I have a great daughter who has been a pro athlete.
I think everything is a competition to her including reasonable neatness in my home. When she is at rock bottom with being a slob, she talks incessantly about moving out. I suspect she thinks that as a widow I would be too lonely. She will even sleep in the living room because her bed etc full of everything. Honestly would miss her but not her slovenliness . Again gave her rules and I am so done asking, forgiving, doing it for her. A housekeeper couldnt even vacuum or dust given the junk all over. done, done and done Respect the home, me and herself or Bye Girl