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Do you ever stop and ask if you can look at someone's garden?
Comments (28)Around here, most people have lawn services and gardeners, none of whom speak English, so it's kind of hard to ask. There are two or three people who do their own work, and we always chat when we see each other out working. The yards are not large (only 1/2 acre) so you can see most of them from the street. This season, I reclaimed a narrow strip alongside the driveway where a couple of trees had to be removed. Man, what a job! I couldn't dig out all of the root systems, but I managed to do a decent job. Since I spend most of the summer working right out by the street, I ended up speaking with everyone who walks by. Apparently, the progress of my garden has become the topic of discussion for the whole neighborhood! I was happy to explain my game plan to anyone who stopped, and I was rewarded by having divisions left on my front stoop by a couple of neighbors. Very nice. I never thought about asking to tour a garden. I'm basically very shy in general. A couple of people here mentioned that gardening is a great time to be alone, communing with nature and relaxing. I've also found that to be true. I treasure my time in the garden, especially since our world has changed so drastically in the last several years. We don't have plant thieves, but there are people who recently moved in across the street who seem to think that the back of the yard next to them is fair game for dumping. They are very well aware that the property belongs to someone else because the man grew up in that house, and moved in a few months ago after his father passed away. I don't think that the elderly lady who owns it is aware that this is going on. I thought I'd tell her and offer to put up "Private Property - No Dumping" signs. To confront the people directly might be dangerous - long story. I guess it takes all kinds. orcuttnyc - your yard is lovely! Very natural, just the way I like it. I don't know what the purple flowers are, but if you ever find out, let us know. They look great with the daisies. I would never take cuttings without permission, but I'm not above pulling alongside one of the local roads and digging up "weeds" on town property. (Not privately owned, that is. I pay taxes, too!) One person's weeds are another person's native wildflowers, I always say! (LOL) But I do know better than to try this on the parkways. Those wildflowers alongside and on the medians of parkways serve a vital purpose in helping to filter noise and pollution. The natives growing on undeveloped land seem to fall below the radar of the local authorities. In fact, I'm not sure which department of government would have jurisdiction over weeds! Happy gardening, all!...See MoreHow do I stop people from calling my mom?
Comments (10)Sushi has pretty much summarized the dangers ahead. There is no way to truly screen her calls other than you or your cousin being with her 24 hours a day. Allowing her the freedom of answering her phone, puts her at risk -- for physical, financial, and emotional harm. I'm also a "been there, done that." My mom used to think she was outsmarting telemarketers by telling them that she was a widow and in ill health, so she couldn't afford to buy their products. Some of the callers had her name and some address info. I'd tell her over and over again that she was saying too much and that the callers could come to the house. She'd promise to do better, but the next time I'd see her, she'd proudly relate how she told off a telemarketer. Eventually she moved to an assisted living facility and the situation was better. The address change in addition to the phone number change lessened the frequency of calls. When she moved into the memory care wing, her phone did not move with her. As far as doctors, etc., do what sushi recommends. Make yourself or your cousin the contact person. That's what I did with my mom even before she moved to assisted living. Perhaps you could "train" your mom to always defer to either you or your cousin when answering questions over the phone. For example, "I'm sorry. You need to talk to my daughter/niece about this. She takes care of everything for me." There's always the possibility of changing her phone number to a new and unlisted number....See MoreFriends & Family Won't Stop Asking, "So how's the house coming along?"
Comments (34)We have the exact same problem. We started looking at land 2-3 years ago, switched lots 2 times, then finally bought our lot just over a year and a half ago. We have been working on plans for over a year. It seems everyday someone asks how its going. Especially my parents! They constantly say- just build something already! There have already been so many problems and delays. My husband keeps complaining as well, blaming a lot of the time on me (since he's fine with any floorpan, any exterior etc.). With the amount of money this will cost, I want to get things [mostly] right. The house is already so stressful and we have so much ahead of us still...See Morewhen did people stop learning manners?
Comments (60)Ann, sometimes in private they do get time off. That's why I'd ask. The blind woman can get around a room without the dog., though obviously in a new place, with a lot of people, she'd need to take someone's arm. She might, herself, feel uncomfortable about the many people and moving furniture (tray tables, chairs, etc.) and choose not to attend the shindig. There would be no issue with a small dinner party (fewer than a dozen) where there aren't a bunch of people milling around, bumping into, tripping over and stepping on the dog. It's large parties I don't know the answer for and would ask. But the person with the dog has excellent manners and wouldn't just show up without asking, so I'm not worried about it. I just meant that I might have to make some kind of accommodation for a genuine service dog, and would do so willingly though would need to ask what to do, but non-working pets aren't getting in the door. Or the yard gate. Two of the grown women I see regularly at parties say things about having to get home, each to their dogs. I get not being able to stay later because they have critters to look after. Bye. Nice to see you. We look forward to next time. They don't bring their dogs to parties! Dcarch, your note sounds fairly diplomatic and kind. There are people with medical issues that make them stink in a way that no amount of hygiene products can alter. It's very sad for these people because no one wants to be near them and they can even transfer their odors to the furniture. I suppose barbecues are better occasions for such people, but even where I live, there are times of year when outdoors isn't an answer, nor would one wish to be tagged as refusing to let a friend enter the house. That friend would have enough to deal with, without having to feel belittled by friends. If it's just someone who has come straight from work and smells a bit gymtastic but not gaggingly foul, I'd ignore it. If it happened often, when inviting that person, I'd ask if he/she were coming straight from work, and offer my guest room/bathroom, if he wanted to bring a change of clothes and clean up, but I wouldn't push it if I were turned down....See MoreSeysonn_ 8a-NC/HZ-7
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