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9 years ago

If this were still GW HD Conversations I would be fine, telling you all that my heart is breaking because my 57 YO cousin had a stroke and died. But here, I feel scared and alone. I dont expect replies but I need to share how very very sad I am

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localeater
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9 years ago

Thank you all so much for your support. I have made the travel arrangements for my mum, and myself . And have a plan so I feel more together.

Being able to share helped me move forward. Thank you all.

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jdez
9 years ago
You're still with the same crowd, just moved to a different room. I'm sorry about your cousin. You're in my prayers.
DLM2000-GW
9 years ago
I'm sorry for your loss, localeater - a sudden death like that at such a young age is so tragic.
As jdez said, it's still the same crowd. I've seen a few new names, mostly Pros, popping in but please don't let that worry you - I'm sure they understand our history and will be respectful of our more private conversations.
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maddielee
9 years ago
I am so sorry.

Peace

ML
Bethpen
9 years ago
Localeater, I'm so sorry for your loss, heartbreaking. I sort of feel like this place is a little more open, but I think it's still a safe place.

XO
jlc712
9 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. 57 is quite young, and I'm sure it is a terrible shock. Sending you my best wishes.

I am gradually getting more used to being here, and it seems like most GW HD members have found their way here, though posting has been slow. Please don't feel alone, there are many people here to support you. Change is so hard, even in the best of circumstances. I'm sorry you're dealing with the uncertainty of these changes while you're grieving.
daisychain01
9 years ago
(((((localeater)))))

We're here. It was finding out about Brutuses passing that made me try to stick it out here even tho it does feel uncomfortable. It sort of made me realize that what we have here is real, not just virtual. I didn't have any personal dealings with Brutuses, but I knew her name and respected her as part of the group. I felt if I just walked away without trying my life would be less rich. I hope talking about your loss here and knowing we are still here for you, helps a tiny bit.
morz8 - Washington Coast
9 years ago
I've been a GW member many years, but have only recently begun visiting here, having purchased a new home and finding an interest in decorating again....

But please let me extend my sympathies for the loss of your cousin and assure you we understand. I'm so sorry for your pain.
rosesstink
9 years ago
I'm so very sorry about your cousin.

Things will settle in here eventually. Many old members are still here. Don't give up.
flowerpwr45
9 years ago
My condolences. Even lurkers are still here...
mojomom
9 years ago
I usually just lurk too, but you're not alone. So sorry for your loss. Lean on our collective shoulders. We are here for you.
riosamba
9 years ago
What a shock. I am so sorry for your loss.
Irish2
9 years ago
I'm sorry for your loss, local eater.

I'm usually a daily visitor to this forum though I rarely post a comment and have yet to seek advice...but I have learned many things and most not relative to decorating per se....grateful for my virtual GW friends.
Merrygardener
9 years ago
**Sending a tight hug to your heart**
bpath
9 years ago
Oh, localeater, sending you warm hugs. 57 is too young...I'm 57. Wishing you comfort in these tough days.
User
9 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. Saying a prayer for you and your family.
OllieJane
9 years ago
I am so very sorry about your cousin. So young and I'm sure such a shock. I still don't feel very comfortable here yet either-hopefully that will change with time. Giving it a chance though. I happened upon a post a couple of days ago that I wrote about my mom over 2 years ago and read the replies; they meant so much to me when I read each and every one again. Hope you get some comfort too.
blfenton
9 years ago
localeater - I am so sorry about your cousin. So young. (((hugs)))

The more names that I see that I recognize the more comfortable I feel.
You're not alone. We're all here for you.
romy718
9 years ago
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Very sorry for your loss & you're in my prayers also.
Springroz
9 years ago
I can feel your pain all the way over here. I hope you can feel my hug.(((())))
User
9 years ago
So very sorry about the loss of your cousin. It must have been a terrible blow to her nuclear family and they will surely be comforted by the presence of you and your mother at the funeral and wake.
User
9 years ago
Very sorry for your loss
OutsidePlaying
9 years ago
I am so sorry you lost your cousin way too early and so suddenly. May you continue to receive comfort and peace in your grief by your friends and family.
naturalpalette
9 years ago
My sympathies and best wishes to you as well.
dedtired
9 years ago
How sad. I am very sorry for you and your family. What a heartbreak.
roarah
9 years ago
I am sorry. I hope being together with loved ones and sharing wonderful memories will help comfort you during this sad time.
JennaVaNowSC
9 years ago
So very sorry for your loss.
Fun2BHere
9 years ago
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Sending hugs to you in sympathy for your loss.
Lyban zone 4
9 years ago
Don.t feel alone, we are all here.

Hugs to you and your mom.
joaniepoanie
9 years ago
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
Holly- Kay
9 years ago
(((Hugs))). I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope you will feel some comfort from your friends here.
gsciencechick
9 years ago
Very sorry to hear of your loss.
debrak_2008
9 years ago
You have my sympathies on your loss.
User
9 years ago
LocalEater, I am so very sorry for your loss. Sudden losses are so much harder to accept, but especially someone so young. A childhood girlfriend lost her hubby while on vacation a week ago. I still don't know how, but it's such a shock. My heart goes out to you. Praying for comfort in your families time of loss.
MtnRdRedux
9 years ago
Local eater, so sorry to hear this tragic news.

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