I'm a bridesmaid and the bride is angry with me. Help!
excyntric
9 years ago
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Another update on Robyn ! I'm really angry !!!
Comments (9)Florence, I'm really sorry this isn't resolved yet and continues to bring her pain. I'm sure that watching it is very hard on you, you probably feel so helpless. Divorce sucks and the fact that it was him that wanted it and is now turning the kids against her is a huge slap in the face, I have some choice names for him, but surely can't put them here. Is she in PA? If she was in NJ, I have an awesome attorney. My guy would probably have him in contempt of something by now. You ask, if it's legal for him to do this. Probably. I don't know the specifics but sounds like she is getting an apartment & he is keeping the house, and when she called the truck to come, he probably figured she was almost done. I actually would do the same thing, especially if I was moving back in, which it sounds like he is doing. The thing is, he could have said that he needed her out by such & such and after that she'd need to make arrangements to get in due to the locks, but who knows, maybe he's afraid she would lock him out? IMO, Robyn is probably better off to just get her stuff and go. The sooner she does that, the sooner what ever kids will stay with him can get settled and if I'm right, they will see all too soon exactly who they should have lived with (not him.) Kids are strange. As you know I'm divorced twice; there's been times my son stood up for his dead beat instead of me, or my girl did so. Now that it's been years, the truth has come out and they know who was lying and who wasn't. It's funny how my girl is now remembering everything. Robyn has to learn to forgive the kids for what is going on now, as much as it hurts. Even though it sounds like they are older, they're still feeling this and probably don't know what to believe. Everything will work out in the end, it's just going to take time to get there. Rick will get his eventually. Karma is like that....See MoreI'm angry and need some advice
Comments (11)Sandy, Some ramblings FWIW... Just because these folks are going through the USDA APHIS permit process to obtain the leps doesn't mean that the USDA knows what they are doing with them, or would approve of it. The USDA has specific guidelines for leps that are used for public display. From what you've posted I doubt they are following them (at least not the requirements for an approved facility with public access). A search of the APHIS web site will direct you to those requirements if you want to compare them to what they are doing. As suggested a call to your local USDA would put the ball in their court to check it out. As for the livestock being wild collected instead of specifically reared for this purpose, good luck. Very few countries are governed with specific regulations like we are, and even if they do have regs in place they don't police them. With the increase in value of lepidoptera to collectors (some species bring sevral hundreds of dollars or more per specimen), many people in foreign countries make 100% of or at least subsidize their income by collecting wild leps and selling them to anybody who will pay the price. Even our own US Customs is a joke when it comes to lepidoptera as most agents don't know the specific regs as they pertain to leps, and all of them are uneducated in the species determinations of leps. They simply go by the inventory on the import document, and if none of the species listed is on their list of protected species they will simply pass them through. I doubt they even take a head count to match even the number in the package against the permit. You mentioned Costa Rica as the source of many (most) of the species they have in this display. FWIW, customs in Costa Rica is a division of the countries Department of Treasury, so their main purpose is to collect taxes on imports into the country. I doubt they would pay much attention to a non commercial package shipping out of their country. And like our own customs their agents probably have no clue about lepidoptera anyway. Way back when I actively did foreign species they were governed by our US Fish and Wildlife Department's Law Enforcements Division. They had very specific regulations for the import/export of lepidoptera that included all the "acts" to protect them (ESA, CITES, Lacy Act, etc). Even so as long as a package contained an approved import/export permit our customs portals would pass them through without question, even if the species were mislabeled or had been collected illegally, and it mattered not if they were papered adults or livestock. So the introduction of an invasive species was not a concern of customs. Has the USDA improved on the system? I doubt it, because it still comes down to the knowledge of the specific regs and species recognition of the customs agent who processes it at our customs portals. Selling leps is a big business worldwide. Is it exploiting a natural resource? It depends on if they are coming from wild collecting or from butterfly farms IMO. If wild collected stock is being sold for profit, yes IMO. If reared from pairings of farm raised adults specifically to sell that's not exploitation IMO. Are "legal" living butterfly exhibits exploiting a natural resource either way? Yes they are in the sense that a zoo does the exact same things. Only you can decide for yourself if the educational good of either out weighs the bad. Larry...See MoreI'm so damn angry at snowmobilers
Comments (15)We live in a rural area with a lot of property with woods and fields. People, not just kids, go up the hill to drink, drugs and sex, my neighbor riding her horse in broad daylight went past a car and 2 hineys smiled at her. I'm tired of it. The owner of the land thinks it's funny. He doesn't live out here just bought the property as an investment. If I now see someone going up the hill, I call the police. Someone kept breaking out the light at the corner of our property to darken the road. It stays clear for a while and then I call them again. The ATV's are not licensed for the road so by law are not to be on the road. If they're doing donuts on the road in front of my house, I go out, tell them they don't live in this area and to leave or I'll call the police. I get to ride my broom year round now. Respecting people's property is being done less and less. I pay the house payment, I pay the taxes and I'll be **** if they are going to tear up my property and road, throw their bottles and cans around and yell like crazy. We live in a nice area and I want it to stay that way. If rural, there's the sheriff and county commissioner for your area. When approached as to what can be done or what would they do if done by their house, I get help. Lynn...See MoreNeed more help from my bridesmaids
Comments (31)Do you actually have the dress in your possession? It looks like from that pic of the back that it's fully lined, at least from the waist down. If there are cups in the front, there surely has to be some lining there, too, because the way it's cut it doesn't look like the lining would start at the waist in the front. It really just looks like it's more sheer in the upper part of the back where you don't need lining or a slip. Hopefully one of those backless bustiers will work perfectly and it won't need a slip or lining....See Moreexcyntric
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