First Real Meal For One

10 years ago

Tonight I fixed my first meal for one in a 1.5 qt. slow cooker. A very small bottom round steak in gravy and made a baked potato to go with it.

That was my on topic part of the post. My DH passed away Weds. night in a very peaceful, pain-free manner. We are thanking the Creator for ending his suffering. Thank you, my dear Gardenweb friends, for all the prayers and well wishes. He is at peace and so am I. I will continue on as he would want me to so expect to see me on more often.

Madonna

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bcskye
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10 years ago

Thank you everyone for all the prayers and positive thoughts. My DH, Darrell, and I had been preparing for this for many, many years. His first heart attack was back in 1987 when he was 38. He had five by-passes then and a little over ten years ago the VA gave him a new heart. We knew that you're just trading one illness for another when he got the transplant. He was the last survivor of the three that got their transplants at the same time at the VA hospital. We were fortunate to have so much time together, 42 years. I am strong because I have to be plus I've had so many wonderful friends supporting me.

Now we are back to every day life, without DH. I've decided its going to be nachos tonight while watching the Super Bowl. Also, I'm starting seeds for the garden, it will be a big one this year in order to preserve and share.

Mustangs, I'm still planning a trip back to Florida later this year to visit friends and family and when I do, I want to meet up with you to make up for the last time when I wasn't able to.

Hugs to all,

Madonna

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pkramer60
10 years ago
You have my deepest sympathy on you loss of you DH.
sushipup1
10 years ago
Oh, I am so sorry to hear the news. My deepest sympathy, and may the best memories comfort you.
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Terri_PacNW
10 years ago
Your Dinner sounds yummy.

I am glad to hear you are at peace.
mustangs81
10 years ago
Madonna, You are showing amazing strength. Look back on all the good memories you were able to have and smile at
the fact that you were able to share these before he passed away.
craftyrn
10 years ago
May your love for him comfort you-- your memories sustain you.
User
10 years ago
My deepest sympathies on the loss of your DH.

Preparing yourself nourishing meals should help you on your path to healing. Look forward to seeing you post about them here.
morz8 - Washington Coast
10 years ago
I've thought of you and wondered how things were going. And I'm happy to hear his passing was peaceful, I hope you can find comfort in that. Please accept my deep and sincere sympathy for your loss.
annie1992
10 years ago
Madonna, I'm so sorry to hear that your DH is gone, but I'm glad that he was peaceful and comfortable. You have been in my thoughts and my prayers for strength and peace throughout this. Hugs to you.

Annie
User
10 years ago
Madonna, I'm so sorry. My sincere condolences.
tishtoshnm Zone 6/NM
10 years ago
Madonna, You have my deepest sympathies.
KatieC
10 years ago
Sending my condolences also, Madonna. The best you can wish for someone is a peaceful passing, and I'm glad your DH could have that.
CA Kate z9
10 years ago
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. A peaceful passing is the best we can ever hope for.

I wish you well. Allow yourself to grieve, and take good care of yourself.

Kate
Islay Corbel
10 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear of your husband's passing. My thoughts are with you.
Sooz
10 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss. Peaceful and pain free is so often an unexpected "blessing."
laceyvail 6A, WV
10 years ago
Oh, I'm so sorry. Life asks so much of us and grief is so hard. But I'm so glad you're thinking of life in that you're cooking well for yourself.
artemis_ma
10 years ago
Serious hugs and sympathy. It's never easy, even if you know it's for the best, considering.
dandyrandylou
10 years ago
Your attitude is a true blessing. May you continue to persevere and favor us with your comments. We care.
colleenoz
10 years ago
Oh Madonna, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.
Annie Deighnaugh
10 years ago
I'm so sorry. My deepest sympathies for your loss. So glad the end was peaceful for him though.
Rusty
10 years ago
I, too, would like to add my most sincere condolences for your loss. And I, too, admire your attitude and strength. It's been almost 3 1/2 years since I walked down the path you are on now, I understand how you feel. It is indeed a blessing that your husband passed peacefully and pain free.

I was never really able to downsize my cooking from 5 or more to 2, and am still having trouble downsizing again to cooking for one. I find shopping to be as hard to adjust to as the cooking. But my Food Saver has been a BIG help!

God bless you!

Rusty
lindac92
10 years ago
My condolences...I too have walked the path....and I guess I would say...we do what we have to do.
And I suggest repaying some of your friends for kindnesses shown by inviting them for a meal. it's a good thing to have a reason to cook...
Gooster
10 years ago
My condolences to you in this difficult time. Strength and good thoughts to you. >>hug<<
malabacat
10 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you love and strength, and I'm glad his passing was peaceful and pain-free.
User
10 years ago
Madonna, my deepest condolences on your loss. You have faced it with such grace and dignity.

Sharon
l pinkmountain
10 years ago
I have been thinking of you and I know this is tough no matter what the circumstances. HUGS!
shirl36
10 years ago
You have my deepest sympathy at this difficult time. Sending Blessings for the future.
DYH
10 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers for you.

Hugs,

Cameron
writersblock (9b/10a)
10 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss, Madonna. Stay strong.
sleevendog (5a NY 6aNYC NL CA)
10 years ago
So sorry for your loss. My MIL was a twenty-five year caregiver due to hereditary heart disease. FIL career Air Force. Years of unknown are tough on the soul. No life and love is the same. We are all important and unique that survive such a loss. Personal, yet so worth sharing. So many willing to give similar experiences, so many care.

Thanks for sharing. -Annie
rob333 (zone 7b)
10 years ago
(((Madonna))) I'm sorry to hear this, but I am glad you're going to carry on. If you need us, we're here for you.
Solsthumper
10 years ago
Well, we hope to see you here more often. You bring the food. And we'll provide the hugs.

Sending sincere condolences, and thoughts of comfort and peace, on your journey to healing.

Sol
doucanoe
10 years ago
So sorry for your loss, Madonna. Happy that you had so many wonderful years together and now have a good support system of friends. Hugs to you.

Linda
Compumom
10 years ago
Adding my most sincere condolences on your loss. It's good to be grateful for the time that you shared and for his peaceful passing Your positive attitude will sustain you. Hugs,

E

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