Don and dear Missy, I'm sending you love and positive thoughts to help you and the other cats through this sad, sad time. I know the rooms seem emptier and feeding time is all wrong with one bowl missng..... The good things are: you gave him a loving and safe home to live out his life AND you did NOT LET HIM SUFFER. When your hearts are breaking, you will mercifully remember that and you will find solace in knowing you did the right and courageous thing. If you have little Shepard's Crook and small hanging lantern, you could mark his resting place each evening with the glowing flame from a little tea candle. It will help you feel better when you peek out the window and see that little glow in the night......(I'm still doing that for Teapot...) I love you both very much and will say little prayers for you and Max.....I'm so, so sorry.... KJ

gabro - no offense taken in any way - we are good. The hard part about writing something down is that meaning - unless spefically written - must be implied. I got what you are saying and it makes perfect sense. But in no way have I made excuses, condoned or apoplogized for anyones bad behavior. My purpose on this forum is to help people. Most of the focus is usually on the pet, but most of the work and most of the problems have to do with the owner, not the pet :-) If someone here is having a hard time and needing to vent, it is not up to me to determine where that should be done. SG - has been abusive, in reading and remembering past posts I know Sg has been severly abused, and I know that abusive victims act out in adulthood. Those are facts, they are meant to educate not excuse behavior. Thats it nothing more. I dont attatch anything personal or emotional to the majority of my posts. For pkguy - As adults I would think it would be up to each person visiting this forum to be able to determine if a posting or the contents of a posting is something they want to contribute to. I prefer to contribute what I know in the hopes of helping make the lives of pet owners and pet better. Not to lash out in just because the OP did. In my mind it is a waste of energy and not helpful to anyone. So disclaimers should be in your head and your intent. If a poster wants to respond in a third grade manner so be it. Im not here to dictate anything. I know what I know and I learn alot here - some from SG. It seems a shame that SG can not seperate emotional responses from logical responses - but like I wrote before SG is not the only one here who has replied or posted something that is dripping in emotion. I dont see where in any of SG's posting there is an expectation or pleas of sympathy or understanding. SG stated facts about how SG was feeling and to let us know because of those feelings SG is not coming back - period. There is no plea for understanding or sympathy. As far as my take on this, I dont ask you to apply sympathy or empathy to SG's issues - Im just put out there that maybe ther is another reason for SG's outburst and instead of acting in a third grade manner by kicking back and taking your ball home and refusing to play anymore that people step back for a second and consider that SG's outburst might be because of past abuse and not due to wanting attention or being spoiled or having an uncontrolled ego trip. Thats it nothing more.

boxerpup, I'm a little late reading this but still want to send my heartfelt sympathies and say that I love that beautiful face. What many people don't understand is that losing a well loved pet is like losing a family member. I've lost many pets over the years and I now have four boys who's ages are 14, 11 and two are 9. I see age creeping up on them every day, especially the 14 year old and it breaks my heart to think of losing them. Unfortunately that is part of loving and having pets. I would rather love and be loved by a pet and endure the hurt tho than to do without the joy and love that they bring into our lives and it sounds like C brought plenty of both into yours. C will live in your heart and your memories forever and no other dog will ever take her place as she has her own special nook in your heart belonging to her alone. I'm sure, tho, there is still room in your heart for another furbaby to make it's place one day.

All of the design and decorating kudos go to the GF! My son just went along and paid the bills..lol..she bought some stuff too.. and my DH and I just helped with the free labor!!! She really has decorated the house beautifully and on a budget.. in all areas except the floor they stayed in the budget we worked out prior to the purchase! Here are a few more b/4 and after.. dining room before.. I still have to get a new pic from that angle.. but next two you can get the idea after living room beforeonce again.. different angle.. but LR after - no more french doors, and wider opening master bath before.. REALLY UGLY!!! This is after.. but before the vanity and mirror were put in.. one wall of all subway tile, my husband did!! And crummy acrylic shower was replaced with tiled with frameless door.