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Anyone else sleepless wherever you are?

10 years ago

12:58 a.m., and I can't sleep. Dogs are snuggled in, one is snoring. I hope everyone else is sleeping soundly.

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OklaMoni
10 years ago
I was sleeping soundly. But woke up way before the alarm.... and just laid there this time.

Now, got to get ready for work.

Moni
rob333 (zone 7b)
10 years ago
I was up all night! Aaaalll night. Until 3:30 am. If I'd known someone else was up, I'd have been over here. I could've kept you company.
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sooo funny you posted last night..was up about then, lol...I "do" up and down, too...
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I have trouble sleeping frequently. I will wake up at 2:30-3:00 am and not be able to get back to sleep. I come in and get on the computer for awhile. Sometimes I can get back to sleep and sometimes I stay up.
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I rarely sleep through the night. I used to be an 8 hour a night sleeper, and didn't do well during the day if I got less.

These days, I'm lucky if I get 6, and it's usually more like 5.

I go to sleep between 9 and 10:30 and will wake up between 1:30 and 3:00. Sometimes I go back to bed, and sometimes I don't.

I don't like sleeping later either, and anything after 8 is sleeping late. I'm a morning person, and feel the day is half gone.
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Sue Long
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Hi Glenda....doubt if you remember me.....was here years ago when you were here as well....I see a few familiar names!
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sueh, HOWDY, definitely remember you!
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Glad you remember me! Hope you've been well!

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