I am not trying to disparage the ACA. Prior to the HIPPA regulations years ago you are correct SSN were used. We have not used them for at least 5-6 years. This was prior to the ACA. I run a dental office and have run medical offices in the past. Your insurance companies may require your SSN when you sign up for insurance; but your doctor, dentist, etc do not require it for processing your forms. You should have an updated ID card from your insurance company that has your individual and group numbers on it. The software used by dental offices now utilizes the these numbers and we NEVER have to key in a SSN. Processing claims is done electronically and I NEVER have to key in a social to process. I do not know what the ACA requires as far as ID. It is my understanding that if you are still getting your insurance through an insurance co. you use their number which is not SSN. If the government state or local pays for your insurance via ACA or medicare they in fact utilize your SSN, as it is your governmental ID number. Three years ago I was a victim of identity theft and going through that process was told that only banking and the social security administration needed your SSN. Our identities were stolen via our BANK. By a bank employee, a loan officer. Who of course had all of our info. In the three years since I refuse to put my social on a form for a random person or online. Ever.

I think many women fully embrace their side of the family, and do the bare minimum for her husbands side. How selfish and how sad. I am surprised at how many men allow this, unless his side of the family creates emotional trauma or pain with their words or behavior. Then I understand the distance. You mentioned believer that they have enough money that they could hire housekeeping out. No problem. Do you realize that hiring house keeping is something many people can't do, even if they can afford it? For many people it is traumatic to have a stranger in their home and personal space, touching or going through their things, to clean. They can find it nearly impossible to make the phone call to allow this person into their personal space. They may fear the housekeeper stealing, or moving things, or a myriad of other reasons. For many people, it can feel threatening. Some may have a cleaning woman, and the housekeeping falls apart within a day or two after the cleaning service has left, and the house returns right back to its messy state. For people who struggle with messiness and disorganization, it creates a situation called CHAOS (which stands for: Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome). She may be able to have her family over, because they love her, and are not judging her. (Or maybe her family isn't allowed in, either). This problem can affect people from all walks of life. They may look neat and attractive, but simply lack the organizational skills, or energy, ability, or time to keep a home tidy. It may be something she has struggled with for years. Some people are able to entertain in the midst of mess and not care what others think. Others can't breathe, feeling vulnerable and judged and exposed. Believer, it sounds like you should talk or write a letter to your brother about the pain of never hearing from him, and the hurt that he keeps you at arms length. Do not attack his wife. Just tell him you need to know he cares. Can he see you now and then for pizza, or just call to say hi? And you need to be able to hear without defending yourself if he tells you why. If you have said or done things that have hurt his wife, at one time or another? Just listen and ponder his side of this distance, without excuse, or accusation, or defending yourself. Just listen and learn. And then go home and ponder what he has to say.

OK ... here we go. It all evidently happened Friday night. Quoting from a message board ... Details on Chimas removal from Big Brother: Â9:50 PM - The PoV competition is set up for practice. Kevin goes to wake Chima to come out and give it a try since sheÂs nominated. Chima gets up without her microphone and goes out. Â9:55 PM - Big Brother tells Chima to put on her mic. She refuses. Â10:00 PM - Kevin kindly goes and gets ChimaÂs mic for her. Natalie runs it to Chima who immediately throws it in the hot tub. Natalie goes to fish it out of the hot tub and tells Chima that maybe she wonÂt have to practice afterall (hah!). Â11:00 PM - Big Brother tells Chima to replace her mic. She refuses so Kevin gets it for her, again. Chima tells production to, um, put something in their mouths and create a vaccum Â11:15 PM - Big Brother has to ask Chima again to put back on her mic. Â2:45 AM - Live Feeds are back and Chima is missing. Jeff says, "and then there were seven." Rumor has it that during the downtime in the feeds a house meeting was held. Chima was told sheÂd have to pay for the microphone she destroyed. Chima reacted as youÂd expect Chima to react and she was removed from the house. Update 2: Mike: Hey Guys, can you all come into the Livingroom please? We need to have a house meeting. Â.  they speak Â. Â. AG [Allison Grodner]: You will be paying for the mic pack Chima, this will come out your stipend. Chima: You know what? ***** this *****. IÂm outta here. love you, natÂyou too Lydia. *throws something* (her mic?) She presses the diary room button, it doesnÂt go green, she tries to pull the door open (EVERYONE is in the living room sitting down btw) and Chima says "donÂt ***** with me, open this damn door. NOW!" Then Nat and Lydia want to leave with her, but production asks them to remain a moment.. AG: Everyone, PLEASE calm down! Lydia gets up and tries to open the DR door, bangs on it, crying. Chima was SCREAMING at AG! The entire control room was told to record everything in case something happened. Security may have been there too. Update 3: Kevin just revealed on the live feeds that Chima will be banned from all media outlets owned by Viacom (CBS parent company) that includes places like MTV, VH1 (Sorry, no ÂChima of Love then, gag), BET, etc. Kevin also warned her against slandering the BB production because theyÂll sue her, but she told him she "has friends." Delusional to the very end. He also pointed out ChimaÂs picture has still not being Âgrayed out. Update 4: CBS released this press statement today semi-clarifying ChimaÂs eviction though they note the full details will not be released until a future episode. IÂm guessing weÂll see it on Tuesday nightÂs Big Brother show. "Chima has been evicted by the producers from the Big Brother house for violating the rules. She will not be part of the showÂs jury. Her eviction will be addressed on an upcoming broadcast of the show." Did producers truly evict Chima or did they allow her to leave but and then decide to say it was their choice? With ChimaÂs blockade from media interviews I doubt weÂll ever know for sure. ==================== Good for BB! Her in-your-face style would have made me very uncomfortable, I don't like confrontations of that sort.

I went to a monthly picnic potluck in the park. We had salads, tacos, chips and little smokies in sauce along with cupcakes and mini cinnamon rolls. It's true potluck and you might have only 4 people show up or twenty. It was a good turnout with a lot of variety. There have been times when it was only desserts. DD met me there with the grand kids when it was toward the end so we could spend some time together. DGD entertained us with a song and dance she performed on top of an empty table. The world is her stage and she loves to rock out. LOL. She's 4. She wanted her 2 year old brother to take a turn but he was busy passing out Cheetos to everyone so we would be orange like him. ;-) Spent the rest of the day with DD and kids. Before I came home I drove another 12 miles to a diner I like. They have an extra special turkey club. it comes with avocado and cheese in addition to the turkey, bacon. lettuce and tomato. It's huge and the turkey is fresh roasted and cut thick. That was dinner with fruit on the side (watermelon, strawberries, bananas and cantaloupe.