Oh my.,,, just made a big mistake

10 years ago

I changed to my "maiden name", after my divorce, May 2011.

Today, I signed up to help with a bike service, to help put older bikes in working condition for people that need them for transportation.

YIKES, I signed up with my former, married name... where in the heck, did that come from?

Did this happen to you, after your divorce?

Moni

PS, I was legally using that for 38 years.

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pekemom
10 years ago
No, not divorced, but soon after I was married, in 1970, 23 yrs old,
I was on the phone to someone and I gave my maiden name, then
stopped and said "Oh, I forgot, I got married, my name now is....."
I bet they thought I was a real airhead...no, just a real blonde :)
pattico_gw
10 years ago
I don't know if this fits you Moni....

but it could mean that some of the anger is going away...

because if you were angry you'd make sure you wouldn't use it...lol
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jemdandy
10 years ago
No mistake - just doin' what came naturally.
bee0hio
10 years ago
Kinda takes you aback, eh? LOL

Mine was a slightly different twist:
I remember when I came back to work after maternity leave, I signed my name on a patient's chart with my *maiden* name...I'd been married 3 years! I LOL'd.
rhizo_1 (North AL) zone 7
10 years ago
I still have a reflex reaction to sign my maiden name or initials....after eleven years of marriage, lol. I had to sign my name a billion times in my work and can't give up the habit. Truth is, I didn't want to take his name when I got married for professional reasons but he was hurt by the idea. I've never regretted my decision but old habits......
rob333 (zone 7b)
10 years ago
I didn't go back. I kept my name the same as my SON's. He'd had enough changes and alienation, I wasn't going to add to it. I know he thought it was because I wasn't over him, but I sure as heck was. Yes, I still write my maiden name every now and again, but I have to be really tired. I never even used it as my middle name.

For you, I assume old habits die hard. Not that big of a mistake. You're just not back into the swing of your real name.

:)
chisue
10 years ago
For months after I had quit as girl of all work at my hometown newspaper I answered the phone at home with, "Herald".

My current 'name' problem is learning to respond to my legal first name, when I've never been called by it -- only my middle name, Sue. Social Security, Medicare, doctors, hospitals, even the airlines -- all 'know' me as my legal first and last names. I've written my medical information on the back of my driver's license, along with, "I'm called Sue."
rob333 (zone 7b)
10 years ago
Now that one I have done plenty (answered the phone like I was at work instead of home)!
curlysue
10 years ago
I have been divorced for 22 years, I have never remarried but have been with SO for 20 years. I still have my married name. In the beginning it was because my kids were young and I didn't want to confuse them, after they grew up I figured what difference does it make. Anyway I have signed my maiden name, actually it has happened in the last few weeks and I haven't used my maiden name 30 plus years. Shat happens

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