aztcqn, thank you for your reply :) Now I just need to try to go through several opuntias. I didn't know there were so many subspecies. And a tiny update what I did with him: potted in new pot and pruned the dead part. Since the potting mix (I use one specially made for cacti and it's made in my country so it's more suitable for weather here, gritty mix didn't work well for my cacti) was humid I am forgoing the watering at the moment and I will let the pot dry out for a bit. It's funny how I run into him in my local flower shop, he was the last one and was with a wee bit reduced price from 1,75 euro to 1,42 euro. Not much, but when I saw the dried out part I decided to buy him. I think this is a great find :)

Not sure why this is in the "Marriage" forum, as it's not really about your marriage, but anyway. IMO you have some justified complaints and some not, and some issues that could have been handled way better. Who cares whether your Mom made a good/bad decision to move? It's disappointing she seemed more excited about that than about your impending marriage, but then you knew you aren't high on her priority list. So, just blow it off as more of the same way it's always been. Paying for the rehearsal dinner? Your fiancee (note spelling for female person) should never have got into any sort of discussion let alone fight with your mother regarding this. Demanding that someone host an event for you, whether you think it's traditional or not, is beyond rude. If your mother had been disinclined to pay, then (as I'm guessing you're supporting yourself and not dependent on your mother) then _you_ and your fiancee should have decided to pay. If your mother felt $2,500 was beyond her means, as the host paying for the dinner, it is her prerogative to have a hotdog cook out in her backyard if she so wishes. If you don't want a guilt trip, short circuit her and pay for it yourself. Why did you pay for ten people who didn't RSVP? You should have set an RSVP date early enough to change the numbers so that if someone isn't coming then you let the caterer know the adjusted figure. And expecting a gift just because you sent an invitation is rude on your part. No one is ever obligated to give a gift. It would have been nice, but not compulsory. In fact, if I was invited to the wedding of someone I didn't know well (as an acquaintance of their mother) I'd probably just send a card with best wishes if anything, as I'd feel it was more of a fishing expedition for gifts rather than a genuine wish to share a happy day with them. Yes, it's rude of your cousin to invite himself to stay at your house, unless you already have that sort of relationship (which it sounds like you don't). Just tell him it isn't convenient. No need to go into reasons, or whine that if he can come for football why not your wedding. It will only engender bad feelings. Even married mothers of four understand and appreciate the concept of "sexy"- how do you think they got to be mothers of four? If your concept of older women is poker-faced ice queens, boy are you in for a rude awakening. I'm not saying they are raunchy sex crazed fiends, but most of us have been around the block a few times and between ourselves have slightly franker conversations than we might with our children. Was your MIL offended?

lyban, that's what I tried to do so I'd have fabric to make pillows, but when I got to the final order page it said they weren't available. Maybe they just don't have the eight panels I need so that's why it shows on the first page they still have them. I've never had that happen before so I could have held them in my "shopping bag" too long to get them all too. Whatever happened it's water under the bridge. I did get one panel in sixty three inch to use as fabric though. I figure it was what was meant to be. The chocolate chip or desert sand should make it easier to find rugs and other accessories. In fact some of which I have already.

I used a designer for the first time on this project, and she picked some really beautiful, neutral paint colors that I'd have NEVER picked off the sample cards - you should take a look at them, just see what you think: Sherwin Williams Tony Taupe: using in my entire living area, including kitchen, hallways, entry, etc. Sherwin Williams Balanced Beige: if the Tony Taupe feels like a little too much color, this beige is one of the most beautiful I've ever seen. I have it in rooms w/light from every direction, and it never turns an "off" color, no matter the time of day. Benjamin Moore Ashley Grey: If you need something w/a more grey cast than a yellowish beige cast, this is really lovely. For a "white" w/just enough color to really compliment brighter colors, I like Benjamin Moore Cotton Balls. I used it in a room w/candy cane red cabinets, in a Laundry Room w/Pear Green cabinets, and in my pantry ... where I have the palest of blue cabinets done in Wedgewood Grey. From the card, I'd never dream it is the perfect robins-egg blue! Hope that helps a little - I get overwhelmed when it comes to paint colors, but don't be pressured: painting can easily be done after cabinetry. You just need to get a skim coat w/some texture over the sheetrock, and you'll be good until cabinets are in place.