Saving Roses for your Family
Lisa Adams
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Comments (15)It is my opinion that if one wants a large lawn they should live in a climate suitable for one, e.g. in the British Isles much of the land looks like manicured lawn to my American eye. Here in the States there are places where grass doesn't need supplemental irrigation, like in the PNW and parts of the East, and those are the places to live if one wants a large green lawn. I think. There's an ad running right now about how golf would be different if it had been invented in California, but I think golf would never, ever have been invented in Ca. It took a place with a climate like Scotland to invent a game so dependent on nice, green grass. My house had areas that used to be lawn when I got it, I've been working on changing them to gardens bit by bit. My dream is to have a woodland meadow in the larger part of the backyard, but it's going to take time. This post was edited by peachymomo on Fri, May 3, 13 at 11:05...See MoreGet ready for Feb. 12 and save your Christmas moola-rose sale!
Comments (2)These Pelican greenhouse sales are always a must. You are sure to find specimens that you can not find at the local nursery or big box. I grow Mutabilis and Veilchenblau from previous sales and they are thriving. Mutabilis is in bloom now....See MoreIs living with family to save for a house a good idea?
Comments (11)There is no free lunch. It will be possible to save, maybe (depending on any unexpected expenses in that time); probably. If you are going to go, and intend to have cargiving, and housekeeping duties and 'support to independent living' duties; those are serious committments. People who have very poor vision, and who have been functioning as primary caregiver for someone else are likely to need help. They won't just need practical help like groceries, or other 'standard' things. They will also need other adults to talk to and socialize with, and it would be helpful and healthful for them to be able to get outside the house-- for walks and things every single day. They might need your companionship to do that, your actual presence on those walks and outings. If all they have had, on a regular basis is a caregiving duty to their spouse who is ill, they are going to have a real need for normal companionship, friendship-- or other interactions with people. It's important to keep all that in mind because those needs can be viewed as 'taking a mile' or 'taking advantage' when all that the giver inteneded to give was some material or practical, tangible aid. People who are desperate for meaningful human interaction will need attention-- and they won't care about such subtleties as 'good' or 'bad' attention. You will have your work cut out for you, but it is probably a decent way to help everyone out. The key is to be aware of the potential intangible needs your grandparents may have. And, to be proactive with communication. Figure out in advance for yourself, what you will not be able to do; and how you will keep on top of backing up in case you do find yourself being overextended. There are home-healthcare and social workers who are available to help with all kinds of home-based tasks for people who cannot get out and about for themselves-- or who just need a little help. There is also home nursing, and all kinds of different therapies in case that kind of support is needed or would be beneficial for your grandfather. The thing is, people are doing their best usually-- even your grandmother, and even if it seems like she is deliberately taking advantage. The trick is to view her needs or requests, stated or unstated as a reflection of her attempts to get her needs met; and as nothing to do with you really. Free yourself up to work with her as a human being, who might or might not communicate well. As to whether it's a good idea to move in with them in order to save, that requires self-reflection. If you have personal strengths in terms of being able to both care for other adults, and foster their independence; and if you like and have done well in situations with other adult housemates; then you'll probably be fine. Known weaknesses in those areas are very likely to cause big upsetting problems (upsetting for you and for everyone else). It will be a challenge, and won't just be a convenient easy way to save money. If the thought of this kind of challenge feels and seems exhillerating, that might be a plus. If it seems more like a nightmare waiting to happen, it might be better to save money and not move in with them. P.S. Sometimes people are very well-meaning within families. If it seems like elderly relatives need live-in support people, they might indeed. Or, they might need a lot more support from other family members; or a more supportive living situation. Anyway, sometimes there can be an initial kind of attempt to set up support without really understanding just how much support is really needed-- on a day to day, 24 hour basis. This may or may not be the case with your grandparents, but it might be a good idea to try to get an objective assessment from a third party about whether they need more a more supported living situation....See Moresaving a home out of family foreclosure/ how to update
Comments (4)I would first talk to a realtor and have them walk thru the house with you. Don't hesitate to ask them what they'd charge for their time and expertise. You need to find out the current value of the home and what sales are doing in your area. My first question would be why didn't the house sell (I'm assuming it was on the market?) A realtor can also tell you what to expect in rental rates and whether the income will cover your mortgage. Have you had an independent inspector check the home? Otherwise, how do you know the structure is sound? I'm not understanding your reasoning for buying the property. Are you financially able to take on the debt and the repairs, plus any 'surprises' that may arise during the remodel? From what you've described of the home's condition, my guess is you'll need to also replace most/all appliances and fixtures. Are you planning on doing the work or using a contractor? If you're hiring it out, bring in a least 2 contractors and get bids. The repairs you've listed are typical updates. The pine paneling is an easy fix. Either paint it or tear it out and drywall (more expensive!)...See MoreLisa Adams
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