My Separation Story... Message: Don't give in.. light around corner
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Comments (2)Thanks for all your hard work Karen! Can't wait to read it in its entirety. Jodi-...See MoreMy marriage is falling apart, I don't know what to do
Comments (14)DistressedWife, this husband of yours has problems and he is using you to make himself feel better about himself. That's what I think. He feels better after he has chastised you, belittled you. He wants to set the rules. I think that he needs a good kick up the arse but not by you. He's not worth a kick up the arse. I know he was your best friend and I suppose you were his best friend but now that you are married, he no longer seems to see you that way. You are his wife. He feels entitled. Well, he's wrong. But he won't know or think he's wrong. He's got a lot of growing up to do and that is his problem. Your problem is him, and a little bit you. (You need to build up your self esteem.) You have to get brave. Get yourself organised, pack your stuff, and get out to a better place. Your father's house seems like a good option. Take some control of your life and you will feel that you have some control. I wouldn't do this when he is around. Wait until he's gone out. He won't want you to have control over your life. And of course he'll want you back. He wants you as his underling. He is not fit to be your husband. Maybe one day he will be. But only he can fix himself. The longer you are away from him, the more likely he is to be motivated to do so. My de facto husband does bot believe in marriage, that's why he and I never married. He thinks that when people marry, they change. I think he is right. Life is about changing our minds. I changed my mind about ever wanting to marry my de facto. You might change your mind about never wanting a divorce. Or you might decide to stop wanting to work at your marriage when you are the only one doing so. For it takes two, to make a marriage work, and at the moment he has no intention. You can't change him but you can change you. And your predicament. All the best. And I'll be sending good vibes your way....See MoreIf Not A Fan Of Extreme Layering--Don't Open!
Comments (56)(Had to scroll back to find the "nude dude". I like 'em.) I'm not a minimalist so all the "stuff" I would find interesting to visit. I'm not a fan of red rooms but so many over stuffed rooms I've seen pictures of are red so maybe that's part of the formula? The massive numbers of pillows on the sofas drive me nuts! I can imagine sitting down (daintily) and having them fall over my shoulders onto the floor, knocking the snifter of cognac out of my hand on the way down. Damage to expensive carpets be damned - I hate to waste cognac!...See MoreDecorating around curtains I don't love but too expensive to replace
Comments (63)For anyone on a budget I suggest you locate the nearest (larger) Habitat for Humanity Restore Store. Another place to look is Goodwill. Inventory changes daily w/donations and sales. Some charity/church sponsored thrift stores also sell furniture. I didn't know these places existed until my Sister-In-Law suggested we stop. I bought a heavy solid oak platform rocker from Habitat on a furniture clearance day for <$40. (I sniffed the cushions before buying.) A month or so later I bought a sturdy solid oak floor lamp/table/combo there for $10. Sometimes there is nothing interesting; other times you find a treasure. It's well worth a look....See More- 9 years ago
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