Just how long do you "know" each other?
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Comments (2)When they're not dead, they have survived. You'll know if they are dead. Like Donna said, look for new growth. The old leaves that suffered wilt may not make it, but if new ones are growing, then there is hope for the plant. If you're 4 days in, you're probably ok. If the plant were going to die, it would likely have done it by now. Susan...See More6 rooms all open to each other-how do I decorate them all?!!HELP!
Comments (9)I agree with jerseygirl and live with the space for awhile before committing major changes and you can do an accent wall if there's not a good place for change of paint color. I'm in the process of picking colors with 5 rooms connecting and another 2 thru doors/doorways. I love saturated color. I have 4 reds on my DR wall and will pick one when I pick the copper in the sitting room (3 choices on wall) and greens (4 choices) in the office. The kitchen is already Hawthorne yellow and the half bath is Blue Lapis. The music room will be the 2 lilac colors that got rejected from the sitting room. I'm tying all the rooms together with the same color trim - white dove. My 185 year old fire places are all different marbles - gotta try to strip one that was painted. The main rooms have natural oak floors and the minor rooms fir (over 100 years old). I'm not too worried about the other woods in the rooms - I just make it work for that room. I have cherry in my kitchen, mahogany in the DR, and black walnut doors. I've been living with 3' x 4' paint swatches for weeks until something speaks to me. The 1st time I threw up lilac in the sitting room I knew it was wrong. I had some friends who are good with color help me pick another scheme (copper). I have a dark purple couch and chair for that room. Even though one color might work great in one room with the furniture, they all need to play "nice" together when viewed from room to room. I picked a red I love but I don't know how it will play with the green and copper so I'm holding off until i figure out the other rooms. I did start with a designer to help me narrow down my choices so I can get painting sooner. (I could have probably done it but it would have taken me a year!) She kept saying "This is so much fun, I should be paying you." What she suggested is have one tying feature - for me it's the same color trim from room to room....See Moreb/friend and son dont like each other, what to do?
Comments (5)thank you all for your comments. You are all right of course, I haven't helped my son at all by doing everything for him and not expecting anything from him and I so want to change all that. When my b/f was living here as a lodger I was so caught up in the conflict that I couldnt see which way to turn, my son wasnt going to college or working just lazing in bed all day and my b/f works nights so would get up midday and phone me at work and complain that son had his friends in so I would phone son and tell him no friends in the house whilst you're not working as all they do is watch TV, he would react with why is b/f telling on me, it just went round and round in circles with no end in sight. I tried to talk to my b/f and ask him to try a different tactic with my son such as 'shall we paint the hallway for your mum' so when she gets home from work she has something to be pleased about? Or one of them cooking the dinner would have been nice! But no just row after row. Some days I would get my son up in the morning and some days it was easier to leave him in bed he just got himself in a whole cycle of doing nothing which is so hard to break if you dont have anything to get up for. I couldnt work out how to help him. My b/f has now moved into his own place and things are better between my son and I because I am not so on edge and there is no conflict here. My son does seem happier when b/f isnt around and thats probably because my b/f was a lodger, there was never any discussion with my son as to whether he was happy to have him living here and he must have felt like his opinion didnt matter. I do feel like I have been a rubbish mother but then again even tho my son is going thro a lazy stage he still has lots of good qualities just a shame b/f never bothers to mention them. and I have allowed my guilt over his father dying to cloud my judgement. I know now that I need to toughen up, he is now collecting unemployment and has agreed to give me money from that towards housekeeping. He is looking for a job and hopefully he will soon realise he cant live on unemployment benefit and have nice things, that will give him the motivation to take any job as at the moment he seems a but choosy about what job he takes (not that there are lots on offer!). In some strange way I feel as though its my fault and as though I havent been in control of my life and I want to ake back that control. I almost feel like my b/f was justified in his critisism of my son why I dont know, maybe at the moment Im just feeling so down and low that I thought b/f was right, he kept telling me I wasnt doing the right thing, I was being too soft, letting my son get away with everything and that he was lazy etc etc. He kept telling my son he wasnt helping me and he should be doing this should be doing that. I just got fed up with hearing it all the time even tho I knew he was right, it was like he was living in my house just telling me what I was doing wrong with no suggestion of how to right it. I do need to do a lot of soul searching. I probably need to get rid of my b/f as its draining all my energy, he knows how much it would mean to me for him to get divorced but because his wife wont sign the papers he now has to wait a few more months, but actually he could do it now, only he wont because he doesnt have the money at the moment. So I cant be that important to him. I know Im looking for advice and even so far as Im looking for someone to tell me the right thing to do, but I know in my heart I have to make that decision and I have to look into the future and its not going to be much of a future if b/f and son cant get on, and Ive probably been swayed a lot by b/f telling me he loves me so much and sending me lovely text messages to that effect, but really actions speak louder than words....See MoreHow do you know if it’s Spider Mites or just Spiders?
Comments (14)Susanne - Do the leaves look like this? The brown speck is dirt. I noticed that a few of the leaves have a light white dusting. Not sure if it's just dust or something else. I also noticed this morning that there were spider webs. The last several months I've had problems with house spiders so initially I thought it was just my usual spider problem, but now I am wondering if it's a case of spider mites. Here are photos of the webs on the key lime. I've been having problems with the key lime plants. The lemons are fine, but I'm not sure if it's because they are are so much larger than the key limes....See More- 8 years ago
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