Advice to the Grieving
Alisande
8 years ago
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Comments (5)I'm sorry about your cousin's illness. I am so sorry that you feel all alone in this life and especially after he is gone. I agree with BrassTacks. Let him know how much you love him and do all you can for him now. You don't want to have any regrets later. No one will ever take the place of those whom we love who have gone before us, but there are many other people in this world whom we can love and be close to. There are a lot of very lonely people in this world who would love to have you as a friend. Someday, you will meet someone whom you will want to marry and spend the rest of your life with. You will also be able to have your very own children who will love you and you will love them more than you've ever loved anyone in this world. Don't give up on life. Although we all would rather keep our loved ones here with us, that's not the way it works in this life. You can always keep your cousin in your heart when he is no longer with you, and you will see him again someday when God is ready to take you to heaven. We will be here for you. You may want to "meet" my precious 19 year old daughter who has gone before me. Just click on her site. I can't wait to see her again! Lu Here is a link that might be useful: Christin Cosby Memorial Web Site...See MoreGrieving the loss of my mother
Comments (33)I am glad I found this site, to see that others feel the same as I do. I lost my mother last week, she passed away Feb 27, 2013 at the age of 65. My mother was my soul mate, she was my best friend and recently she felt like a daughter. I miss the sparkle in her eyes. She had been ill for about 8 years, on and off, and each time she seemed to get better. She always had such a great attitude and sense of humor. I thought she would get better this time too. I was her caretaker, along with my father for the last 2 years. Before that I worked with her and saw her every day. I have seen her or talked to her every day of my life. I am only 30 years old and I always thought I would have her around for another 20. I still feel like a child, and without her I feel lost. I don't have children yet, and I know that when I do it will be bitter-sweet because she is not here. The pain I feel is very intense and I am exhausted, I have only begun grieving and I wonder when it will end (but I see now that it never will). I am not sure what to make of all these strange feelings. A week before she passed away, angels came to me and told me that she would feel better by the end of the following week. Even though my interpretation was wrong, they were right, she does feel better. Since her passing she has been talking to me and that is a huge comfort, she tells me she is happy and that she will always be by my side. She tells me she is excited to meet her grandchildren. She has been telling me not to wait to live my life anymore, to have fun. She also said to think of her transition as a long vacation, we will see each other again when my flight lands. My story is so similar to all the others I have read, so I am sure your mothers are by your sides helping and guiding you through your lives. Talk to your mothers because they hear you and the love they feel for you is pure....See MoreUpdate.. help with grieving hisband...
Comments (6)Thanks for your thoughtfulness leogirl. Christmas was tough but we managed to have a beautiful and loving get together. My brother in law passed out framed pictures of my nephew to each and everyone of us with a beautiful memory poem attached. The pictures were all different and funny, saying they know "Peter is happy knowing he can still make us smile" o:) My husband is still extremely sad but I can see he is realizing he needs to try and resume his normal activities. My brother in law and his wife are still just going thought the motions that they have to, and have been in contact with MADD and getting a lot of outside support for there family. I think we all have a long road to hoe as the trial and all the legal crap will soon begin. I do count my blessings that we are close enough to offer all the support we can. I wrote my sister in law a letter on Christmas to let her know my feelings, it's amazing what you can put down in words to lift your spirits. Thank you all again for letting me ramble on here!! I wish that no one has to go through this kind of grieving....See MoreSympathy Letters
Comments (29)My DS had two 'best friends' from early grammar school on. Coins were flipped to determine who would be 'best man' at each one's wedding. One of these 'boys' died suddenly in late summer two years ago, leaving a widow and two children under 10. When I wrote to his parents, who live some distance from us, I spoke of the close connection and of the major (positive) role they and their son held in our lives. I also sent a card that Thanksgiving and at Christmas. (We don't 'do' cards in general.) Our DS traveled to their home in advance of the funeral and has kept in touch. I had never met this young man's wife, nor his children. To them, I sent a card with just a few lines of sympathy. We asked to be notified when a fund was set up for the family, expecting to contribute generously. Eventually, his parents responded that they'd unexpectedly discovered that their son had a large insurance policy -- no help needed beyond our continuing friendship. They were great parents, and he was a fine person. I would only go this far towards someone I had known and liked very well for some time....See Moresusanjf_gw
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