Losing Our Parents (and our dog!)
texanjana
6 years ago
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Siiiiggh....we're losing our Golden...
Comments (41)My prayers are with all of you. The only fault our companions have is that they do not live long enough. They come into our lives and fill our hearts then leave it with a huge, empty spot never to be completely filled. But they fill our hearts so much that the hole is cushioned with all the memories of all the wonderful joy we shared with them. After my Kiki kitty girl passed I went through all my extra photos from the past 17 years. You know, all those duplicates from prior to digital. I was amazed to see just how often she and our pup were actually in pictures, unintentionally. Like when we take a pic of a sofa to post here and BAM there is the cat lounging on the chair in the corner. Well I took all those photos and put them in an album. No written words, just pictures. They tell their own story. It was the best therapy ever. I did manage to make my buddy's book while he was still living. I need to start my pup's book. I think I will need a bigger book. Like the other reply said, I have taken a ton of him intentionally. I am in process of making a shadow box with his collar. It will make me cry every time I look at it, but the happy thoughts will flood in and make it so worth daydreaming. Do whatever your heart tells you to make Sashi comfortable. It is all we can do for those we love, and you obviously love Sashi. Take care. Remember the Rainbow Bridge....See MoreRespecting our parents and teachers etc
Comments (20)Many children today are not being 'parented' by anyone. Mom and (maybe) Dad only see their kids for a few minutes a day, when they are rushing off to work and when they return tired from work. Yes, there have always been some families where parents worked long hours, but in the not-so-distant past Grandma or Auntie was at home doing some care-giving, raising the kids. In the area where my DIL teaches a tiny minority of the children are living with a close relation. Many go 'home' to an array of ever-changing adults or foster homes. Some who 'go home to Mom' go home to Mom, her current live-in and drug and alcohol 'parties' all night. In the area where we raised our DS rows of Mercedes and Jags were at the daycare as early as six a.m. to drop off children before Mom and Dad commuted into the city to their law or investment offices. Parents bragged that at *their* daycare the ratio of children to caregivers was 'only six to one'. If parents' jobs required a lot of travel, there was often a non-English-speaking housekeeper. In the park I would meet three-year-olds fluent in Spanish or Polish, their English halting. 'Hired help' is no substitute for parenting. It's not the same *care* or child *raising*. Many children today grow up from infancy in group 'care'-giving settings. Then they go to 'pre'-school starting at three or even younger. Grammar school teachers who started teaching 'parented' children had to adjust to a very different kind of child, one who had learned to act out to be noticed or who was unable to think independently of the group or teacher. As for discipline, I cannot see how striking a child teaches anything except that big people can hit smaller ones. Shunning, the withdrawl of approval by a loved one, motivates most kids to behave appropriately. Of course, first they have to LOVE and feel loved!...See MoreDD has allergies to our dog...and he's a biter!
Comments (18)Oh please, you fit the perfect profile of someone who is just tired of taking care of a dog now that you have a child. When you make a commitment to a pet then fail to follow through, while trying to blame it on the dog's behavior you're going to get negative comments. From your very first post: 'They are the best of playmates at times, but I am always watching them which is exhausting. Dd also has allergies and I'm a neat freak about it around the house...I know she has allergies to our dog for sure.' You're tired of watching the dog to make sure he doesn't bite your child. Why you wouldn't keep them separated when you say the dog has bitten her hand several times seems ridiculous and almost unbelievable. And 'you know' she has allergies to your dog 'for sure'. I guess you wouldn't have to be such a neat freak about the allergies if you dump the dog. But then in another post you indicate having a foster dog sounds like a good idea because your child just loves dogs... so is she allergic or not? Maybe she's just allergic to your dog, the one you don't want anymore. I hope your parents keep the dog and provide it with a good home. I hope you don't get another pet until you understand they are not disposable....See MoreWe lost our grand dog this week
Comments (38)Hugs and sympathy to you, PKponder. I wish dogs could live as long as the people who love them. Our DS and family have had to put down the male and female Boxers they bought as newlyweds -- both of whom our DGS knew and loved. Last year they had to euthanize the male Boxer they adopted, who was loved by *both* grandchildren for the last six years. We always had a dog when DS was growing up. Today they say that having a dog in the family is healthy for children. Neither DS nor either grandchild (12 and 6) has any allergies..so far....See Moretexanjana
6 years ago
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