Spending Breakdown
rjexit5
9 years ago
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randy427
9 years agoemma
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Economic breakdown: anyone holding on to their $$....
Comments (6)We've never had a large budget to play with... we raised 3 kids on what seemed like next to nothing, use the barter system as much as we can, and consider ourselves to be pretty frugal... even though our lives feel like one big string of bad luck, we manage fairly well. We'll probably never be rich, even if our supplement business does take off... but I'd much rather be broke, happy and at peace, than loaded and completely frazzled and too busy to take time out for my family and gardening. My spending money actually comes from throwing all my pennies and silver change, along with a few paper dollars, in a jar... I forget about it, and don't ever touch it, until it's time to spend on that plant I've been drooling over. You'd be surprised at how fast that change can add up, if you don't dip into it for anything other than your hobbies, that is! My jar is my "plant fund". I spend it only on orchids and tender bulbs, which I also collect. In just over 6 months time, I managed to amass over $72 in paper and silver... and my husband was sweet enough to throw in a little extra for the orchid show! I went in with just under a hundred dollars, spent around $60, and then had to throw the leftover $40 towards a new alternator for the car... just one more piece of that bad luck that keeps following us around! Instead of getting that latte or ice cream, I throw a few dollars into my jar... and I even stoop so low as to pick up pennies in parking lots... after all, a hundred of them still equal a dollar! Since we don't have stocks and bonds, and we don't gamble with the real estate market or have any other funds tied up in the financial mess out there, I don't think the economic crunch will affect us too badly... other than higher taxes everywhere. If I can raise 3 kids on a very frugal budget, getting by should be easy for the two of us!...See MoreCaregiver Wife And Nervous Breakdown
Comments (2)This is a terrible situation to be in. It does sound as if your wife is deeply depressed and breaking down under the strain. Unfortunately, when people are depressed they aren't very rational and it can be extremely challenging to change fixed notions. You are lucky that it appears your in-laws are encouraging your wife to get away for a while. You might have some luck if you remind your wife that her collapse in her parents' home is adding to their pain and burden. Ironically, by pushing herself to the breaking point, she is now making their lives more difficult by adding one more point of concern. This argument might get some traction with her as it's a form of selfishness she might not have sufficiently considered. If you can talk her out of the country, then her time with you is an ideal opportunity to come up with an action plan that's more balanced and manageable before she returns. Your MIL's treatment center should be able to suggest respite resources to assist. It is crucial your wife schedule breaks in her duties. Otherwise she's no good to her parents or to herself. You have my sympathy. It must be incredibly difficult for you to be so far away, unable to offer the support you so badly want to provide....See MoreTell me I'm normal.Almost done but daily breakdowns fm stress
Comments (19)I think part of the reason that all of this is so stressful is that "most people" dont get it, and so it is hard to vent anywhere but here. My friends are so polite, and so supportive, but I can still see in their eyes that they "dont get it." My boyfriend has slowly come to realize that though he doesn't get it (doesn't get the stress, and doesn't get why each decision and each hurdle I jump means so much), he's better off being quietly supportive. I just about died the day that the hood went in, and he walked through the door, and just said "huh- it's crooked" and then was not happy with the buttons. I think when I told him that he was welcome to pick out a new one if he wanted to buy it, he realized he'd taken the wrong tactic. :) It is stressful to have your house torn apart, to have to make a ton of decisions, and to worry about the money you might be wasting if those decisions are wrong. People with GC's and a crew have to deal with one type of stress, and DIY-ers have to worry about no hand holding or bail-outs. I'm doing a bit of each, and I'm glad for the balance, really. So no, you are not alone. Like everything else worthwhile, a big remodel comes with a cost. But think about what you'll have in the end!!!!!!...See MoreBreakdown
Comments (28)I completely agree with Ima's first post. I went through almost the exact same situation with my FSD. It is completely normal for her age and being from a divorced home. She's probably used to being doted on by her dad and is transitioning out of being a "little girl" to bevcoming a pre-teen. My FDH and I fought for years about this. He never listened to me until BM said something. Then he realized what was going on and that boundaries had to be placed. It took a long time for the boundaries to go up, and then things started becoming more normal. Probably when she was like 11. She is 13 now and has moved away. She visits, but I am seeing the same things return. Like she lays all over my bed. When I tell her to get off my bed she goes "why?" Or she "hunts" down her dad to ask him a stupid question like "can I go ride my bike". By "hunt" I mean she will knock on every door, even the bathroom doors, to find him. Also, she's doing that whispering thing again where she whispers questions to her dad even when all of us are in the same room. Having experienced this now, I'm thinking it's some sort of separaton thing. I think that once relationships are established, her visits will be less stressful. Also, my FSD was wearing a bra at 9 and started her period at 11. I definitely believe girls are maturing much faster than they used to. KKNY also had some great advice on summer programs for the kids....See Morerjexit5
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