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Sure could use some extra thoughts

14 years ago

I know I don't always post, but I do read. Just don't know what to say sometimes. Anyway, just in a deep funk, and trying to dig myself out. There's sooo much death and illness around me, and it's soo close. As you all know, I lost my daughter 2 years ago (never will get over THIS), well I've had 2 Sister-in-laws that I was really close to die. My brother was given 6 mos from kidney/bladder cancer. Another sis-in-law is stage 4 lung cancer spread to her spine with multiple breaks. Now, my husband is given 6-20 months for liver cancer. We're TRYING to get on the transplant list. I'm on 2 different antidepressants, but seems like nothing is helping! All I wanna do is sit in my room and cry. Just can you please spare a few thoughts and prayers for me???!!! Thanks!

Comments (47)

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, I am SO SORRY for all your pain and will SURELY pray for you! Don't forget to PRAY for yourself - HE is there and will get you through these difficult times. If you need to talk to someone who has been in your shoes, PLEASE - email me!

  • 14 years ago

    (((jamie)))

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  • 14 years ago

    Ah Jamie, I am so, so sorry. Please know that my thoughts are with you today as they have been every day since you lost your Rachel. Be strong.

    Jodi-

  • 14 years ago

    My thoughts and prayers are with you, Jamie. Hold on tight!

    jude

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, you just have too darned much on your plate right now. Hopefully, our caring thoughts going out to you will help ease the load a bit. Take care of yourself.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie:

    My heart aches for you as I read your post. You have my prayers for you and all of your family that's going through so much. May God bless you and fill your heart with peace.

    Shirley

  • 14 years ago

    Oh my God, my heart aches for you. Sending lots of prayers and hoping for the best!

  • 14 years ago

    ((((Jamie)))) I'm so sorry.

  • 14 years ago

    I'm very sorry. I can imagine that your meds are not working, your struggles are large. I will be praying for you.

  • 14 years ago

    I was thinking of you not too long ago because I hadn't seen you post in awhile. Such heartache for you, prayers to you from me also.

  • 14 years ago

    Wow, Jamie. How much is a person supposed to take?
    I'm thinking of you as well, and I'm sure the strength of the Table will help get you through the days.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please seek some help from the hospital social worker or other support group. You can't do this alone and there are so many people willing to help. Do you have anyone with you? Hospice is another place for you to get some support even if nobody in your family is using Hospice. Take care of yourself. Satine

  • 14 years ago

    Big hugs and my best thoughts go out to you.

    Please consider following Satine's advice about getting outside support.

    ((((Jamie))))

  • 14 years ago

    So much for you to cope with. ((((hugs))))

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, you and your husband are in my prayers daily.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie I was also wondering how you were doing. thanks for letting us know.As heartbreaking as it is for you remember we are all saying prayers to help you get through this most difficult time. Hang in Jamie...so sorry.
    \ June

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie I was also wondering how you were doing. thanks for letting us know.As heartbreaking as it is for you remember we are all saying prayers to help you get through this most difficult time. Hang in Jamie...so sorry.
    \ June

  • 14 years ago

    My heart aches for you, Jamie. My thoughts and prayers are with you tonight.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, you have my prayers. So sorry.

  • 14 years ago

    I am so sorry. Keeping you on my mind and in my prayers.

  • 14 years ago

    Thanks sooo much yall! I do see a counselor and mental health Dr. hence the meds. You know it's bad when he tells you, "Are you SURE you're not suicidal, cause with all you have going on, I could see it happening" Nope, nope, nope, not suicidal, just depressed, and in a funk! I want it all to STOP! All the illness, and death. There's only sooo much one can take.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie I think about you often. I am so sorry to hear about all that is going on around you. Please take Satine's advice about seeking support. This is a lot to get through alone.

    Hugs to you! I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers.

  • 14 years ago

    And please come here to vent as often as you need to. You have had to deal with so much more than most of us.

  • 14 years ago

    Girl I am so so sorry .I pray for God to touch you right now and give you strength to endure.Lots of hugs.

  • 14 years ago

    (((((((Jamesters)))))))))) I don't know what to saY. We are here for you to come and release your thoughts to. I'm so sorry for everything.

    How is your SON handling everything. It must be so horrible for him ...

  • 14 years ago

    My prayers for you are going out too. I so hope you have more positive things in your life soon.

    Sue

  • 14 years ago

    I am so so sorry that this is happening in your life. Sending many many good thoughts and prayers for the strength to keep fighting back. (((((HUGS for Jamie)))))

  • 14 years ago

    ((((Jamie))))) So sorry... that is a LOT to deal with! Sending may best thoughts and lots of prayers your way!

