Unable to form a girl gang or just do girls' night out...

livelifekingsize

Hi: I just turned 50 and happily married with one kid in college, the other in HS. I work p/t and generally keep busy. But I do wish sometimes I had a female friend to just hang out with, go shopping or check out a new bar etc. Hubby is a homebody and very content with his Perry Mason books and McGyver re-runs. We occasionally do family stuff and go out. But it will be so nice to have friends I could regularly hang out with. The weekends get boring doing the same old chores, Costco runs etc.


I've tried volunteering but no friendships have formed from this or from my p/t job. I do contact my very small circle of friends to see if they want to walk outside, watch a movie but nobody responds positively. I guess everyone's busy with their own stuff. So now I've stopped calling these friends - I feel silly to initiate things all the time.


Why is it so hard to form steady female friendships here? I came to USA 25 years ago from India..I just had to stand on the balcony there and people would wave to me, the milkman would come etc, I'd hang out with my co-workers: it didn't seem so lonely there.


Thanks for reading this!!

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sushipup1

Have you tried classes at your local adult school, like a yoga class or conversational Italian or floral design? We moved across country, and meeting new people is a challenge, I agree. Our local adult school is good, and the local library has a number of weekly events, from card games to discussion groups.

Good luck, you'll make more friends!

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livelifekingsize

I tried zumba for a year and I do attend library events but nothing leads to friendships, just "being busy."

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bleusblue2

Do you know about meetup.com? Look it up online -- you find people with similar interests -- I found French conversation, my neighbour joined people who want to speak Italian at dinner. Cooking, reading, dancing, nature, so many interests. Sometimes only 3 people in the group. It opens your pool of acquaintances and maybe you'll find friends. You can choose activities by distance from your home. I myself am fortunate. I live in the city and a neighbourhood with longtime coffee shops. There are about 6 of us who have coffee at varying times, sometimes planned, sometimes on the spur of the moment. Sometimes all 6 but usually just one or two. I have lived here for thirty years and though it's a big city, the neighbourhood feels like a small town. Could you try joining some community improvement association? I wish you some easy-to-get-together friends!

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bleusblue2

Wren, I would also add -- these meetings are usually for an hour, occasionally two. Since we live in walking distance that's a given -- we don't have to commit to a long visit. Every once in a while we all met and go to supper or celebrate a birthday.

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livelifekingsize

Yes, I am part of meetup.org and I have gone to a few meetups (once a year or so). I will try to be more active there. thank you bleusblue2

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mdln

Some of my dearest friends I met volunteering. Volunteer at a place you want to support. For me it was at an animal rescue/shelter.

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Pea

Find people with like interests...like i make art and do art shows and have a group of local people i know that do similar things. A friend that likes motorcycles and has joined a group that rides every sunday to a different locale to have lunch.

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