Yeah, but B&D can rock too! Just to get the message across, here are the lyrics, w/o the "visuals": "You can buy you a brand new truck Chrome it all out, jack it way up You can build you a house up high on a hill With a pool and a pond and a view to kill You can make all the money in sight But you ain't livin' the good life Til you put a girl in it You ain't got nothin' What's it all worth Without a little lovin' Put a girl in it Some huggin' and some kissin' If your world's got somethin' missin' Just put a girl in it..." True sentiment? Here's the part that inspired some producer to say "Hey guys, you're getting a little long in the tooth, and nobody's going to watch a video of you and your missus snuggling on the front porch watching the sunset, and this is a dance tune anyway, so how about we just get a couple hundred sweet young things to have a bikini beer bash while you enjoy *that* view?": "You can write you a country song The DJ wont put it on They won't dance or sing along (Chorus) If you're ridin' in your truck Put a girl in it If you're gonna have a party Put a girl in it If you wanna live the good life Better put a gir-r-rl in it" Speaking of something missing - I don't know what happened to all the "g"s - I don't know anybody who drops them off the end of every single word!

I'm with salgal and iowagirl2009. In my opinion, this computer should be wiped clean, "low-level" formatted and reloaded. You lost everything on it already so there can't be much on there of importance yet that can't be backed up after a thorough virus/malware check. This doesn't sit right with me. And OK, the computer and relationship issues are separate issues so deal with them separately. But I would have someone competent do a complete drive wipe and start over. My first thought was they could have slipped in a "back door". For peace of mind, that thing would be sanitized. The son's dealing with this so far. If they're friends, they're friends. Have a sit-down and encourage him to be cautious, tell him you're there for him but you're not going to try to run his life. It sounds like that's where he's at anyway. Illegal to have a computer by the window? That's a new one on me! :) Password recovery because someone who worked on your computer wouldn't give you your passwords? LOL Sorry, but nope. That's not rational. They're not you're IT person, they were supposed to clean malware from your system and they weren't able to do that so how should they be given credibility to have such control over your system? Nope. No way. Uh-uh. Not in this lifetime. Yes, the Admin and separate accounts being kept separate is a good way to go, but in all my years of servicing computers, there's NO WAY I'd ever put myself in the position where I'd be the only one with passwords for a client's computer! Forget liability, forget the silly arguments, I *always* would not only give them the passwords, but tell them TO CHANGE them so there can't be an accusation toward me. Plus 5 year later when they call and cry that they can't remember the password, I remind them that they were to have changed it and I didn't have it. In reality, I doubt these people are all that intelligent computer-wise to do the things a person in that position could do. But that doesn't matter, I'd still have it wiped out. Given they couldn't clean some malware, and of course we don't know how serious it was, nor do we even know for sure there was a virus or other malware on there, but with the toold available now, readily available, free and easy to use, they shouldn't have wiped your computer. For security purposes, if you use this computer for anything requiring a password, I'd change all those passwords. Online banking, credit cards, etc, especially! That data is possible to dig out. When I had a system with important data on it that needed service, the first thing I did was back up the entire hard drive completely. That backup of course would be in my posession. Unscrupulous people could, at their liesure look thorugh your data and see what they could find. Am I overly-suspicious? Often, yes, but that's what I got paid to do. And I've done enough forensic data recovery to be amazed at what is on peoples' systems, readily accessible by anyone and the simplistic passwords used by many people. FWIW, my one partner thought she had a foolproof password on her computer. I guessed it in two tries! I'm not encouraging paranoia, just common sense caution. When something doesn't smell right, I don't swallow it. This wouldn't get near my mouth!

If your DD considers her aunt a mom, then her aunt may not have legal rights and responsibilities (which I think is a shame when a child loves someone in that way, but gets no legal protection of that relationship) but it won't stop the child from going to that aunt for advice and to maintain the relationship when she is an adult. Children are not possessions and they do have their own feelings. Sure, there are not many rights for step parents, but if a step parent makes an effort to maintain the relationship with the child after a divorce from/death of the parent, then who does it hurt when the other parent refuses to allow the relationship to continue? The law is clear but parents are supposed to love their children more than they hate the other parent/step parent. Unfortunately they don't always see it that way and in the case of young kids, it's sad that with the passing of time, the step parent is distanced from the child's life. The step parent has no choice. My door is open to my ex's kids and now that they are adults, they can make a choice for themselves. Perhaps too much time has gone by and they will choose to not have a relationship with me. That is sad because I raised them for seven years. I changed diapers, bottles, potty trained, 1st days of school, was room mom, conferences, planned parties, administered care when they were sick & took them to the doctors. I was den mother for cub scouts, took them to dance class/recitals, little league, and everything in between. I was the only mother they had in their day to day life. Their bio mom was on drugs & unable to take care of them or even be a part of their life. When their dad got married, their new step mom didn't want them around and their bio mom didn't come back into their lives until they were in their late teens. They could have had a relationship with me all those years they were suffering with no mother figure but their father decided it was too hard for him for me to be in their lives. If I didn't want to be with him, I couldn't see the kids anymore. It's now ten years later, and they can come to me if they want & I will still do for them as I will always consider them my kids.

You could also hang the curtains on rings that attach with metal clasps. That makes them easy to remove to clean. Most draperies and curtain rods have "returns" on the sides. You could run your blackout curtains on rods underneath the outer ones. Putting them all on rings allows for them to be pulled to the side and opened. A curtain that has a rod pocket and is threaded onto a rod is not able to slide open. You might be able to slide them back with some effort, but that is awkward. I recently put my grand daughter's curtain on rings so that it could be opened. Her mother and other grandmother are more attuned to closing themselves and her up into the house. They never cared nor questioned that the curtains were permanently closed. That was back in September and the curtains are still open as I left them. The curtain is a very nice custom made one that I made. It was hung on a temporary basis that never got addressed for two years until I put it on rings. She is only three years old and I don't think she even knew that there was a window there. Now there is a little more than just an overhead light in the room. Now there is some real daylight. If you use separate blackout curtains it leaves your outer layer of curtains to be changed when you feel you need something different and you still have your blackouts. Have you looked at buying blackout lining at Joanns? Do you sew? You could do one solid panel across the window, as opposed to one on each side, and just have it slide to one side when you wanted it opened. I used to do draperies and they used to sell one by RocLon that worked quite well. That was some time ago and things may have changed.