Thanks for the advice. I'm still trying to find a place for the orchid outdoors. There doesn't seem to be anywhere outside that doesn't get direct sunlight for hours at a time. Fortunately, I don't have any slugs outside (eww), and I have many potted plants outside that seem to be bug free for an occasional spider, so I moved the orchid around. For a while, it was on a gravel path. But, as I said I don't even know where to keep it outside, so it goes in and out throughout the day. I will also look for something to raise it up on once I find a place outside. Jane, that would be great if it would spike! Sarah

My Husband is not interested in me but wants sex ..i feel am used only for sex. He says he loves me but from the beginning of our marriage he has no interest in me he has no topic to talk to me but i have seen him talking happily with other women as if they hadn't seen for ages. Even with his male friends he talks lot. But what he talks to me is ....did u had lunch, or had fud...he treats me like a strange.r he is interested in others but not in me. All he wants is sex. If I give him sex he stays till he gets it and after sex ask me to sleep in my room. if don't give him sex he has no time to spent with me. I feel like a real life prostitute. He never said me a truth. Eg..he is an add filim director...since marriage he said he has no contact number of any models....but his phone was full of girls phone numbers. And only a few male phone numbers. Which he claimed to be his childhood friends. I recently found out that it was of 50% to 40% models numbers. He never introduced me to any friends. And if there is any friends marriage he avoids me, saying who am i to come or that only he was called.When I ask he says its non of my business. I feel a stranger in his life. He always has explanation for what ever he does... Once i saw a lady is friend when came to our house and when my husband and she was talking she touched my husband's thighs many times.. And she sits so close that i get irritated... When I asked him why he dint react . he said that it was her culture and that I was small hearted...he says its non my business. Am an Indian woman and my culture is not that. He goes in the morning for work comes back at 8pm , 12pm .and if c he comes early he goes to see his friends. He says he hardly sees them but he sees me daily , but he sees his friends daily....!!!! We never had a honeymoon trip in our life. But he enjoys his life. Goes for long trips with friends. I feel avoided and rejected he loves watching prone and he comments on other women's sexual part . he even commented about one of my cousin sister's breast. I feel offended . what should I do am 4 months pregnant too....

I hang around this and a few other forums even though I haven't remodeled my kitchen since 2003. Well, actually, it was 1989/90 when we gutted the house and the "new" kitchen was installed. In 2003 all we did was put in new flooring and countertops...my initial amateur attempt at kitchen design in 1989 actually turned out pretty well. A few mistakes but nothing earthshattering. Maybe I was just lucky. Actually, in our neighborhood we ARE the Joneses. The only other people who have installed fancy new kitchens are the ones who bulldozed the original small house and popped up a larger duplex atop our bigger-than-average city lots. Most long-time homeowners in my area are using original 1930's and 1940's kitchens. With the downturn in the market I don't foresee many remodels taking place here. This is a starter neighborhood; Ikea cabs are considered fancy (which they are, compared to the built-in-place flimsy wood originals most HO have). Because my kitchen is nicely functional, but also 19 yrs old and done on the proverbial shoestring (okay, maybe two shoestrings), it lacks many design and style features I see in photos (both pro and amateur) nowadays. Big kitchens and pro-style appliances weren't around when I was originally running up my credit cards at Home Depot. But I feel lucky; most of my family and friends are suffering with their much more dated, much less functional original kitchens. I have 30' of countertop space, and wonderful Kraftmaid frameless semi-custom cabs, with spice pullouts, roll-out double pantries, EZ reach upper corners, Lazy Susan corner bases - all useful things that are way beyond what even remodeled kitchens have around here, and are only dreams for most of my neighbors. They envy our double-pane picture windows, high ceilings, recessed lights - heck, most of them don't even have an exhaust fan! If I had a spare $50K, or even $35K, I'd update this kitchen into something more photo-worthy. But the layout would remain exactly the same. It would just be "window-dressing". Fun, but not worth doing unless I have nothing better to do with the money (and I do, since we'll need a new roof and furnace in the next 5 yrs, LOL - gotta do those things first!). I love buying kitchen magazines for the same reason I hang around these forums. Because I haven't done a kitchen top-to-bottom in quite a while, I learn a lot about how things have changed, what's new on the market, what to do and what not to do, etc. etc. Since this isn't our 'forever' house (not designed for easy maintenance when elderly), I figure at some point I might be remodeling another kitchen (shudder) someday. I like to keep up on things, and I enjoy looking at other people's kitchens, just for the fun of it. Even if much of it is not to my taste, it is always enjoyable to see what others are doing and congratulate them on a job well-done. Remodeling is hard work, mentally exhausting (and physically so if you're a DIYer) and often demoralizing. It is great to see stories shared here, advice freely given, and generous doses of sympathy when needed, amongst strangers.

What should you use? You may not know that that is a loaded question. I asked a plant pathologist what to use to kill viruses in phloem. He asked four virologists and they had two different answers. Three said a solution of water and bleach, the fourth said the legal thing which is bleach is not an approved chemical for killing viruses. What I have done when creeping black crud (probably a bacteria and I had spread it with my secateurs) had to be removed. Cut below the crud. Wipe secateurs with conc. bleach. Wipe them dry. Cut again another half inch down. Wipe with bleach, wipe blades dry. Let blades heat in sun for ten minutes each side. Come back and cut again. And that stopped that problem. (And I do have two sets of secateurs.) Rose Rosette: If we see it on just one cane, I cut as low on the cane as possible. Then leave the secateurs out to sun scald them. From what I've seen RRD doesn't move down a cane all that fast. there are many many sieve cells it has to pass through. I think there are some major, unstudied differences in speed of transmission within canes of different classes of roses.