Question for Pros: Etiquette of multiple proposals and paying for them
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Neighborly etiquette question for privacy hedges and shrubs
Comments (25)It all boils down to what the municipal code in your city dictates you are allowed to do along with what you believe is "neighborly" but here's another opinion for all those who might look at this thread while searching for similar answers: If you live in a packed residential area like I do (and if moving is not feasible) with neighbors windows looking directly into your own windows then you will probably appreciate some privacy shrubs for screening. I strongly believe that good fences make good neighbors and I would be extremely grateful if my neighbor would stop obsessively pruning all their plants to the height of their fence line so that I wouldn't have to constantly hear or see them every time I look out my window or try to use my yard. We had to plant shrubs along the wall we share with them even though they have more room to do so than we do. Unfortunately, they severely cut back our exquisite NON-MESSY ornamental evergreen shrubs which have hung slightly (less than 6 inches) over the fence in their front yard which gave them privacy simply on the principle of maintaining their property line (they have nothing planted below/along the fence line or any other justification for doing so). Not many of us appreciate the feeling that we are being "watched" and I certainly think that even the property line fanatics who have posted above also appreciate privacy to some extent. I would be more than happy to lightly prune back my neighbors shrubs if they were to grow over too far onto my side but then again I think that would be a great "problem" to have. If your neighbors are reasonable people try talking to them. Perhaps they would appreciate the privacy shrub installation as well. Sometimes communicating with nasty neighbors is unfruitful but its worth a shot in the beginning. Also, a word on large trees: We have several protected endangered oaks on our property including an enormous one that is over 300 years old. The trees were here long before any of the houses in my area were built. Around 15 years ago, developers thought it might be a good idea to erect a massive house on a tiny lot 10 feet away from the property line and right under the trees massive canopy. The old house that was knocked down was large enough (2,500 sqft) and was set back an appropriate distance from the trees. The new house is a monstrosity and home to neighbors who hate all trees and love lawn. Needless to say this has resulted in significant problems over the years with the new neighbors who are unhappy that the biggest tree is close to them. Luckily, where I live (California) neighbors cannot just cut your tree/shrub to their property line if doing so injures or kills the tree. Cities should do a better job at preventing these issues by ensuring massive houses are not built on tiny lots or fix zoning of properties to ensure that old large specimen trees aren't being cleared to make way for concrete yards and McMansions which have destroyed the character of the city and do nothing to help the current housing crisis....See MoreEtiquette and process seeking other builders in middle of design phase
Comments (10)In the US, the author of design drawings automatically receives a copyright for them without registering them. If the author is an employee, the employer receives the copyright. Normally, when you pay for design drawings, you receive the right to use the drawings to build one building. All of this should have been made clear in a written agreement. Designers and builders work together in many different ways. A designer might be an employee or a consultant of the contractor or work directly for you. If you pay the designer directly, you might not have any further obligation to the builder, however, since the builder worked with you and passed the design on to a draftsman, the relationships are not clear. To whom will you write the check? Before going forward read all previous correspondence and information about the builder in their brochures and website. If their role is still not clear you will have to ask them to explain it (in writing). Before responding, post their response here. I often ask a builder to work with me and the owner to design a house but the builder is paid a consulting fee and bids the work along with other builders. Usually the consulting fee would be subtracted from the first invoice if the builder won the bid. If the builder was willing to bid the project competitively, I don't see why you couldn't use another designer to revise the design drawings and still let the builder bid the project....See MoreDinner Party Etiquette
Comments (83)I wonder about the geographical differences in dinner parties. I grew up on a farm in central Texas, and the only formal dinner parties we had were for family gatherings, at Thanksgiving and Christmas, when my mother would use all of her crystal, china, and sterling silverware - all of which I think she received as wedding gifts. She also had a collection of linen tablecloths, but she stopped using those after a few years, as they were more difficult to clean, or perhaps were more easily stained. As a child, I loved formality, especially since it allowed me to use different forks and spoons for different courses. I have Irish linen tablecloths with matching napkins now that I bought for cheap on eBay and have not yet used, but I hope to use them some day. I do have tables for them in Los Angeles, but not in Cathedral City, as I do not have a formal dining room there, and the only large dining table I have in CC is an outdoor table. Definitely dining in CC is much more informal than it could be in L.A., but I have found that many people, including friends, find formal dining to be uncomfortable, although that is not the intention at all. I am most comfortable with formal dining, and that is what I prefer, but I find that most people today are not. I guess I just like the ritual aspect of it. As a child, I liked the structure and rules of it....See MoreConsidering multiple proposals for AC &backup heat for our 95yo home
Comments (48)It wasn't who I was referring to. Desal plants make a lot of sense and I think over time there will be many more of them. There are several in operation in my state now, including one in Santa Barbara that was built, deactivated, and then brought back up again. Another in operation in Carlsbad. But I think you've contradicted yourself- it is just a normal drought summer as we have ever few years. The desal plant in Huntington Beach has been moving along slowly for decades. The project was able to move forward because of proactive step taken by Gov Newsom to replace a member on the voting body who was against the project with one who was for it. The California Coastal Commission, and other regional bodies up and down the state, have for too long been dominated by doctrinaire extremists lacking pragmatic understanding, who refuse to accept that barring and stalling reasonable proposals and advocating a constant status quo does no one any good. Approving nothing is no better than approving everything, there is a role to play that too often is missed. People with moderate views from both political parties are frustrated with their conduct time after time, have no doubt. Geothermal power plants that capture heat from fissures in the earth's crust in seismically active areas have little in common with ground source heat pumps used for HVAC in structures, as I'm sure you know. Feel free to rant on as you wish....See MoreMetro East
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