Rehearsal dinner attire
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8 years ago
An old family friend’s son is getting married this weekend, and we’ve been invited to the rehearsal dinner being held at a marina in Georgetown. The wedding’s on the beach, at 5PM the following day and I have a dress for that, but am stumped about appropriate attire for the dinner the night before. Host says it’s sport coats for the men. Would something like these dress pants with the chiffon overlay, paired with a black jersey loose jacket and ivory colored dressy blouse work?
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Comments (2)Wow....I would be doing top of the line casual....like a whole beef tenderloin or 2 grilled and served sliced to order at the buffet....with a huge tray of fat shrimp, garlic mashed potatoes, a salad of spinach abd baby lettuce with strawberries and balsamic vinaigrette, perhaps asparagus quickly roasted ( or grilled if you have room on the grill) with sesame seeds and lemon. How about a dessert buffet with a flourless chocloate cake, raspberry bars, lemon bars and...umm....something vanilla. Will there be a cocktail hour? Do you need appetisers as well? Linda C...See MoreWho pays for reception hall for rehearsal dinner?
Comments (2)Maryann, you're going to run into trouble if you try to answer this question by trying to find some sort of "rule" for "who pays" in this very specific set of circumstances. Of course, there is no such rule. The basic "rule" for "who pays" for anything is that hosts pay for the parties they host. But even that has loads of exceptions and variations; often, especially at big events like weddings, others chip in, either dollar amounts or specific items (bar, flowers, etc.). In this case, it sounds to me like this would be an expense that the hosts of the dinner -- the groom's family, you say -- would pay. But I sure wouldn't surprise them with a bill. I would just tell them something like, "I know you are planning to host a dinner after the rehearsal, and I thought you might want to know that the church fellowship hall is available for $200, if that's where you'd like to have it." If the problem is that you already know that they are planning to have the dinner there, and you suspect they think it's free (maybe all of you assumed so), then you will need to be very tactful. Something like, "Muriel and Jethro, I just found out that although the fellowship hall at the church is available for your dinner, they will charge $200. I'm so sorry for any confusion. Do you still want to have it there?" or whatever fits your facts. If you have a great relationship with them, no problem, but if not, it might be easier to do this by e-mail or via the kids. Good luck!...See MoreDestination wedding rehearsal dinner guests???
Comments (6)If everyone will already be there, I would invite them all. I am part of a community that always invites all out of towners to the rehearsal dinner (or whatever the "night before" party is called) anyway, and I know that that is not true in every community. But for a destination wedding? These guests have spent a lot of money and possibly used a good chunk of their vacation time to come to your wedding. To me, anyone who cares about you enough to do that is close enough to be the "inner circle" invited to the rehearsal dinner. It's not like they can stay home. What are they supposed to do instead? Arrange and pay for a restaurant dinner, then spend the rest of the evening sitting in their hotel rooms while you party? If I were one of your relatives, I would be stunned not to be invited to all the parties (and I would feel embarassed, as though the hosts never really expected or wanted me to accept the invitation). I'm sorry if that sounds harsh. Obviously, you can do whatever you want. But remember, you cannot dictate how your guests will feel about it. Do you really want even one of your guests to be thinking, "They think it's okay for me to spend hundreds of dollars to come to Mexico, just so they could have a 'destination wedding,' but I'm not worth the price of supper to them?"...See MoreRehearsal Dinner Advice
Comments (2)You know, I understand how you must feel -- I would really want to do it all my own way -- but this may actually be a wonderful opportunity for something much more important. Maybe she is feeling and acting they way she would with a sister or brother, as if you already are one big family. That's a good thing, in my view. Possibly she is trying hard to be helpful, especially if you are hosting a lot of her family and friends, or if you are out of town or something. Entirely taking over is another thing, but I'm not sure that's what you mean. You picked the theme, venue, menu, music, etc., I'm guessing. Can you maybe incorporate the stuff she bought with your own choices? That will make her feel good without interfering all that much with your own tastes. As I said, I, too, wouldn't like it -- I'd feel like she has her turn at the wedding, this is my turn to be the host. (And that's even assuming I didn't hate what she bought!) But there may be a "greater good" here if you can look at it that way. If it's going too far, though, talk to her -- DON'T triangulate it through her daughter. Be sure to be very nice and have twice as much gratitude for her helpfulness as request that she back off. Make sure the tone is more "Let us surprise you!" and not at all "Butt out!"...See More- PRO
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