I tried zumba for a year and I do attend library events but nothing leads to friendships, just "being busy."

Do you know about meetup.com? Look it up online -- you find people with similar interests -- I found French conversation, my neighbour joined people who want to speak Italian at dinner. Cooking, reading, dancing, nature, so many interests. Sometimes only 3 people in the group. It opens your pool of acquaintances and maybe you'll find friends. You can choose activities by distance from your home. I myself am fortunate. I live in the city and a neighbourhood with longtime coffee shops. There are about 6 of us who have coffee at varying times, sometimes planned, sometimes on the spur of the moment. Sometimes all 6 but usually just one or two. I have lived here for thirty years and though it's a big city, the neighbourhood feels like a small town. Could you try joining some community improvement association? I wish you some easy-to-get-together friends!

Wren, I would also add -- these meetings are usually for an hour, occasionally two. Since we live in walking distance that's a given -- we don't have to commit to a long visit. Every once in a while we all met and go to supper or celebrate a birthday.

Yes, I am part of meetup.org and I have gone to a few meetups (once a year or so). I will try to be more active there. thank you bleusblue2

Some of my dearest friends I met volunteering. Volunteer at a place you want to support. For me it was at an animal rescue/shelter.

Find people with like interests...like i make art and do art shows and have a group of local people i know that do similar things. A friend that likes motorcycles and has joined a group that rides every sunday to a different locale to have lunch.