  • 14 years ago

    So, so sorry Jamie. So much to cope with. You'll be in my thoughts and prayer. Hang in there.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, I remember when you lost your precious daughter, and I believe you when you say you will never get over that. But there is hope that the pain will drift to the edges and make space for happier times.

    My one suggestion in these sad times is to remember the Serenity Prayer. I have it on a small plaque on the wall near my stove, and today I realized I was reading it for the umpteenth time. Even though I know it by heart, I still read it twice. Maybe there was a reason for that; someone in my path today would need to be reminded of those words. Now I know that it was you.

    Just a suggestion: take some time out and google The Serenity Prayer and you will find information that you would have never thought about, as to the origin, etc. Good reading, and it will give you something new to think about.

    The Serenity Prayer
    God grant me
    the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
    the Courage to change the things I can,
    and the Wisdom to know the difference;

    It is my mantra when times get tough.

    Blessings.

    Sue

  • 14 years ago

    I'm so very sorry.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie - I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  • 14 years ago

    Aw, Pookie. I hate that you're going thru all this. Big hugs, sweetie.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, you have been through the gauntlet. My sympathies to you. I know depression can be a real bear to overcome. One book my BIL shared with me advised that the best way to cope with depression is to get out and DO something. I think just making yourself take a daily walk around the neighborhood would help. Try it and see.

  • 14 years ago

    Of course you want to cry and cry, who wouldn't? You're feeling isolated as you bear the burden of watching all this happen and yet have no control not to mention the huge amount of fear you must feel. It's just not fair and yet these and worse things happen to so many. I think all you can do is what you're capable of on a daily basis. Seeing a counselor is key and it's okay to be very sad and angry. I'm offering prayers for you, your husband and family members. You're smart to reach out. Just hold your husbands hand and pray together. It will ease some of the burden he's hiding too. God bless you.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, there's not much more for me to say, that the others have not already said. Just know that you and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, please remember we are all here for you with loving hearts.

  • 14 years ago

    Thank you ALL sooo much. It means a lot!

  • 14 years ago

    Jamie, I'm so very sorry! You know He says He'll never give us more than we can handle, but, during times like this, you have to wonder.

    My heartfelt prayers to you and your family. Hang in there, darlin'. There have to be brighter days ahead.

    Gale_TX

  • 14 years ago

    Oh my Jamie, what a heavy load!!! I'm so sorry to hear all this and I understand how you will always grieve about the loss of your daughter.

    You are in my special thoughts. Hugs from me, too.

  • 14 years ago

    Oh, Jamie. Please know that I think of you and have been praying for you since your sweet daughter passed. I wish you had some little ones in your life because they are good at forcing you to smile when you don't feel like it. Keep on your doctor to switch up your meds if the current ones aren't helping--do you think a support group might help a bit? Please do keep posting so we can talk with you as much as you need/want.

  • 14 years ago

    ((((((Jamie))))))

  • 14 years ago

    Sending you hugs. One thing that no one has mentioned but does help some people, is to look to nature. Just being outside in a garden, park etc where it is quiet, looking at the flowers, plants, animals, birds does help me when I need it. Pick up some copies of Birds and Blooms, or other magazines from Remain. They have some wonderful stories, pictures that do put life in perspective. If you need some, just ask. Many of us do subscribe and will be glad to send you a few.
    Marie

  • 14 years ago

    Well, you know, it IS Too Much! I'm so sorry.

    Others have offered great advice here. Much of it boils down to remembering to continue to LIVE your life.

    My mother died a long, lingering death from leukemia. I was emotionally exhausted and grieving. However...our dog still had to be walked twice a day, and his zest for the smallest things we encountered outdoors finally got through to me. LIFE was still 'out there' and 'in me'.

    Take a walk. It can't hurt.

  • 14 years ago

    Gosh, don't know how I missed this post Jamie. My heart goes out to you. ((((Jamie))))

  • 14 years ago

    I missed this post too. Jamie , I remember when you lost your daughter. What you are going thru now is way too much to not expect you to be depressed. I'm hoping you will come here and share and let us help you in any way we can. Take care of yourself. My thoughts are with you and your whole family.

  • 14 years ago

    i'd be flat on the floor...you are allowed to grieve and mourn the losses..that's natural...but you also have a great reason to hang on..caring for dh and other family members...

    my favorite spot to release? the shower...learned it from my dear cousin who lost her dh and then herself...she said it was the warm water that helped her release the tears...it's still my place to go, in the good times as well...

    tons of love, prayers, and hugs...

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