he is so much better... here is a bit taken from the care pages that his mom and dad blog on... "m so glad that we are in a better place. Now picking up the pieces w/ therapy and hopefully that surgery to correct his paralysis of the left side of his face. I still remember the doctors from the beginning asking exactly how far we were willing to go to save our son...i just want to go and pretty much say look! he's alive and cancer free! take that! they told us that he would not make it 6 months. Everyday they pretty much drilled that into us. Lol...maybe it's better we never see those docs again! doesn't matter at the end of the day as we are in a better place:)Anyways off to do house work and figure out some dinner:)" he has to have some surgery on his face and in his throat... it has been a miracle it seems that he is still here...

lonepiper its fine... its just that when KKNY and TOS get involved in a post it always goes back to children of divorce should be coddled for the rest of their lives and they are not held accountable for any of their actions its always the adult's fault never the child's fault. officer pulls you over ... You get out of the car "playfully swat" him on the shoulder and say hey buddy F U ... what is that officer going to do? Is he going to perceive it as "friendly behavior" or his he going to place you under arrest for assault? and disorderly conduct? Child forgets homework... teacher says you are going to stay after school for not doing your homework... child says "you can't tell me what to do ... you're not my mother!!" then "playfully swats" teacher on the shoulder what happens to that child? Children should be treated like children and taught be respectful of all adults within reason... they should be told that you can tell a stranger to go pound tar. Anyone who touches them in bathing suit area needs to be disrespected and they need to tell an adult. They need to be taught to be afraid of strangers and be on the look out for molesters ... they should be taught how to become decent adults... they cannot swear at you hit you or other wise disrepect you Yes respect is fear ... fear of the unknown... Everyone one has said ... I would never do "that" my mother would kill me!!! would your mom really kill you NO but you were never really sure. Babies momma = saint hood. Babies daddy = trust fund.

I stopped buying anything for SD. I am the type that when I am out shopping, I'll see something on sale (especially clearance) & want to find a reason to buy it... and since my kids are grown, I have no reason to buy the cute dresses for little girls or baby stuff. But since marryihg DH, I used to come home all the time with some great finds... stuff I thought was cute & got it cheap. Also, I'd buy her toys & things for her birthday & Christmas because DH wants to get her practical things & well, he is basically a cheap ass. (always saying he is broke, has no money) So, for years I have bought for her to make up for her parents not doing anything for her... also making her birthday parties, etc. Then, since she has done nothing but complain about me to her mom & grandma... and since the things I have bought her seem to disappear... either she loses them, they get torn up right away or she "forgot" where she put them... I have to assume she doesn't want the things I buy her. Not going to waste my money, time or effort on someone that rejects it. I feel bad for her but she has made her decision on how she is going to treat me & how she wants her life to be. I won't hold my breath for her to change. (even last year when I saw that DH only bought her a few presents for Christmas that no kid would get excited over.. clothes & a new comforter, I went out at the last minute & got her a bunch of toys that she loved... of course, she thanked DH for them & at that point, I decided to not tell her that I got them for her. Otherwise, she may have cast them aside & I would have felt I wasted my money & time. But, this year I may buy her a gift but I am not stepping in to make DH look better or try to make up for her parents not doing what she wants them to. It's funny that I get a little sad when I pass the girls department & see things I would love to buy... but my little girl is grown & I will just have to wait until I have a little granddaughter to spoil. For now, I spend more time in the baby boy section of the store finding cute things for DGS. I think it's funny/sad that she is asking to be in a foster home. Doesn't she understand that foster kids live where they are placed, not necessarily in a place that they will enjoy. In fact, they sometimes get moved around a lot & have to adapt to several different lifestyles. To me, that was something I couldn't let happen to DGS. If I hadn't stepped up, he would be in the foster care system. lol, I don't know if SD is bi polar but she too acts weird. She hasn't talked to me in three days, got in the car this morning & we drove 7 miles to her bus stop & she sat there with a sour look on her face until we got to the stop & she changed into a bouncy, bubbly, happy mood & cheerfully said "hope you have a great weekend!". I was unprepared & didn't say anything except "you too." but I am guessing that she wanted to be told to have a great weekend, like someone actually cares if she does or not. Kinda like telling her mom "I love you" just so her mom will say it back to her.... cause we all know, he mom sure doesn't SHOW it. It is all really sad.

Jen is well, but very very busy with her family, job and taking real estate courses. I'll tell her you're asking about her, bRAT.