Well, dining out for lunch, by myself, and this man came up to me

glenda_al

16 years ago

and asked if he could share the booth with me.

Place was unusually busy, for a Sunday, and seating was limited.

So of course I politely said YES!

He's 73, a widower

I'm 71, and single

He's still a practicing backruptcy attorney

The father of my son is a retired attorney

He likes to dance

I enjoy dancing

He and I root for the same college football team

He's never been on a cruise and WANTS TO

I'm a cruiser

etc etc etc

Walked me to my car and asked if he could call me sometime.

I said "of course"

The rest is WAIT AND SEE

He could pass as Walter Mathau's twin

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ruthieg__tx
16 years ago
You go Glenda........just be careful.........we don't want any hanky panky ........
patti43
16 years ago
Well, we know where Glenda will be eating lunch from now on!! LOL! How exciting.
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kacram
16 years ago
Lol ruthie!

well, well, well!
nice way to meet someone!
Marcia Thornley
16 years ago
Wow Glenda, that man is probably thanking his lucky stars that the restaurant was as busy as it was. This sounds like a great match. Have fun!
Terri_PacNW
16 years ago
How exciting..it's nice to be flattered with good conversation.

Sounds like a great day..
marilyn_c
16 years ago
Hanky panky be damned! :-)) Happy for you, Glenda. He sounds like a nice man. It's always nice to have a man friend.
monica_pa Grieves
16 years ago
Hey...go for it.
wildchild
16 years ago
That's so nice Glenda. It's great that you made a new friend whether he becomes one with benefits or something more or not.
Good for you.
deemarie5500
16 years ago
WOW, that was a really nice afternoon for you!
User
16 years ago
That's Wonderful Glenda, Have fun.

P.S. Don't lend him any $$, be careful
lydia1959
16 years ago
Sounds like it was meant to be! Keep us updated, okay??
Mystical Manns
16 years ago
That's pretty neat! I hope you get together soon ...
lindaohnowga
16 years ago
Perfect lunch. You know we will be waiting to read "chapter two".
glenda_al
Original Author
16 years ago
IF, there is a chapter two!

lol, he kept telling me his wife died 4 years ago in '66. He said that at least 3 times, before I asked, if she died in '66.

Then he corrected himself, but had to think FIRST and say it as '06.

So we'll see!
hounds_x_two
16 years ago
What fun! Please keep us updated.
nodakgal
16 years ago
Two thumbs up here!
kayjones
16 years ago
As MAXINE, the cartoon character would say: "he's breathing, so he's a good catch!"

I am so happy and excited for you - it couldn't happen to a nicer LADY!!!

Tell him you have MANY sisters who have their eyes on him, so he'd better be deserving of you!
glenda_al
Original Author
16 years ago
IF he remembers , lol!
socks
16 years ago
Well, well, well! Nice!
Jasdip
16 years ago
That's fantastic Glenda!
You'd better tell us everything as it happens! LOL
User
16 years ago
I may just have to have a "Romance" page on Our website!
caroline94535
16 years ago
What a lucky day for him; he got to meet you, Glenda.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that "he's worthy!"
carol_in_california
16 years ago
So, what did you have for lunch?
And did you get his phone number?
Sounds like a great way to spend a Sunday afternoon while lunching.
glenda_al
Original Author
16 years ago
Senior day at fish food chain. Funny, he recognized we ordered the same thing :o) and he was right behind me when we ordered.
rhizo_1 (North AL) zone 7
16 years ago
BE CAREFUL!
terilyn
16 years ago
My,my,my, Ms Glenda! Sounds like fun is coming on your next cruise!
fran1523
16 years ago
Glenda, I am 68 and have just started a new romance too. We'll have to compare notes as time goes on. Best wishes to you. It's crazy, wonderful and painful all at the same time.
susie53_gw
16 years ago
You go, girl!!!!!!!!!!!
lisa_fla
16 years ago
Wow-it sounds like a movie!! Hoping he calls SOON! Does he like peanut butter too? LOL
rileyireland
16 years ago
How awesome!!

