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Comments (6)Susan, Ha, yeah, I guess I must have reeled him in. :) Thanks for everyone here, I learned enough to pass on now and I sound halfway like I know what I'm talking about, I think. lol I guess I'm not the only one without many butterflies from what you say. Now it's supposed to rain for the next few days. That will at least make the plants grow from last year and the year before, but it won't do much for the ones that are already jammed in their containers waiting to be planted out. I was going to dig sod today but...RAIN! I can't wait for those southerly winds to come our way. Ha, I complain when we go straight from winter into summer, and now I'm a little mad that it's not warmer. Ha. Sandy, I think you're right about him liking the butterflies! Just today I had a BST eclose and he put it outside. He loves releasing them. I knew that he knew what those and the Monarchs are since I raise them here to release, but I didn't know that he actually knew those other things. Nice! Gee, I'm surprised to hear you say that you haven't seen any CW's yet. I guess I just assumed that everyone south of me had them by now. Yeah, I wouldn't doubt if it will warm up before long and be warmer than I like it to be too. A person just can't win, huh? ;-) I hope that you and I can get all our perennials in this year because I usually end up with the dilemma of rushing to get everything done all at once and yeah, it's tiring. My back suffers for it, but I keep pushing myself. I figure it probably won't get any better (DDD) and I'm trying to get it done asap. I'm far from wheelchair bound but I don't think any time goes back that it doesn't hurt. I've worked out a good system of laying down two mats on the grass in front of the flower bed I want to plant or the sod I want to dig. I sit down on the one for awhile until I can't reach of the stuff, slide over onto the other mat and then move the mat I was just on over to the other side of me to slide on after I get done with the section I'm just starting. It works out pretty good for me. Now if only I could afford to hire someone to do the push mowing, I'd be set! :) I know what you mean about the never ending job thingey. Yep, suffering at night is something I'm familiar with and wish I weren't. Sorry to hear that you're in the same boat. The butterflies are worth the work though, and I'm sure you probably agree. :) Miss Sherry, Haha, yeah, me too! Now I guess I can move on to the next lesson. :) Btw, I feel like I've learned a lot from you on the forum and wanted to say thank you! tdogmom aka Cal Sherry, aka Sherry, I guess both of our hubbies are good learners then. :) Sometimes I wonder if they're testing us or something when it seems like they aren't listening but actually are. Ha. That's a funny story about yours giving his 'expert' butterfly talk at the nursery. Hee hee. That's good that we aren't the only ones passing on butterfly info. I think I end up talking about it to whoever, even strangers on the street. :-D I never know who will take it to heart and who won't, so I have to tell everyone because I have to have hope for them all. You can't predict who will actually make a difference, so I say educate as many as possible. You're familiar with that. :) I sure am glad that you and others are willing to "take a chance" on people who come on here. You could have all ignored me that first year when I felt like a fish out of water when I found Monarch cats here, but you were so willing to answer questions. Thanks to you and others I raised 70 that year and 500+ last year. I've become a milkweed nut and have about 250 plants here counting the ones in the ground and the ones in big pots. :-O Wow, just think of all of the 'paper towels' who have absorbed the knowledge that you've passed along! ;-) It must really give you a sense of satisfaction...keep up the terrific work! bernergrrl, Yes, I think my hubby is pretty sweet, and I'll tell him that you said that...it should make his day. :) That's great that yours has been listening too. It certainly is exciting, huh. I don't know if I have a lot of butterflies right now. I think when my milkweed, butterfly bushes, and coneflowers are blooming is when I'll have a lot. I didn't realize that there's a lot of difference from one zone to another either. Hopefully it won't be too long before you and I and others start seeing more butterflies. I'm going through withdrawal. lol It sounds like you've seen quite a few. Yay! :) Ha, you definitely sound like me with the thinking in bed. I almost drive myself bonkers. Ha. Cathy...See MoreSee, I do listen to you :)
Comments (38)LL: I think you may have misunderstood the budget question. You have said you won't have a budget until you meet with the architect and general contractor. But they won't give you a budget, they'll give you an estimate of how much it will cost to do what you want to do. What folks are asking is have you decided how much you can afford and/or how much you are willing to part with to get the kitchen of your dreams? It is a way of helping you to narrow your choices. You've been participating in this and other forums long enough to know that the same kitchen layout can cost $40 K or $140K depending on materials used and appliances purchased. As other responders have noted, you have been all of the map on this remodel. I understand that you now have a layout you like. That's great. And I think we all appreciate that visions change as we get more information and are exposed to new ideas. Your vision seems to have undergone more new iterations than most, and it is now proving to be a source of frustration for other participants in that we (they) are being asked to rehash much of the same information that has already been passed on to you or to examine in detail every possible permutation. There are two things any poster can and should do to be respectful of others' time and effort. First, as Marcolo and others have suggested, is search for the answer in previous threads. Many of the questions you have asked in recent weeks have been well covered...some in threads you originated. And second, try to narrow the options. For some fortunate participants on this forum, taste and preferences may be the only factors which narrow the options. But for most of us, the most serious limiting factor is $$$. You have acknowledged that you don't have an unlimited budget. So help us help you, by clueing us in on a range. Then we can spend our time usefully offering realistic suggestions. And if the budget does have a limit...ANY limit...prioritize what's important. Surfaces? Applilances? Where are you willing to cut back if you blow the budget somewhere else? Failing to do these three things, is a good part of what is leading some of us to conclude that you are still in the dreaming stage. And while it is amusing to sometimes fantasize with you about snow white kitchens, it can be wearying after the first dozen versions. Not trying to be mean or harsh, just trying to help......See MoreIs this my layout? I listened to everything...
