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Getting going in the morning

13 years ago

Here I sit at 9:40 in the morning, still not dressed. I got up about 7:45 and have had my breakfast but can't motivate myself to get my shower. Am I just lazy or what??? Do you have this problem?

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YogaLady1948
13 years ago
Yes, since I retired 3 years ago~~my morning routine is very different from when I worked, but I enjoy the laziness of it. It is 8am now, early for me to be up, drinking coffee and on here~~today will be an in day (I stay home the whole day). I am chatting with DH for a bit will soon go up to our room and start a new book I bought. The kitty will come with me and I will be in heaven for several hours.

Namaste
jkayd_il5
Original Author
13 years ago
Oh YogaLady I'm so glad I'm not the only one. When I worked I jumped, and I mean jumped, out of bed, ran to the shower and had a quick breakfast. I don't want to do that anymore.

I'm now showered and dressed in sweats. Have a dentist appointment this afternoon so will have to "really get dressed no sweats", and make up on then.

Thanks for helping me feel less guilty.
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Chi
13 years ago
I work so I have to be up at 6 am and out the door by 6:30. I overslept till 6:15 this morning so I had to really hustle.

However, on the weekends, I am very lazy in the morning. I still get up by 8 but it's not abnormal to stay in my pajamas all day. :) I don't like when I have something I have to do early on the weekends. It's my time to decompress.

Enjoy it! I am jealous. I really hate having to wake up early to go to work. Only 35 more years to go, sigh...
tami_ohio
13 years ago
No you are not alone! At least during the week when DH isn't home, I wake up turn on the weather channel (habit from when my kids were in school) watch that for awhile then get up and get online to see what I missed over night! Some mornings I don't get dressed or have breakfast until almost noon which I really shouldn't do. As I am cleaning like crazy for DS's wedding and the out of town company. I have had to get moving a little earlier this week. Taking a quick break now. I got tired of standing on my head and toting stuff around! If I didn't have horizontal surface itis it wouldn't be such a job!
rob333 (zone 7b)
13 years ago
I'm betting since you don't want to, but you're worried about it, you're not "allowing" yourself to enjoy taking your time. Hope you don't feel guilty about what you've so rightfully earned. Enjoy lolling about when you can. You've rushed enough! It's your turn to be leisurely.
angelaid
13 years ago
I have a horrible time getting up and going, especially in the winter when I have to get up in the dark and get home in the dark.
pianolady2008
13 years ago
Since we retired we get up around 7:30 and just drink coffee and do whatever we please. I don't usually take a shower and get dressed until around noon. This is what retirement is for. Right?? : )
Hellion
13 years ago
Yes, retirement is just do what you want and when you want. Sweet.
blfenton
13 years ago
I start 6 days of the week exercising. Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday I start at 7:45 and run for an hour with 3 girlfriends and on Mon, Wed and Fri I am at the gym by 7 for a 45 min workout with a trainer. Now, don't be too impressed because then I come home and I can stay in my workout gear (like right now) until 10:00 or 11, drinking my coffee, reading the paper, checking GW, talking to my mom on the phone....And I can easily spend the afternoon reading a book.

I'm glad I'm not the only one that is like this. I actually enjoy my low-key life.
bigfoot_liz
13 years ago
UGH I hate getting up in the A.M. I am a night person but I have to get up at 5am Mon-Fri to take of the furkids & get to workout before work then get to work by 7:30am. We have a standing vet appt every sat @ 9am so I sleep in a bit then but I know I need to get my furgirls to their laser therapy which helps them feel better, so I have no trouble getting going for them. Sundays I like to sleep in till 9am but my DH does not, for a few months now he has been bribbing me to get up early & out the door by 8-9am by going to eat breakfast at Keke's a breakfast place w healthy options. Ocassionally that does not work LOL but that means he will be a PIA all day them!

To help myself in the morning, I shower at night, go to bed w wet hair, letting it air dry and waking up w perfect wavy curls so all i need to do is wash up, put on some makeup and I am ready in 15-20 minutes. I have also found my hair is far easier to deal w this way, I am not fighting the curl & frizz like I have to if I wash & wear. It has also been easier to get the furkids to cooperate in the a.m.'s if I stick to the new routine (DH started working-living in Tampa Dec 2012).

For some reason, what tends to hold me up is getting in the shower LOL so I get fancy shower gels, remind myself it saves me 30+ minutes showering at night & how nice my hair comes out air dried LOL etc...every once in awhile I still can not get myself in the shower at night LOL I then have to get up even earlier :-( ~ liz
glenda_al
13 years ago
M-F my alarm is set for 8:55 am
I get up quickly, do the necessities, then put on my swimsuit and am at the Y by 9:20ish for water aerobics.
Come home around 11 and have my one cup of coffee, then dress for the day and gone until 2;30 or 3:00.

Saturdays, I sleep and get up whenever, usually 10ish.
Sundays, I awake around 9:15, wash hair, cup of coffee then dress for Bible Study at 10:45.
OklaMoni
13 years ago
Alarm starts screaming at 5:30 AM. Up, dress, turn on the computer and the tv. Make my breakfast, read email, listen to the news, then brush my teeth and now, with the cooler mornings dress warm, put on the helmet, the helmet headlight and tail lights, shoes on, bike out of the garage, and then I ride my bike to work in the dark.

I shower in the evening. Usually way dirty from working in the yard... :)

On the weekends, I usually wake up at 5:30 to 5:45, get up, and do the same as on weekdays, but leave the house later to meet others for a bike ride.

Pretty boring life overall, but I am very content.

Moni
maxmom96
13 years ago
I also used to get up at 5:30 or 6 and be wide awake and eager to get out the door. Since I retired about 15 years ago, unfortunately I am not able to sleep past 6. It's just too much of a habit, and my body aches if I stay in bed any longer. I long to be able to loll in bed till 9 or 10, but just can't. After the paper and breakfast, I hit the computer and can find all kinds of excuses not to get dressed.

Any housework I do is done with my nightie on as I can work up a sweat doing nothing, so I have to wait to cool down before showering. That is IF I do any work. I'm also good at finding all kinds of reasons not to do housework. Good thing I live alone!
linda_in_iowa
13 years ago
I had to get up at 6 a.m. for many years when I worked. I have been retired for 6 years and I rarely get up before 8. It depends on one of my cats who meows loudly outside my bedroom door. There are mornings that she lets me sleep until 9:15. My dog who sleeps in a crate never wakes me up. Once I am up and have fed my animals, I am free to lounge around reading the morning paper and eating breakfast. Then I am on the computer. I may not shower and get dressed until noon or 1 p.m. just depending on what I have to do that day. In the winter, when we have snow on the ground and I don't have to go out, I stay in my pjs all day. I have a friend who is around 90 and she can hardly believe that I do that. I sometimes quilt for do light housework in my robe. I deserve it.

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