Walter Mathau is so cute!

Let us know when he calls. How exciting!!
jemdandy
16 years ago
Just for grins, Google his name and see what pops out of the woodwork. A possible error in judgement could be made if he has a popular name. You may uncover several different persons with the same name and none of those be him.

Did he give you enough information that you could find a telephone number listed for him? That's one way to check to see if the location he said he lives at checks with the address of the phone number.

If you should find him by using Google, you may find comments posted by him at a number of sites. These comments will give you a better idea about him. For example, my adult son has rejected religion, but did not make a concrete statement about what his beliefs were. I found comments he had posted on the internet that shows he is an avowed atheist and he has posted some strong arguments why he feels that way, statements that he would not express to his parents. Employers use this technique when screening a potential hiree.
jel48
15 years ago
Good for you Glenda. I guess you do have to be careful... but don't be too careful :-) He sounds like a nice man. You could end up with a new friend, or more. And in the meantime, it sounds like you really had a fun day! Your post made me smile :-)
Jasdip
15 years ago
A dear friend of mine met a fellow recently. They are both retired, and this is her first romance since her husband died 6 years ago.
She and her new man spoke a bit on the phone several, several months ago, and she wasn't interested in him. She decided to give him another chance, and once they talked some more and met, they've been inseparable on weekends, ever since.

So good luck, and I hope he calls!
brightonborn
15 years ago
Glad to hear this Glenda...hope it turns out to be a new friendship for you.
NanaCherie
15 years ago
WOW lunch and Walmart!!! Great day...sounds like it might have been meant to be!!! Sayin a quick prayer for you to have a new cruise partner!!:O)
Linda Wayman
15 years ago
Sounds like fate, Glenda. My best thoughts for you.
marry
15 years ago
How nice!! It's always nice to meet a new friend! And who knows..............
ruthieg__tx
15 years ago
Glenda, I came back to see if there was an update and thought I would tell you about the hanky panky.....it's ok on the second date, and I had some concern with the memory issue so think quick so you can help him remember how to do it....don't forget we want an update.
margad
15 years ago
Good luck Glenda. Be sure and keep us informed.
schoolhouse_gw
15 years ago
My mom met someone 4yrs. after my dad died. He was from a nearby town and was a truck driver, she was 70 and he was 72. They dated for a few months, and one day she mentioned that "Joe" had "stayed over". I was surprised at her. She said to me, "Well, it was bound to happen sooner or later!". I just never thought of my Mom in that way. ha.

They got married soon after and that was 11yrs. ago. Both needed each other and are still very happy.
jel48
15 years ago
Ruthie! You shocked me! I thought it was the third date!

LOL!
wanda_va
15 years ago
Glenda, I hope it works out! You deserve to have a wonderful man in your life. Keep us posted!!
donna_oh
15 years ago
LOL Ruthie!!

OK Ms Legs, can't wait to hear what happens! Have fun---

Donna (^_^)
nola_anne
15 years ago
Wow, glenda...sounds just like 'in the movies'!

Your feet have been off the ground ever since, I am sure...

Hope 'something' comes of this for you, IF you want it to!

nola anne
jannie
15 years ago
Sounds very promising! Let us know when you hear from him!
kayjones
15 years ago
Of course, we want a PICTURE of the two of you!!!! Oh, it's just like a fairy tale.
dollydolots
15 years ago
Hi Glenda
Hope he loves to eat. You are such a good cook have sooo many good recipes.
Good Luck
Dolly
sooey
15 years ago
Oh My...I think I'm blushing. This sounds interesting, fun and wonderful. Keep us posted!

sooey
izzie
15 years ago
Have you Googled him yet?
neesie
15 years ago
How sweet!

Well, dining out for lunch, by myself, and this man came up to me

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