My cousin Terry didn't make it.

17 years ago

I received word this afternoon that my cousin Terry has died.

This doesn't change my belief in the power of prayer. Before my daughter Jill died people were praying for her all over the world. I realized that the outcome, though not what we wanted, is what was supposed to happen. Her soul, through whatever reasoning, was ready to leave this earth. It was hard to understand then, and it's hard to understand Terry's departure now. But I have to believe it was meant to be.

Thank you all again.

Susan

Terry (on the right) and me, October last year:

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nicki_in_niles
17 years ago
I'm so very sorry. Sending you and your family big, big hugs.

Nicki
cheryl_ok
17 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss
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okwriter
17 years ago
Susan,
I'm so sorry to hear that news. Your faith is strong, and I know that will sustain you during this time of sorrow. Thank you for sharing Terry's story with us---it serves as a reminder that every moment is precious.
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summer_tx
17 years ago
What a sad day for you and your family Susan. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your dear cousin. Your memories will be more precious than ever. My sincere sypathies.
gardenspice
17 years ago
I'm so sorry.
Sending my best thoughts to you and the rest of your family.
Nita__AZ
17 years ago
I am so sorry Susan. Keep her close to your heart and relive all the fun things you used to do together.

My condolences go out to you, her family and friends.
evatx
17 years ago
I'm so sorry! I will keep you and the rest of Terry's family in my thoughts.
trinitytx
17 years ago
I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family.
When I saw the picture, you two could have passed for sisters.
Keep the memories alive, and know that the time you had together was special.

Trin
clubm
17 years ago
I'm so sorry.
gemini40
17 years ago
Sorry for your loss.

june
caflowerluver
17 years ago
I am sorry for your loss.
Clare
debnfla8b
17 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss.

I also think you two could have been sisters!

Deb
Toni S
17 years ago
What a sad day. I'm sorry.
wantoretire_did
17 years ago
So very sorry Susan.............
jahalaro
17 years ago
Susan, my sympathies to you and all your family. I used to take hope from some of your posts when I lost my son 3 years ago and I have come to share your belief that our souls leave this world when it is their time. I am sure Terry and your daughter are together and will be near you always. Beth
tralynn
17 years ago
I'm so glad that you have faith. Sometimes it is the only thing that gets you through the very tough times. You really could pass for sisters. Will keep you and her family in my thoughts and prayers.
lulie___wayne
17 years ago
I'm very sorry, Susan. You two look so much alike.
Yes, Terry and Jill are together.
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wildchild
17 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss Susan.
User
17 years ago
Susan,
This is sad news to hear - I am sorry for the loss of Terry. She was in good hands I'm sure but I agree with you in that God has called her Home. You will see her again.
My condolences to you, family and her friends.
May God bless.
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vicki_lv_nv
17 years ago

I am so very sorry.
lindyluwho
17 years ago
Please accept my deepest sympathy. What a terrible loss.

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mombondo
17 years ago
Susan I am so sorry for your loss.
kittiemom
17 years ago
Sending my sympathy for your loss.
marilyn_c
17 years ago
I'm so very sorry, Susan.
donna37
17 years ago
Sorry for your loss. (((Susan)))
ruthieg__tx
17 years ago
I'm so sorry, She was so young and pretty.
intherain
17 years ago
What a beautiful picture of you and Terry! My heart is aching for you right now. I am so very sorry.

Sheryl
Lindsey_CA
17 years ago
My heartfelt sympathies to you and to Terry's family. I am so sorry for your loss.
msmarion
17 years ago
I'm so sorry. Sending special thoughts to you.
tannatonk23_fl_z9a
17 years ago
Susan, I am so sorry for your loss. You certainly have a wonderful attitude and you know you will all be together again someday. Terry looks like she could have been your sister. My sincere sympathies to you all.
~Betsy
mrsmarv
17 years ago
Susan ~ I am so sorry to hear of your dear cousin Terry's passing. I hope you and your family can find comfort from each other during this time.

(((Nora)))
gazania_gw
17 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. In the picture, you two look like 2 peas in a pod. What a nightmare her loved ones have gone through these past few weeks. My thoughts go out to all who loved her.
cheerful1_gw
17 years ago
Susan - I'm very sorry for your loss.
frazoo
17 years ago
My sincere sympathies to you and to Terry's family. Such a sad loss.

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Vique_Pa
17 years ago
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17 years ago
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17 years ago
i am so very sorry for your loss
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czech_chick
17 years ago
You have my heart-felt sympathy for the loss of your cousin Terry.

May you find peace with time.

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Granlan_TX
17 years ago
What a sweet picture of the two of you, Susan. I know your dear cousin will remain within your heart and memories forever.

(((((Susan)))))
tami_ohio
17 years ago
You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Tami
Mickey15
17 years ago
I'm so sorry.
((Susan))
jayokie
17 years ago
May God's love give you peace.
minivanmom
17 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. She's at peace now.

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vannie
17 years ago
I am so sorry for you and the whole family. We don't understand these things, but I'm not really sure we're supposed to. I think it's all a matter of faith. God bless you all.
alisande
Original Author
17 years ago
You are all wonderful. A friend who doesn't understand the concept of an online community was astonished when I told her there were 47 replies to my post. Now it's up to 70.

This very special online community has truly lifted my spirits over the past week. Thank you ever so much.

Susan
hallngarden
17 years ago
Susan, so very sorry for you and your family. I have been drawn back several times to the beautiful picture of you and Terry. You look like sisters. Know that you and Terry had a very strong bond. Will continue to pray for you and your family. Thank you for posting the beautiful picture.
roseluver
17 years ago
Love and prayers, Charlene
hounds_x_two
17 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss.
Know you and yours will be in my prayers.
lucinda_grow
17 years ago
Sorry for your loss
mcmann
17 years ago
Susan,

I am so sorry to hear about your cousin Terri. It sounded so promising at first so this must be even more devastating. It's reassuring to hear your words of faith - that this was meant to be. I hope your strong beliefs will help you through this difficult time. I'll be thinking about you and keeping Terri's family in my prayers.

My cousin Terry didn't make it.

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