You are so sweet to recognize these milestones and put so much thought into gifts. I hope your family appreciates you! How nice to have so many happy events going on in your family.

For the new mom/grad, Petunia Picklebottom bags are super cute and merge the purse and diaper bag needs. http://www.zappos.com/petunia-pickle-bottom-women-bags~1

For your niece that earned the scholarship, I think your idea is very nice. Even just a card would be very kind, and save the gifts for graduation.

For the niece with the baby, how about a gift card to SpaFinder or a gift certificate for a salon in her area for some pampering. Any new mom would appreciate a few hours away getting a massage, mani-pedi, haircut, etc. If she lives nearby maybe you can volunteer to watch the baby while she's at the spa/salon.

For the oldest niece re a trip........a gift card from Marriott, Hilton, etc and she can decide where to go......or a gift certificate for a weekend at a specific bed and breakfast bed in an area you know she would like. (Not sure I'd send her to B'more yet!)

For the niece with the athletic scholarship I think something with the school logo is a great idea.

I really want to stay away from anything baby-related for a grad gift. We did get her many baby gifts-- I want the grad gift to be about her achievement-- or at least about her. I do like the idea of a spa gift cert but they are so young and need so much-- in many ways, that is when I'd MOST want to get a luxury gift but the reality is that it will be difficult for her to get away for a whole afternoon. (They've opted to stay where they are rather than moving close to family. I could go there for an afternoon but I am just not sure it's right for her.

I've been thinking about this for MONTHS and just keep coming up blank.

Thanks for the validation on the acceptance/commitment gift. I just want to mark the achievement and I thnk a small logo item is perfect.

Usually the athletic scholarship/signing comes with school logo gear. Maybe you can hint around on that first. You've got some great ideas! Was going to suggest Petunia Picklebottom. DD2 bought one before DGS was born. They are very cute and wear well. She had one of the Sashay bags, but they also make more handbag looking bags for when she won't have to carry as much.

For the one who just had the baby how about a cleaning service or maybe a meal service for a certain time frame. Don't know it is available where they live. It would be something helpful for them. BUT even though they seem to need a lot of other things as if I read your post correctly I think giving her something luxury is making it the most about her and I think would be very much appreciated too since it really would be the absolute last thing on their list probably. Can you think of something she might really want, but would never get because of other things they need? Maybe ask her mom for any ideas.

I don't mind getting her something luxury-- at all. I just don't think the spa gift cert is the way to go. I just don't think she'll appreciate the time-- and just making the time will be a big hassle for her. I don't think she'd go for a cleaning service either. She's 21.. these are just not things she appreciates at this point of her life. I'd be more inclined to get her jewelry or a great bag-- but as her mom pointed out, a great bag is so not what a new mother will carry and she's just not a jewelry lover. Truly of all the girls, she's the least appreciative of "the finer things". No need for food service-- I have her covered there. I delivered 10 meals (with plenty for leftovers) to her freezer and will be more to come-- I also brought them fresh fruit, bagels and such. I know she has two weddings coming up in August-- perhaps I'll take her shopping for a dress. It just doesn't feel special enough to mark a graduation.

Alison-- excellent point. I just dropped my sister a note to check on what she's already received (or purchased). Thanks!

For the new mother, I think your idea of a shopping trip for new clothes is an excellent one. You could go beyond the dress for the wedding idea and make the trip more about post-graduation wardrobe needs as defined by your niece.

A Mother Child Necklace? I had one gifted to me when my son was born and loved it. Example:

http://www.jared.com//en/jaredstore/mother---child®-necklace-14k-yellow-gold

That's a sweet keepsake, Justretired, but as I said I've done lots for her as a new mother. I have not marked her graduation from college. It is important to me that in addition to all that i/we have done for her as a new mother (and new adult, for that matter), that I mark her personal achievements in graduating college (and in fact, finishing early). Fun2B, I may end up taking her shopping but I will also try to think of a keepsake as well. I remember only a few gifts when I graduated -- but then I was going right on to grad school so most of the gifts were money.

I did check with my sister, thanks for noting that a commitment often comes with logo gifts, Allison! Sister told me a note was perfect and there was no need to gift her-- "but in case you don't listen to me, she has x, y and z" lol

Still working on gift ideas for the other grad-- but that will be relatively easy when I can focus.
Thank you all for your ideas and thoughts!

For the college bound one, a gift card for the schools bookstore.

For the graduate, a gift card to a store where she can buy work clothes.

Grad with new baby, a spa day.

For the college grad, that also just had baby, something just for her.... I do like the idea of jewelery, I am thinking a great cuff bracelet- not a necklace or earring because babies and toddlers grab at them. Or a great watch, or an apple watch- if she would like that. I also like the idea of leather if not a great bag what about boots, or a great leather jacket which she will have forever. I am pretty crazy for handwoven stuff lately someone posted a link to this weaving studio in a thread recently and I think one of their twisted shawls would be lovely and a keepsake too

I was just looking at Uncommon Goods for some graduation gift ideas (items with the quote "she believed she could so she did" and many others. You might take a look at their site for some ideas. Levenger has some nice pens, leather bags and other gift ideas. I also bought a couple of jewelry gifts at James Avery -- a Texas silvesmith celebrating 60 years. They are running a special where you get a free charm bracelet when you buy two charms.