If we had to do it again, I would bet we would all do the same. By helping a person in need, we raise our level of empathy and understanding and require no thank you's at all. Wild horses wouldn't have stopped us. We were rooting and praying for both of you throughout the ugly ordeal and are looking forward to when you are well settled. Now that there has been an apology, I feel this just needs to be shut down. None of us are perfect. Tomorrow is a new day. All we need is humility and love.

Raven and Marilyn, as you can see from these posts, you are valued members of this forum. You have been through a lot and throughout have shown grace, dignity, gratitude, and thoughtfulness. Please don't allow the opinion of one person to bring you down.

Really? Awe...Raven, I’m sorry. You know you have a lot of friends here and that’s the farthest thing from our thoughts. For me personally, I appreciated knowing that the little bit I could give would actually make a difference; so often that feeling is lost when giving to a large charity. I found great joy in the experience because of it. When we were flooded and lost everything we in Lake Charles, a family we didn’t even know opened their home to us for as long as we needed shelter. I’ll never forget their kind generosity. Giving to all the go fund me accounts was just a way to pay it forward a bit. I also thought it was beautiful how people here all came together to help those in our forum that really needed it. Try not to let the commentary of one ruin the experience or degrade how special it really was.

I can't put it any better than others here already have, but I was glad to help two women who do so much to help others.

I donated to both anonymously and have heard heartfelt thanks from both. Don't pay attention to the naysayers.

This is so sad. We all know how thankful you are, both you and Marilyn. I just hope none of us will have to walk in your shoes or experience what you have had to endure with the flooding and the fear of losing your animals or getting them to safety like Marilyn had to.

Raven, you are trying to do all this on a smart phone aren't you? I can't imagine how. I don't even use my Ipad mini, except for to load pictures. The desktop shows SO much more and is easier to use than the MIni. I don't have a smart phone, but my husband does and he doesn't see at all the same things that I do.

I can see message under your name, but I have no idea how you could see anything I sent you. I can try a test message if you want.

Hi Raven, I sent you a message from my android using Chrome. I wonder if it's a browser or cookie issue?