"Ole JL never passes an opportunity to make a condescending remark, don't know why he wastes his time on this obviously Creaton forum.... " First, a mechanical engineer by trade should be able to spell cretin. Second, no one on this or any other forum is a cretin. A cretin is a stupid, vulgar, or insensitive person. It was cretinous of you to make that remark. "Never passes an opportunity... really? If YOU do a search on this and other GardenWeb forums you'll find that I have quite a number of posts offering help and answers to questions only on rare occasion bite and then only when I am attacked. As a mechanical engineer by trade I would expect you to be more accurate in your criticism of me. My post was not condescending. It said EXACTLY what it said for the exact reason I posted it with no ambiguity whatsoever.. This is a self-help forum not a you look it up for me cause I'm too lazy to do it myself forum LawnJohnSilver seems a nice guy and in both this thread and a very lengthy thread he previously started http://forums2.gardenweb.com/forums/load/tractor/msg051535173462.html continuously posts questions to which the answers are a few keystrokes away. He's done it again and again and again yet never seems to bother to get the answers himself and it has been pointed out to him before that the answers to his questions are at his fingertips but he continues to ask those questions and anticipates those answers. If you want to be a poster's secretary and do their grunt work then go right ahead. When he's asked a challenging question myself and others on this forum have been quick to give him the answer without reservation. No one will learn anything as long as they get other people do their work for them. Not knowing the answer to a question is one thing, but not getting the answer to that question when they can Google as well as anyone else is another entirely. It is abusing the forum and the people who take the time to help those who ask for help and appreciate that help. There is a difference between being ignorant and lazy.

Ha. My Ex actually linked up with SM at a daycare where my children were going. He left me for her, and actually it was humorous to see her thinking she knew more about raising children than I did. He, after divorcing me, married her, and she was their stepmom. And actually I did see after I got over my anger that she was a pretty good person. Eleven years later she left my ex by moving in with and finally marrying his ex best friend. My Ex was livid, of course. Ha Ha. I could have used that to the hilt. It was sad to me to watch SM try to have a relationship with our children, and my Ex and now also her Ex also tried to stop that relationship with everything in his being. I was now the one who held all the power. I could have blown her out of the water. And you know what, many people told me here is the biatch who stole your husband pay her back. It was actually one of my daughters' friends who said to me, SM is really trying hard here, give her some slack. That statement made me think. And the friend was right. It did make sense. There was no reason why I should stand in the way of a relationship simply because my Ex moved on, or was forced to move on. I have been married to my second husband for 15 years now, a marriage that I think will go on until we die. My EX is now into his third marriage, and now what I say to my girls is this. Your dad's new wife is in fact your stepmother, but it isn't the same this time for you. They are 20 now. And yes first SM, and her mom and her dad and her sisters and all their children have special times with "my" kids, and none of them wanted to say goodbye. I say you are all more than welcome because that is what my girls want. Is it hard? You bet you it is hard. It is likely the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. But when you have kids it isn't about you anymore is it.

Louise L. Hay resonates with me, we do create our own reality. Henry Rollins speaks of the inability of letting go, it's a problem for many, but it can be done.

The fastest-growing hedge in Florida is Clusia Rosea or the Pitch Apple plant. Purchase in 3 or 7-gallon containers. It will grow faster than podocarpus and has no issue with pests. They are the go-to hedge plant since the cities in SWFLA have prohibited Ficus Hedges because of their invasive qualities. Drought tolerant The recommended spacing is 1 foot apart for the 3g clusias, 1.5 apart for the 7g clusias, 2.5 feet apart for the 15g clusias and 4 feet apart for the 25g clusias. Once in the trench and they are looking good remember that clusias love the sandy soil and this will not be a problem.