Cool or warm, how do you meet people?

9 years ago

When you meet someone for the first time, are you cool and reserved, or warm and welcoming? Does it depend under what circumstances you met them (at work, at church, random outside situations, friends of your children or family)?

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ldstarr

9 years ago

I try to be warm in most situations, if not work related. The more I can help someone be comfortable in the situation the better. To me, at least, a cool reception says "I don't know you and I don't want to".

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sleeperblues
9 years ago
For me, it depends on the situation. I would say I tend towards cool. Especially at work. I'm always cool toward BIL's girlfriends because there are so many.
rob333 (zone 7b)
9 years ago
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I want to be warm, warm, warm! But I end up being more reserved. Shier than I think I am? I just know I love people that are friendly and treat you like you're special. I want to be like that because I do think you are.
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Suzieque
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Warm, I think. And I have a big smile and look them right in the eyes (not creepy-like, though!). That's the way I like to be greeted - as if I matter.
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I love people so I tend to be warm and friendly.
sjerin
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Since I was so shy as a kid, I try to be warm and friendly, with a big smile when meeting someone.
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Depends on the vibes I pick up, from the person. Some people you meet, are like long lost friend, and there's an immediate connection. Others, seem to be hiding something, and it makes me reluctant, to open up.
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I try not to meet new people. I don't want to ruin my curmudgeon image within the community.
marilyn_c
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I don't think I am overly warm....like wanting to be their new best friend but I am not what I would call cool, either. I meet people easily....but I am more reserved than pushy. Is that a contradiction all the way around? LOL
rob333 (zone 7b)
9 years ago
You're such a liar Jim. You aint foolin' me.

;)
wanda_va
9 years ago
As warm and friendly as the situation dictates.
Elmer J Fudd
9 years ago
The opposite of reserved isn't pushy. But people who are reserved sometimes think so.

I like being with and meeting people, I always try to be sincerely friendly and outgoing, it's definitely not situation-dependent for me.

In a reverse way from what others have said, I can usually sense someone whose nature tends toward being introverted. Such people may struggle with or make no effort toward conversation. I never try to coerce people like that to be other than how they are, I'll usually move on to others who aren't uncomfortable with conversation.
katlan
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I am warm and friendly. If I get the cold shoulder, and I have, oh well, I've acted in a way my mother would be proud of me.
Georgysmom
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I like to thin I'm warm and friendly.....doesn't mean I'm trying to sign you up for my new BFF. Just want you to feel comfortable.
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Warm. I'm big on looking people in the eye and really being in the moment and "seeing" them.
Yayagal
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I'm very friendly and like meeting new people and I'm generally pretty positive so most people are receptive to me.
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Like Yayagal, I enjoy meeting new people and want to make them comfortable with me, and very seldom meet people that are difficult. I do 'read' people pretty accurately, too......trusting my intuition.

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