Update: A Little On Topic and A Little Off Topic

10 years ago

This will be the first Thanksgiving in a long, long time that I don't have to fix anything. Our favorite niece told us the day was being hosted by her dad and his girlfriend at his house. I'm happy in a way because I'm really tired, but sad that I won't be fixing my favorite things for everyone else. My DH's condition is failing rapidly. On the 28th of October they diagnosed him with stage 4 lung cancer in both lungs in addition to the stage 4 skin cancer that had gone to the lining of his brain. I'm really finding it a problem to fix things he can eat. Most everything tastes like metal or its wrong texture. I've had the most luck with oven baked chicken breasts covered in simple Campbell's cream of mushroom soup. That's about the only successful solid dish. He will eat rice covered in the mushroom soup and some canned soups (Yuk!). He's requested pies twice, but couldn't eat more than a tiny little slice. He can eat cantaloupe a little bit every so often. At least the pulmonary cancer doctor told us that she thinks he'll make it through Christmas, but nothing is for sure. Pallative Care at the VA Hosp. assured us that when he goes into Hospice, it will be here at home and they will provide us with a hospital bed and anything else we need. Oh, the nurse there also said he needs to drink milk shakes. This to my DH who is not really into sweets and is lactose intolerant. He now weighs more than 30 lbs. less than I do. We have been preparing ourselves for this for a long time. Most of you already knew most of this, but I thought I'd give you an update.

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Islay Corbel

10 years ago

I'm so to hear this. At least by not cooking, you'll have more time to spend with your DH. I'm sure he'd rather have you by his side than you running all over the place, although I do understand why you'll miss the cooking. Hugs and prayers.

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sally2_gw
10 years ago
Thanks for the update. I have been and will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you and your husband have a good time at your niece's dad's house.

Sally
homepro01
10 years ago
Prayers and happy thoughts to your and your DH. I hope you have a great season with him and other family members.
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You certainly have enough on your hands without having to worry about cooking dishes for Thanksgiving. I am so sadden reading your updates and I am without comforting words for you. I think my DH is trying to prepare me...never mind.
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My heart goes out to both of you. I hope you enjoy your holiday, even without your special foods. I also hope that this final year provides more love and laughter to sustain you for the coming months. Hospice is a blessing.

You can buy protein powders made from rice, pea or soy protein. Instead of dairy, I might add cashew or coconut milk for that creamy texture and calories.

<<< Hugs to you both >>>
l pinkmountain
10 years ago
Yes, I have been thinking of you B! Think of this Thanksgiving as a new experience. You can always make the favorite dishes another time. This time you get to focus on something different, on having others take care of you. We went to a friend's house last year and she didn't want us to bring or cook anything. It was a real pleasure just to relax and be pampered.
annie1992
10 years ago
Oh, bcskye, you know that you and your husband have been in my thoughts and prayers and I agree with Lpink and Islay, focus on your DH and your time together and let other people take care of you for a change. I'm glad you have family to step in and do that, at least for the holiday.

I'm sending hugs and strong thoughts to you and your DH, hoping you and the docs can keep him comfortable, and special prayers for you as you take care of him.

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I'm so sorry to here about the direction you're headed... it's not an easy path to follow. BTDT. Please remember to take care of yourself too.

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