Comments (73)My feelings during this process were mostly guilt, for the the endless efforts others were putting forth and frustration/disappointment with myself. Each time I posted a layout I thought, now this one is it! They're gonna love it and I'm going to hear, "great flow, how creative, I love it!" My initial reaction after feedback each time was "oh sh$#", then my heart sunk, and then I got pissed off at myself.I began not even knowing I could draw in Excel, not knowing how to post a pic, not thinking about frig,prep, cook, clean. (My new mantra thanks to rhome!). I have learned so much and am forever appreciative. This move is a big change for me. Much smaller home, not as "fancy" an area. It was DH's home prior to hooking up with me. But he's already retired from being a cop (injury) and I'm going to teach another 5 years so I can reach the max pay level. This home means I'll be able to retire at 59 and play. Boat, motorhome, golf, beach. Tiny mortgage left and this remodel is my "buy in".(I'm paying) DH worries that it's a "step down" (his words) for me and wants me to be happy. I couldn't care less about the change in area because I'm a simple girl and we're all about the outside. The yard is big (for South Florida), beautiful, and private. My youngest just turned 21 and will out by the end of this year. (I'm going to NY to visit my oldest boy tomorrow!) I get to build the kitchen of my dreams. As much as I long for the days when my boys were young and yummy (it was just the three of us); I am also very much looking forward to this next stage of my life. In about 5 years I'm hoping my boys settle down and give me chubby little babies to spoil and love. My boys and I are very very close. I forget that I'm suppose to be the older one now because as far as I'm concerned, I'm still young and have endless energy. I still think of myself as my parents "baby" and they've been gone 7 years. I still miss them every day of my life. Judging from this endless diatribe of mine, there is emotion and significance attached to this process for me. It represents what I hope the rest of my life to be before I'm able to go be with my parents again. Geez... what a sap... sorry 'bout that! Anyway....what I meant to say was... The architect hasn't seen the 3D layout but I sent him my 2D version. He said he really liked the twp islands. His mindset seems to be to find a way to make what I want happen. It was kinda awesome... when we first met, it was myself, DH, the architect, and two contractor/helpers we think we're going to use for the stuff DH can't do himself. I stood there and said, "I want this gone over here and I want this here...". The 4 men were, "OK.. we'll do this and shore this up here, upgrade the electric coming into the house etc.". Now, ya' gotta love that! Just for "kicks" and grins; here's a pic of how the bedroom/bath with the extension will look. This area will back onto the east wall of the kitchen/dining area. The existing bedroom/bath layout: I'm done now!...See MoreDo I listen to everyone else....or follow my heart?
Comments (43)That's such a hard question to answer. Of course, you are the person who will use the kitchen most and you are the person who has the vision. But you want your family to enjoy it too. You just have to balance that out in your own mind. ....which, of course, is not an answer. Maddening, I know. Are they understanding your vision and rejecting it? Or are they not seeing it in their mind's eye and rejecting what they think it will be? Have you shown them the pictures that sold you on the idea? I had one of those esoteric visions in my head for my kitchen. It's small and narrow and I wanted two different colors -- one on one side and one on the other. And I wanted a different color for the breakfast area and pantry. Every single person to whom I described it said, "Isn't 3 colors too much?". Without exception. The cabinet maker had to do 5 sets of drawings to get it all right and then still was only willing to do one color and door option at a time. My GC confessed to me when it was all over that he thought I was nuts and creating a disaster until he saw it come together. Now that it's done, everyone really likes it. My family is crazy about it. They just couldn't see it when I described it. OTOH, even though my husband was supportive all along and said it was my choice, if it hadn't worked, I would have been miserable knowing I was the only one who wanted it that way. Take pictures of your layout and use tracing paper to draw your modifications. Go get several large-size copies made. Color them in so everyone has a clear idea what you're talking about, what they want, what compromises are possible. It just comes down to the painful process of decisions and consequence. The more concrete you can make abstract ideas now, the more the consequences will be wonderful and comfortable for all. Good luck!...See More- 10 years ago
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