Airing my dirty laundry
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Comments (14)Tricia, OMG I thought I heard a howling in the wind last night was that everyone on this forum joining in and singing along with the three headed cauliflower? Funny thing is that tune really sticks in your headÂI can compost any thing in my marvelous compost bin Sunshine boy, micturateÂ.excess nitrogen Oh come on fess up you know the truth is every male on the planet is always looking for a good excuse to pee outside! Dee, He was not amused Forty five years ago I hung my sisters bra out the window for all of her friends to seeÂoddly enough she still isnÂt amused but I still get great pleasure from the memory. Ellen, sounds like a slippery, slimy, choreÂI wish I had a pond. Cady, I am seriously considering chickens but am concerned about rats from what I have been told the two go hand in hand. How do folks manage that issue? Wendy, LOLÂThanks for the overly generous thoughts but no my life is no where near that interesting. I have been considering starting a gardening blog as I would love to add video, audio, photography, and the written word to garden discussions and have a little more content freedom. WouldnÂt it be great to watch a quick 5 minute video on pruning blueberries for example? I would like to do this with a number of different folks (at least six) from the New England area so there would be a varied vision of gardening and the responsibility of keeping the blog up and running wouldnÂt be too over whelming. Anyone interested???? Mayalena, Problems with monkeysÂyou too I thought I was the only one!! I have found the middle of my compost pile the best smell free place for dead fish carcasses, I havenÂt experienced critter problems perhaps the lack of fatsÂwho knows I just know I needed a good disposal solution and this seems to be working...See MoreInappropriate use of Facebook, in my opinion
Comments (19)It's true that you don't blame the medium because people are stupid and addicted to their cellphones, "social media" resources, etc, but it's BECAUSE people are stupid and addicted to their cellphones "social media" resources, etc, is just another reason I *don't* do MySpace, I *don't* do Facebook, I *don't* look for dates on Craigslist, I *don't* "tweet" or participate in any of the other technological addictions. I don't need these pacifiers to stay in touch with people. There's plenty of other, far better ways to do stay in touch. Used to be "sex, drugs and rock & roll" were the addictions of the day. Now it's cellphone, text and Facebook/social media. Whenever I see someone who can't resist checking every time that leash sounds a chime, can't resist thumbing away at it when it does and can't go an hour without checking their "page" I can't help but wonder if we shouldn't give a special lane on the roads so we can cull the herd a bit. Some people just have too much time and money on their hands. It's sad. This post was edited by cynic on Thu, Apr 11, 13 at 10:33...See Morewho's dirty laundry?
Comments (5)paloma, you *are* enabling him. If you weren't there shouldering the entire burden of his household, he'd have to do it himself, & *that's* what would make him change his routine. You don't want to enable a disfunctional system, you don't like it, but you are doing it. & you're the only one who'll stop or change what's going on: BF has no reason to change anything on your account; he has no consequences from you no matter what, while he does have consequences to fear, or at least to deal with, from his daughter's mother. It's easier to impose on you & to use you than it is to negotiate with his ex, & she's the mother of his child, so that's the way it's gonna be. No matter how bad it hurts, the only way to stop it is to... stop it. The fact that you have to ask for help, & the fact that he "helps" reluctantly & poorly, tells you that he isn't going to treat you like you're anybody important, that your role in his life is to make things easier for him in his "real" life with his ex & their daughter, & that winning & control are important to him & your happines & quality of life are not; it tells you that he views relationships in terms of winning/losing & of control. ex is winning, so he's losing with her, but at least he's got you under control, so at least he's winning somewhere... & you're losing. I'm afraid that if you stay in the relationship, you'll be the loser for the rest of your life. The real "relationship" or marriage or partnership is between him & his daughter's mother, & both of them are using you- you're the live-in help that enables both of them to continue their disfunctional relationship without the stress of actually living together. It will not get better; it will get much much worse, & you'll eventually be too exhausted & worn down to get out, & your self-confidance will be *gone*. Get out now. I wish you the best. ps: a word about "having a talk" with him. This kind of person will always "promise" to "try". & he'll be a little better for a little while, but things always revert to his old pattern. It's similar to abuse in that respect. When an abuser's victim finally cannot bear any more & decides to leave (or to file charges, or whatever), the abuser always acts remorseful & "promises" to do better, & the victim believes him, & she returns home with him, & things are better for a little while, & then the ordinary stresses in the abuser's life build up & he takes it out on her again. & again. & again. It stops when she gets away & stays away. Take care of yourself....See MoreDirty Laundry
Comments (69)mama - I am hurt that you can't accept my apology. It was heartfelt on my part. If you had wondered about the detergent, you should have posted something and asked. I would have responded. Just as I don't know what goes on in your home, you don't know what goes on in mine. You have no way to know whether I have had things going on or not. This probably sounds like an excuse but it is not. I said it was an oversight and that it was rude and I apologized and I stand by that. It was rude. As for an issue, it is apparent from what you say that you do have a problem with me. I wish it weren't so....See Moredocmom_gw
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