I hope she gets the care she needs. It's very scary as a parent to hear these stories. Even if your kid isn't on the social media, the other kids are and "talking" behind her back and she knows something is going on. Schools need to stiffen the penalties for cyber-bullying as much as physical bullying - I don't know, maybe the state has to get involved, if it takes charging kids with a misdemeanor, or issuing restraining orders to prevent driving another kid to suicide then that's what it takes! DS is 15, has always been a thoughtful, sensitive, private kid with a few close friends, not into the "popular" activities but seems to be happy, is definitely busy with Scouts, track, and church. I don't know what other kids may be saying about him, but at least he doesn't know either - or doesn't care. He is going to camp counselor training in a few weeks, and then to National Youth Leadership training for Scouts, hopefully next summer he will get a job at the Scout camp. OK, I'm bragging I guess but I think he's a good role model, and I *think* he's not at risk for depression. DD is 5 years younger and starting puberty - she has 2 very close friends, and watching others coming up to her after school concert she seems to be "popular" but again doesn't have the same interests as many her age (she's also almost a year older than everyone else in her grade, both kids are Nov birthdays and we decided to start DD later than DS since he had been in daycare/preschool and was an early reader, she was a late talker/potty trainer). She's more sensitive to peer pressure - I suppose girls usually are? I wouldn't pull her out to HS unless I thought there was a serious problem, I want to wait to see if she keeps/makes friends in middle school. I hope that keeping her in Scouts will help - if the leaders can keep a group of girls aware of the problems that bullying can cause, and keep them believing in their own value in spite of other people (peers, even some siblings and parents I know of) telling them otherwise. Girl Scouts just doesn't seem to be as organized as Boy Scouts though, and not too many girls seem to keep up with it through middle and high school, from what I can tell by the size of the troops in our town. But "mean girls" start early - DD ran into one her first day of kindergarten. Add a mean teacher, and in 1st grade she was begging me to HS her! At least 2nd - 4th she has regained her love of school, is actually disappointed to have only a few days left this year.

Thanks Tami doesn't look like we will be in Ohio this year or next....a big job down by my sis's or back on this pipeline but going to wyoming....ack....stacy

Good thoughts and hopes for early, full and uncomplicated healing and low stress for both of you. Prayers offered for the above. (((((husband and terilyn))))) ole joyful

Hugs to all of you who are experiencing illness themselves or coping with illness in their family. I hope you have all the support you need. I logged on at 9:00AM yesterday and was blown away by over a dozen well wishes which had been posted on Monday mornng in addition to the resonses from the weekend. I shared this thread with my oldest daughter who I think rolls her eyes when I mention someone or something from the forums. I think you understand the the term "stranger friends". My youngest had the mastectomy. The oldest is so impressed by the depth of concern and generosity of this group, and so am I every day. If you need something, ask the group. It is so wow! Heritagehd07, I hope you are doing well. so sorry about you and your mother. moosemac, at first part of me felt exactly the same as you about my baby's beautiful body, but I understood her decision. My daughter chose to have a double mastectomy because she felt she would not be able to handle the anxiety of frequent mammograms and testing, She is the same beautiful loving daughter, sister, mother, wife. Besides she didn't have boobz when I got her. I am so sorry that the last several years have been so rough for your daughter. I am no expert by any means, but message me about whatever. Bunny, thank you. You and your daughter have such resilient spirits. It has been reassuring to learn about your daughter's recovery. May it continue to go well. Raee, the bandages will stay on at least until my daughter sees the plastic surgeon on Monday to have 2 of the drains removed. I will get her the cream in case bandages are removed and changed to remove the drains. Annie, I will show my daughter the knited knockers. see what she thinks. I am not sure she needs them since whe has temporaries.